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Everyone has a fear of something, even if they do not want to admit it. Whether this fear is as real as the dog down the street or as existential as death, we are all afraid of something. Usually we discuss fear in the context of failure or rejection, but there is a fear that is just as crippling even though we all want it...a fear of success.

To succeed means to overcome the odds thrown at you, to make the best of your situation, or (gods forbid) rising above even you wildest expectations. Why would this situation, or even the mere fantasy of this situation, cripple us with fear and hesitation? Well, Nelson Mandela had something to say about this at his inaugural address:


"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented or fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be?Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

I have always found this quote from Mandela to be so inspirational whether I am being faced with a failure or a success because it is 100% true. We are often told as children that we can do what ever it is that we want to do, but how many of us actually do that? How many of us call the shots in our own lives? I know that many of the warriors of this forum do and that scares people. When I tell people that I run my own online business they often look at me with skepticism and apprehension saying things like "that's not a real job," or "why don't you get a real job?"

Instead of letting these comments get to me, I simply nod and smile because I know that success makes them uncomfortable just like it makes me uncomfortable sometimes. I usually keep these conversations very short.

This is why I feel that the WF is so amazing. So many people tell us that there is no way to make money online, and if you do, you are scamming someone. While there are scammers amongst us, I feel that our successes do make others feel insecure and that is where their hostility must come from. However, I hope that my fellow warriors keep inspiring people to be financially independent (like you all have inspired me to keep going even though I fall flat on my ass sometimes) to be better and not to be afraid of making their dreams come true. This way of making a living is one of the few ways that is not completely regulated by "the system" and it is important that we keep that alive and strong.



Our power comes from within, from our successes as well as our failures and the true testament of courage is to face the day with a willingness to take the bad with the good and to make the best of our situations.

Keep on succeeding and do not let the fear of success hold you back!

Have a great rest of your day,
Kayla
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  • Profile picture of the author Nic Oliver
    Hey Kayla,

    I love that quote too - did you know that Nelson Mandela got it from "A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"" by Marianne Williamson.

    The book is well worth reading.

    Some people fear success because they are scared they may not be worthy; others fear it because they are worried that they will have to repeat the success and that people will scorn them if they don't!

    Warm regards

    Nic
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    • Profile picture of the author kayshaw
      Originally Posted by Nic Oliver View Post

      Hey Kayla,

      I love that quote too - did you know that Nelson Mandela got it from "A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"" by Marianne Williamson.
      Hi Nic,
      No I did not realize that it was from another book. Bad English minor...Bad! lol I will definitely check that out.
      Thank you!
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  • Profile picture of the author kimfal
    That is so true and everyday I see people saying they are not afraid of success but their actions and what comes out of their mouth proves otherwise.

    I try not to tell anyone what I do, because "everyone" I tell has something to say about it!!! And I am getting tired of having to defend myself and everyone else making money on the internet.

    Yet, all my friends buy deals and what not from the internet, putting money in somebody's pockets...lol...Smh is all I can do!
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  • Profile picture of the author buckeyes09
    Hey, you stole that quote from Coach Carter.

    Seriously, yes, you'd think that the last thing people would be scared of is success, especially on this forum. But there it is. Perhaps it's just change of which they are scared?
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    • Profile picture of the author Chloe Emerson
      Originally Posted by buckeyes09 View Post

      Hey, you stole that quote from Coach Carter.

      Seriously, yes, you'd think that the last thing people would be scared of is success, especially on this forum. But there it is. Perhaps it's just change of which they are scared?
      I would agree with this - success brings change, and people are generally afraid of change, the unknown...safer to stay in their comfort zone even if they are miserable there.

      Nothing of value was ever achieved without taking the initial risk
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      • Profile picture of the author kayshaw
        Originally Posted by Chloe Emerson View Post

        I would agree with this - success brings change, and people are generally afraid of change, the unknown...safer to stay in their comfort zone even if they are miserable there.

        Nothing of value was ever achieved without taking the initial risk
        I agree with Chloe and Christian. I think that change is absolutely part of it. Imagine if you made an extra $100,000 dollars this year. I mean that would drastically change my life and everything with it. That is scary, even though its good.
        Thanks for commenting!
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        Kayla
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        • Profile picture of the author Salesforce
          I dis agree to the pt.people love to have success.They are only scared of retaining it.
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          • Profile picture of the author kayshaw
            Originally Posted by Million Dollar JVs View Post

            I dis agree to the pt.people love to have success.They are only scared of retaining it.
            Hey, that's a really great point to! I'll make sure to address that from now on when I'm writing on the subject!
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  • Profile picture of the author RobbieT
    Hey Kayla, thanks for sharing some of your thoughts.

    Most of our fear is generated by the unknown. If you have been bitten by a dog then your fear is whether the next dog you meet up with will bite you. You just don't know if it will.

    I think this is why if a person has had wealth and loses it they are not afraid to try again. They have tried success and they know that whilst it can bring both pleasure and pain it is much better than not trying to be successful

    Take good care of those that you love.

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  • Profile picture of the author Paul Barrs
    Originally Posted by kayshaw View Post


    [LEFT][SIZE=4][I]"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented or fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be?Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

    Just what I needed for today, following a conversation with an associate who was struggling. I'm going to share your post around

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    great tips...
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  • Profile picture of the author IMoptimizer
    Indeed, fear of success seems to be almost as frequent than the fear of failure. But we don't seem to identify it, because it doesn't really "make sense" to us (i.e. why would someone be afraid of success?).

    But the fact that it's so subtle and so buried into our subconscious doesn't make it less real...
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