What's the most important thing life has taught you about yourself?

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As the title says, I'm intrigued about the lessons life teaches us.

For me, it's that I can do it, In 1990, at the peak of the last recession, I left a secure job in the civil service to become self-employed. People told me I couldn't do it but I survived that recession and am doing well in this one - I have been blessed!

What's the most important lesson life has taught you?
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  • Profile picture of the author Will Edwards
    Life has taught me that most things don't matter in the grand scheme of things. Whatever your difficulty, if it doesn't kill you, it will make you stronger.

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    • Profile picture of the author Nic Oliver
      Originally Posted by Will Edwards View Post

      Life has taught me that most things don't matter in the grand scheme of things. Whatever your difficulty, if it doesn't kill you, it will make you stronger.

      Will
      Will - you are so right - my mother died when I was young, which has taught me a sense of perspective!

      Robbie- careful saying that - it's not exactly popular these days, with people wanting success without effort!

      Aaron (great to find another Bristolian!) - summed up perhaps as "where there's breath there's hope"? I like that!

      Thanks guys

      Nic
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    • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
      Originally Posted by Will Edwards View Post

      Life has taught me that most things don't matter in the grand scheme of things. Whatever your difficulty, if it doesn't kill you, it will make you stronger.

      Will
      This is a bit off topic, but I just wanted to say: Kelly Clarkson!

      Her song, "Stronger" is great! I love the line, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!"
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  • Profile picture of the author RobbieT
    I have learnt over time that with life you need to play the game...you only get out what you put in!

    As someone once said "the harder I worked the luckier I got"

    Take good care of those that you love.

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  • Profile picture of the author AaronMorton
    That as long as im still breathing there is still a chance ill get to where i want to be.

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  • Profile picture of the author kayshaw
    Hi Nic,
    Thank you for posting this question as it is very important to remember the good and the bad lessons that life has to teach us.

    I feel that the single most profound lesson I learned was while I was volunteering for hospice. I had been visiting an elderly man for over 4 months and its funny how quickly two strangers can become companions when there is something as imminent as death bringing them together. On our last visit I noticed that he was very agitated and was trying to tell me something. I cut our session short to let him rest, but for the life of me I don't know why I didn't say a formal goodbye directly to him, but to his family. As soon as I got in my car I knew he was going to die and to my everlasting shame I did not turn that car around and tell him goodbye. He did die four days later.

    That lesson taught me to always tell the people that you know and care about goodbye every time you part.

    Frith,
    Kayla
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    • Profile picture of the author wangui
      Wow. a simple word like that can make a difference. I agree totally.
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  • Profile picture of the author pstrachocki
    Life has taught me that I can do anything I put my mind to.
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  • Profile picture of the author GT
    Life has taught me that if you pull yourself back up and keep moving forward every time you get knocked down, you will be rewarded. The reward might be success, it might be greater strength, or skill, or simply greater confidence – but you will be rewarded in some way.

    I suppose the principle is, "You never fail until you stop trying."

    GT
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  • Profile picture of the author AppsFromHome
    That's a loaded question!

    Some great answers already....I think theres plenty more to learn but the main thing is that you have to not take yourself to seriously, but work hard, have fun, and appreciate what you have.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nic Oliver
    Kay - I know what you mean. I never had the chance to say goodbye to my mum when she died - closure is so important.

    pstrachocki - you are absolutely right. Your quote echoes the famous Henry Ford quote: "Whether you believe you can or that you cannot, you're right!"

    GT - thanks for reminding us of that simple but often forgotten truth!

    SDotSpells - Have fun - now you're talking!
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  • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
    A few life lessons I've learned:

    1) Fear is not real. It feels real, it looks real, but it's almost always an illusion in the mind, and it does not control me, unless I choose to let it. I've learned a variety of techniques to reduce or remove fear and when I experienced my first conscious shift out of fear, I realized from that moment that I COULD live the life I desire.

    2) Being happy or sad, rich or poor, fat or thin, shy or outgoing, etc is totally a choice. I've lost 30 pounds almost effortlessly last year, I used to be tremendously unhappy years ago, and less than 6 months ago, I went from being thousands of dollars in debt, not knowing how I was pay to 2 months rent in a matter of days and a no more than $30 on me to completely paying off all of it in one fell swoop. No joke!

    3) The impossible IS possible. There is always a way out, regardless! But often times we are too busy focusing on the problem that we don't see the solution. The money situation at the time was not exactly the most enjoyable experience, but I got through it, and it proved to me that as long as we don't give up and as long as we believe there is a solution, we CAN succeed!
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    • Profile picture of the author Nic Oliver
      Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

      A few life lessons I've learned:

      1) Fear is not real. It feels real, it looks real, but it's almost always an illusion in the mind, and it does not control me, unless I choose to let it. I've learned a variety of techniques to reduce or remove fear and when I experienced my first conscious shift out of fear, I realized from that moment that I COULD live the life I desire.

      2) Being happy or sad, rich or poor, fat or thin, shy or outgoing, etc is totally a choice. I've lost 30 pounds almost effortlessly last year, I used to be tremendously unhappy years ago, and less than 6 months ago, I went from being thousands of dollars in debt, not knowing how I was pay to 2 months rent in a matter of days and a no more than $30 on me to completely paying off all of it in one fell swoop. No joke!

      3) The impossible IS possible. There is always a way out, regardless! But often times we are too busy focusing on the problem that we don't see the solution. The money situation at the time was not exactly the most enjoyable experience, but I got through it, and it proved to me that as long as we don't give up and as long as we believe there is a solution, we CAN succeed!
      Thank you Jason for such a comprehensive answer!
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  • Profile picture of the author CharlesFords
    That I need to love and take care much about my self.. To take care my health so I can also take care my love ones.. And not to give up to all the obstacles that come on my ways..
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    • Profile picture of the author Nic Oliver
      Originally Posted by CharlesFords View Post

      That I need to love and take care much about my self.. To take care my health so I can also take care my love ones.. And not to give up to all the obstacles that come on my ways..
      Charles... ain't that the truth; it's so easy to give to others and neglect ourselves!
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    inspiring thread....great share
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
     
     
     
    That anything can be overcome. And, even make you into a better person because of it. (Been dealing with social anxiety, depression, suicide, etc.)
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  • Profile picture of the author TopKat22
    When you think you just can't go on, that you cannot bear this, that you will not recover from this thing.....somehow, you do.

    That the only way to fail is to stop.

    That even if you start from less than nothing and are told you are going to die in 6 months and that there is no hope at all, that you CAN make it and that even 5 top specialist doctors can be wrong or that your will can be stronger than their diagnosis.

    You CAN, against all odds, achieve goals you set for yourself.

    You CAN survive creating millions of dollars only to have it all destroyed and lost and be at less than nothing again and YOU CAN, start again and create it all over again.

    But from all this, the main life lesson I have learned is that when all is said and done, whether you have millions of dollars, live in a mansion, fly in private jets and socialize with celebrities or have nothing, live in a mobile home and barely get by, the people who truly love you will be there NO MATTER WHAT and it won't matter to them at all, one way or the other as long as you are happy.
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  • Profile picture of the author IMoptimizer
    Here's what life has taught me about myself:

    1) Discovering oneself is a continual process. The idea of "knowing thyself" and searching for answers and solutions within (instead of looking outwards) is extremely powerful - and the basis of most spiritual teachings...

    By finding out more about myself, I find it easier to understand and relate to other people.

    2) Fear is nothing but a state of mind. Yes, that fear IS real, but when you realize that you have power over it, it becomes less scary.

    3) I'm fully responsible for my success. This helps me avoid blaming other people/circumstances and playing the victim. I'm in full control, "the master of my fate, the captain of my soul".

    Anyway, the more you discover about yourself, the more fascinating it becomes...it's a life-long process, I guess...
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      • Profile picture of the author sidenote
        For me the greatest life lesson I have learned is the meaning of true unconditional love. I did not know the meaning of unconditional love until I had children. With my two sons, I have learned how to give freely of myself, my resources and my love, without any expectation in return. I have learned to overlook their shortcomings and when confronted with a problem be non judgmental and supportive when necessary. Its funny but I never really thought about these characteristics within me until I became a mother.

        Now, I find it much easier to share these same qualities with other people. I am much more compassionate for other people, so much more sensitive to other children. I have become a more humble, more caring person than I ever thought possible, and it's all because I learned to love other people unconditionally.

        I can also add that it sure helps make life much easier, when you can give freely and not have any expectations in return. Giving freely from the heart, does have its own rewards, and actually just feels like the right thing to do.
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  • Profile picture of the author Hardcoremarketing
    18 months ago, my heart was stopped for 5 hours so surgeons could repair it. I learned that life, in any form, is WAY better than death.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Never be concerned with what "they" will think, what "they" will say or what "they" will do.

      Who are "they" in the grand scheme of things anyway? Throughout history, "they" are never significant players to be noted, nor figures to learn from or admire.

      As a matter of fact, "they" are the ones who ridiculed the true innovators and remarkable figures in history.

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      • Profile picture of the author Nic Oliver
        Originally Posted by Hardcoremarketing View Post

        18 months ago, my heart was stopped for 5 hours so surgeons could repair it. I learned that life, in any form, is WAY better than death.
        That was a dramatic way of having to learn the lesson, and I bet it's one of the things you'll never forget!

        Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

        Never be concerned with what "they" will think, what "they" will say or what "they" will do.

        Who are "they" in the grand scheme of things anyway? Throughout history, "they" are never significant players to be noted, nor figures to learn from or admire.

        As a matter of fact, "they" are the ones who ridiculed the true innovators and remarkable figures in history.

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        • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
          Originally Posted by Nic Oliver View Post


          Absolutely - you'll never please everyone so don't bother trying!
          Yes, people pleasers get nowhere, they just spin in circles.

          But over and beyond that, don't be afraid to step out on a limb and try things differently from the masses. Originality and creativity is what drives innovation. Some times your ideas work, sometimes they don't, but if you never try, they most certainly won't. (did I just rhyme, lol)

          Anyway, what I was trying to say was, without attempting to blaze a new trail, you'll never be a trailblazer.

          Terra
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  • Profile picture of the author MegJones
    So many things I've learned...

    But a big one is definitely - "That which does not kill me makes me stronger."
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  • Profile picture of the author Simon Ashari
    My lesson was that if you work hard enough you can do it.

    While that may sound generic, being a kid I always sa

    -Sw successful people as holding extraordinary talent (rather than just hard work).

    -Simon
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  • Profile picture of the author automedix1
    Life has taught me to learn from every experience.
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    Learn to trust what you feel inside.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sam Khaled
    life taught me that there are consequences to everything and you have the choice to decide, it's all about you, >>YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE<<
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    • Profile picture of the author 1234nasir
      Love 2 All......... All w'll Love you too.
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      Life taught me not to take every chances for granted. Every minutes count.
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  • Profile picture of the author hireava
    Living my life as if I were to die tomorrow. It's simply saying live your life to the fullest. Learn to appreciate everything and anything that surrounds you.
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  • Profile picture of the author leorocking25
    Life has taught me that...your every wish in your life is fulfilled just if you tried to do it.
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      Originally Posted by leorocking25 View Post

      Life has taught me that...your every wish in your life is fulfilled just if you tried to do it.
      I agree with you, taking action is always important.
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  • Profile picture of the author DWaters
    Every morning when I get out of bed amd stand up..... I stop and think how fortunate to be able to do just this, as some people can do even do this simple thing.

    I appreciate the fact that I have another wonderful day so I can make the most of it!
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  • Profile picture of the author wangui
    I know it has been said already but it rings true to me everyday. That i can achieve everything that I put my mind to so I am never discouraged no matter what anyone thinks or says.

    Just like you I resigned from a well paying job and I did not tell those close to me because I know they believe in employment and would not understand and though it is not so obvious to others whether I made the right decision, I know I will achieve what I set out to do and prove them all wrong.
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  • Profile picture of the author JJP
    Stop trying to impress people by being someone you're not because in the end, you'll lose yourself, and We don't have to do anything - we always have a choice.
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  • Profile picture of the author therenegadeleader
    Everything in life in in-perfect, I learn how to accept both side of life. That's how I do to overcome frustration or disappointment. Embrace both side of life.
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