People Will Try To Discourage-

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It seems that sometimes the harder you try, the more people try to stomp on your dreams.

Many times people who love and care about us tell is we are "wasting our time" or that we are "crazy" for trying to do what we are doing.

I feel that most of the time it is because they do not understand what we do and it can sometimes feel quite isolating because it seems like you are the only fish trying to swim upstream and everyone else is swimming downstream.

It is sometimes tempting to quit and turn around and swim downstream like you see everyone else doing but the rewards are at the top, the top of the stream, river or mountain.

We need a good mindset, just DECIDE you will NOT QUIT No Matter What!

To DECIDE means to cut off from- so doing whatever it takes for as long as it takes no matter what that is deciding.

Do not listen to your loved ones or those around you that are discouraging you-they sometimes mean well, but you can do it if you just keep going. Success could be just around the corner, do not give up now!

Sometimes people discourage you because they are jealous or afraid you may succeed and leave them in the dust.

It makes a difference in how bad you want it? Are you willing to keep going despite any obstacle?

I have run marathons and triathlons- when you are tired and feel beat up and sore or in the case of my last marathon VERY sick. Of course you want to give up, or quit! That would of course be the easy thing to do and no one would think bad of me, they would instead say what a good job I did even if I did not finish. BUT I did finish! Even though it was my worst marathon time ever, I dragged my body across that little white line and did not quit but it was my brother who found me at mile 10 to come and help motivate me to keep going or it would have been a lot harder to finish the whole 26.2 miles.

It was by far the hardest race I had ever finished but it was also my most memorable.

If you think about it, most of the things in life that are Worth anything are HARD! But they are worth it.

When you feel low in your reserves and resolve to keep going, that's when you need to lean on some fellow warriors or other friends who are doing what you are trying to do. You can recharge your motivation and determination and feel a part of a team. Do not let those who do not understand stop you. YOU CAN DO THIS!
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  • Profile picture of the author estradarosemary
    nice share...
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  • Profile picture of the author dardar
    I can never understand,why they have to say anything,or could they just leave it,at ---NICE. '' What are you doing ?'' 'Nice'.


    Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.
    Vincent Van Gogh
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  • Profile picture of the author Exel
    Originally Posted by Bond Girl View Post

    Many times people who love and care about us tell is we are "wasting our time" or that we are "crazy" for trying to do what we are doing.

    I feel that most of the time it is because they do not understand what we do and it can sometimes feel quite isolating because it seems like you are the only fish trying to swim upstream and everyone else is swimming downstream.
    It can be devastating when those who you genuinely care for and you
    know that they care about you discourage you and prevent you from
    reaching your goals, therefore unknowingly doing you harm.

    Thy don't know better and they don't understand what we are doing and
    are afraid of what they don't understand.

    Originally Posted by Bond Girl View Post

    It is sometimes tempting to quit and turn around and swim downstream like you see everyone else doing but the rewards are at the top, the top of the stream, river or mountain.

    We need a good mindset, just DECIDE you will NOT QUIT No Matter What!

    To DECIDE means to cut off from- so doing whatever it takes for as long as it takes no matter what that is deciding.

    Do not listen to your loved ones or those around you that are discouraging you-they sometimes mean well, but you can do it if you just keep going. Success could be just around the corner, do not give up now!

    Sometimes people discourage you because they are jealous or afraid you may succeed and leave them in the dust.
    It is extremely tempting to give up, to take the easier way out. The danger
    of going to the other side is lurking constantly. We need to remind ourselves
    all the time why are we doing what we are doing and keep moving forward.

    Thanks for the amazing post!
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  • Profile picture of the author rmolina88
    I'm going through the same thing right now with everyone I know.

    Show them the fruits of your labor and they'll eventually change their minds.
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  • Profile picture of the author Bond Girl
    dardar,

    Yeah, that would be "nice" if that is all they said, but in my case they do not. It's okay...We can prove them all wrong!
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  • Profile picture of the author Bond Girl
    Exel,

    It would be very easy to quit at times, but success will be sweet when we prove them all wrong and we will have become stronger individuals for perservering and pushing through any and all obstacles.

    As for me it takes me longer to get over some obstacles than others, and somedays it is too hard to take on the whole day, so I find it easier to just take it one hour at a time, and when that's too hard sometimes it's a half an hour at a time.

    I guarantee you, when they all see how successful we are and that we can do or go pretty much anywhere we like, when we like and for however long we like they will be remembering those words they kept saying to us as they go to their job every day and have to come home from vacation when the boss says so, etc.

    The ultimate freedom for me and my family is what drives me.
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  • Profile picture of the author Bond Girl
    rmolina88,

    That's exactly the plan my friend.

    If I got discouraged and lived where you live, I'd just head over to the ocean, has to be one of the most calming and relaxing and rejuvenating feelings. You're lucky to live so close! I'm jealous of that. lol
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  • Profile picture of the author Lovenus
    "Please do not let negative words from people put us down. Always remember that you are the BEST among few million others, thus you are able to come into this world. That reason alone is able to prove those negative remarks wrong." - Lovenus Goh
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  • Profile picture of the author HolyWarrior
    Very motivating statement. I detect a hint of Tony Robbins within it, somewhat.

    My family is always discouraging me as well, and even those who I know are very successful Internet marketers were discouraged by their families very greatly in the beginning. Most people don't make the conscious decision to better themselves, they don't have a true vision of themselves being rich, being successful, having everything they've ever wanted in life.

    This is to say that they fantasize about it, but they don't expect it, or believe in their hearts it could really come to pass. They acclimate to the world, to their "role" in it, and then they subconsciously sabotage the people they love by trying to give them "good advice".

    Here's something to keep in mind. Are these people who love you multi-millionaires? Are they great successes in business and entrepreneurship? Do they have the life they've always wanted, free of lack? If they're not, then don't ever take their advice. Listen to those who have something to show for what they speak for.

    "Don't do it, it's a waste of time". Do what they do, and you'll have what they have.
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  • Profile picture of the author zelgly2
    I too face the same from my father. but when I am down i will start thinking the past and automatically i will get the energy everything to win. You must have a strong goal and never say die attitude. when you win all will come.
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  • Profile picture of the author Monetize INTL
    Never quit. Never give in to negativity. If you fall, get up. In order to reach success, you will fall a lot, sometimes you will even stop believing in yourself, you will doubt yourself, others will doubt you and tell you you are crazy.

    Mark my words, if you persevere and keep doing what you are doing none of the above will matter when you hit success. It is the best personal satisfaction and to be honest, IMHO, the personal satisfaction is far more enjoyable than the "I told you so" factor you will have on whoever did not believe in you.
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  • Profile picture of the author AlisonTaylor
    It's just the nature of mediocrity. the inner hate that spews up when they see someone trying to be different. They cannot help but chip in with their misguided advice and insight on stuff. I tend to purposely ignore this negative talk and use it as motivate.

    I have developed an ......


    I'LL SHOW YOU


    attitude. Keep going, keep it moving, You will get there eventually
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    • Profile picture of the author Larry Carter
      Some people will want you on their level if they find out what you're trying to accomplish, but you have to tell yourself do I want to be in the same place in six months or so.
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  • Profile picture of the author hireava
    Take it as a motivation if someone tries to discourage you about reaching your goal. Don't look at it as something that will make you down or weak. It's just a challenge that makes you even stronger as you go on with achieving your goals and dreams.
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  • Profile picture of the author julianaberry
    thanks for sharing nice thoughts,,,
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  • Profile picture of the author Bond Girl
    Thank you everyone for you wise comments! It's a big BOOST!
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    • Originally Posted by Bond Girl View Post

      Thank you everyone for you wise comments! It's a big BOOST!
      my name is BOND! awesome!!!

      You tell me :

      I have developed, for lack of a better word (a negative stereotype), that really has helped be respond and not react. I use it all the time.

      I would actually like a different term.

      ANGER :

      it's motivating ( I will show you! )
      it makes you focus ( how can I make it real for people to see? )
      It puts you down, that given human nature to survive,you look up ( ouch that hurts, but what am I going to do NOW )
      we need the "Backs against the Wall" exposure to really implement the REAL answer of change (action)

      etc.., etc.., etc..,
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  • Profile picture of the author stopper
    When you feel worn out and about to quit always remember that your fellow competitors are feeling just as worn out or even worse.
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  • Profile picture of the author Anna7
    It's true.. There are always going to be people who tell you that you cant. And it's terrible when they tell you this when you are still at a point when you think that you probably can. Because they ruin your self-esteem. But there will also be friends who will tell you that you can and push you. While it is important to believe in yourself, having a push from someone else can come a long way.

    Also, here's a quote from Will Smith as Chris Gardner in The Pursuit of happiness (I love this movie): "You got a dream, you got to protect it. People can't do something themselves, they want to tell you that you can't do it. You want something? Go get it. Period."
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    • Profile picture of the author Bond Girl
      Originally Posted by Anna7 View Post

      It's true.. There are always going to be people who tell you that you cant. And it's terrible when they tell you this when you are still at a point when you think that you probably can. Because they ruin your self-esteem. But there will also be friends who will tell you that you can and push you. While it is important to believe in yourself, having a push from someone else can come a long way.

      Also, here's a quote from Will Smith as Chris Gardner in The Pursuit of happiness (I love this movie): "You got a dream, you got to protect it. People can't do something themselves, they want to tell you that you can't do it. You want something? Go get it. Period."
      Anna7, I love that quote! Great words to live by!
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      • Profile picture of the author Fahmzie
        Good mindset and believe in what you do is the key for long-term.
        After all is up to you to make your dream come true faster or slower.

        Perseverance and Persistence are what sets the winners apart from the crowd.

        Thanks for sharing Bond Girl!
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        • Profile picture of the author Bond Girl
          Originally Posted by Fahmzie View Post

          Good mindset and believe in what you do is the key for long-term.
          After all is up to you to make your dream come true faster or slower.

          Perseverance and Persistence are what sets the winners apart from the crowd.

          Thanks for sharing Bond Girl!
          Fahmzie, You are right that the mind is the key and that Perserverance and Persistence are what get you to where you want to go. Glad to see you're aboard and steaming ahead strong!
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  • Profile picture of the author hirithk
    hai
    good one...
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  • Profile picture of the author spym0nline
    I still remember those days when I began my make money online adventure.
    No friend and family members support my ideas.
    I am glad I can now prove them it is real.
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  • Profile picture of the author jpete
    The only advise I can give you is surround yourself around successful, positive people!

    Dont worry about the rest..
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  • Profile picture of the author warriorjeterboy
    Are those people who's trying to discourage you a successful person in their life? If not, don't listen to them. But if yes, explain to them why you choose this business.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Kanigan
    I simply have stopped talking about my IM business, except to those who are already on board or believe in me. People will either "get it" or "not get it", and there's not a thing you can do to convince them otherwise.

    My brother, for example. Even after I started making thousands of $$ a month with IM, he just looked at me with a "Huh?!"-expression when I explained over skype (he's a million miles away from me) what I was doing. Skepticism. AFTER I was making good money!

    And my father-in-law. Now that was a fun one. He's the type who believes you can do it only after you've done it. Lawyer. Older guy. I opened up my Warriorplus account last time I was visiting, and showed him the numbers. "Holy cow!" he blurted. That in itself was a reward. Then I briefly explained my future plans. It was back to skepticism. Yeah, you did this, but I'll believe you can do that after you've done it. OK. And I won't mention a thing about it until after I've achieved the next level of IM success.

    My mother-in-law, on the other hand, may not get the intricacies of IM, but she knows that when I say I'll do a thing, it's gonna happen. It may not be a blow-up success, but it will exist. Those are much more fun conversations.

    My advice is to give people one opportunity. Share with them what you're doing...and see how they react. If it's skepticism, don't talk to them about it again. If they're supportive, keep them in the loop. Either way, don't stress about it.

    Now if you're living in their basement and this is the "Hail Mary" play of yours to make money and they know nothing about IM, well, can you blame them for being skeptical?
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    • Profile picture of the author Bond Girl
      Originally Posted by kaniganj View Post

      I simply have stopped talking about my IM business, except to those who are already on board or believe in me. People will either "get it" or "not get it", and there's not a thing you can do to convince them otherwise.

      My brother, for example. Even after I started making thousands of $$ a month with IM, he just looked at me with a "Huh?!"-expression when I explained over skype (he's a million miles away from me) what I was doing. Skepticism. AFTER I was making good money!

      And my father-in-law. Now that was a fun one. He's the type who believes you can do it only after you've done it. Lawyer. Older guy. I opened up my Warriorplus account last time I was visiting, and showed him the numbers. "Holy cow!" he blurted. That in itself was a reward. Then I briefly explained my future plans. It was back to skepticism. Yeah, you did this, but I'll believe you can do that after you've done it. OK. And I won't mention a thing about it until after I've achieved the next level of IM success.

      My mother-in-law, on the other hand, may not get the intricacies of IM, but she knows that when I say I'll do a thing, it's gonna happen. It may not be a blow-up success, but it will exist. Those are much more fun conversations.

      My advice is to give people one opportunity. Share with them what you're doing...and see how they react. If it's skepticism, don't talk to them about it again. If they're supportive, keep them in the loop. Either way, don't stress about it.

      Now if you're living in their basement and this is the "Hail Mary" play of yours to make money and they know nothing about IM, well, can you blame them for being skeptical?
      I have had a similar experience with my mother-in-law and it is frustrating to say the least that even when you are successful and you have your eye on the next goal they STILL do not think you can do it.

      Still amazes me! So in the end, it only matters that I know it's possible and I know I can do it if I'm willing to put in the hard work to get there.

      Thanks again everybody for sharing! I just do not want anyone to give up because of some narrow minded person who has no idea what IM is or what it is capable of.

      Just keep going YOU CAN DO THIS!
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  • Profile picture of the author hoffman
    It is a very motivating post, thanks for it. We should always ignore the discouraging person.
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  • Profile picture of the author jeresteem99
    Its really true... but for me I don't mind them I just search for a inspirational people for me to gain what they achieve and be confident that me too can reach it.
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    • Profile picture of the author Bond Girl
      Originally Posted by Preeti View Post

      Holly, you're amazing!!! Love that story, you've inspired me!
      Preeti, I Love that quote you posted about the stamp! You should post it here somewhere! I keep thinking about that over and over again.

      BTW you are already a success! You have, are and continue to inspire and help others Every single day! You rock girl!
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  • Profile picture of the author shintaiguy
    Great story Holly you should post it as a hub page or an article. I heard someone talking about their success a few days ago and when they were asked how they did it they just said that the believed they could and worked through the bad days. It was the working through the bad days that tipped the balance.
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    • Profile picture of the author Bond Girl
      Originally Posted by shintaiguy View Post

      Great story Holly you should post it as a hub page or an article. I heard someone talking about their success a few days ago and when they were asked how they did it they just said that the believed they could and worked through the bad days. It was the working through the bad days that tipped the balance.
      Shintaiguy,
      Hmmm never thought of posting it as a hub page or an article...if you think it would help others I would do it in a heartbeat.

      Yeah, we all have those bad days, and that makes it extra hard to push through and sometimes it's all we can do to go through the motions...though sometimes the best thing to do is to get up, get out and take a break and then come back re-energized.

      Thanks for sharing you guys! That made my day!
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