Stop trying to get money and contribute instead

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How often do you worry about how much money you can make from a particular money making method?

Perhaps it's just me but a lot of WSOs are designed to keep you hooked onto trying to get money. Of course business exists to make money, but if you're so attached to trying to get money and you're afraid that a particular method won't work (i.e. fear of failure) you will likely procrastinate and get nowhere.

You've probably done what I once did: Bought myriads of WSOs looking for the next best or easiest method, only to end up filling up your hard drive and then eventually getting refunds. The sales pitch looks so good, yet once you find out what the method really entails, you make excuses and end up not doing it and you look for something better.

Has it ever occurred to you that you've turned yourself into a victim of money? As if money is your master and you are it's slave? Basically, it's a way of saying money owns you, and so you reach for another WSO in hopes of getting more of it, and then when that doesn't work, you seek out another one and this cycle repeats kinda like a drug addict or alcoholic who can't give it up.

So, what if there is another way?

What would happen if you focused on giving/contributing instead of getting?

What would happen if you decided to contribute towards people's real needs instead of trying to get more $$$?

Let's be real here: Which one feels lighter? Contributing or trying to get money from others?

Have you ever considered the possibility that by 'needing to make money' you are actually pushing customers/clients away? What if this need to 'get money' is the source of your procrastination?

What if your gifts and talents could be better used by giving instead of trying to get?

Think of it like a guy trying to 'get' a woman. If he is feeling needy, would a woman want to be with him? Yet, this is exactly what many guys have done, and the same principle applies in business. And while we're at it, if you're a guy and you want to attract a woman, focus on contributing/giving/blessing women instead of trying to get them. They will feel a much more positive vibe from you

If you are focusing on getting, what you're really subconsciously communicating is that you're stuck in a state of lack. And the people you interact with will notice it in your behavior. However, by giving, what are you saying about yourself?

How can one give what one does not have? In other words, when you focus on contributing, it presupposes you have! Thus by giving or contributing in some form or another, you are subconsciously communicating to yourself that you are in a state of having!

And this gets projected out to others by your actions. When you do this, you are no longer worried about what other people think because you are contributing to their needs, like a doctor healing a patient. Does a doctor ever feel worried about whether he will get patients or not? Not at all, because a patient knows that a doctor can fulfill his/her needs.

So instead of chasing after money, what can you do RIGHT NOW to contribute towards others?

To put it another way: How can you bless them with your gifts and talents?

Or ask yourself, "How can I make my clients/customers life better?"

And if you constantly focused on contributing, do you see how money can flow into your life with greater ease? And doesn't the thought of contributing feel much lighter than trying to get money?

Like if you can genuinely put a smile on someone's face or make someone happy, wouldn't that make things much easier for you?

The amazing thing about this is that when you contribute towards others, you literally feel better, and when you're feeling better you are much more resourceful which allows you to see more opportunities to contribute and be richly reward for your contributions (in the form of payment).

So again, "How can you make your clients/customers life better?"
#contribute #give #money #stop
  • Profile picture of the author Lovenus
    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    How often do you worry about how much money you can make from a particular money making method?

    Perhaps it's just me but a lot of WSOs are designed to keep you hooked onto trying to get money. Of course business exists to make money, but if you're so attached to trying to get money and you're afraid that a particular method won't work (i.e. fear of failure) you will likely procrastinate and get nowhere.

    You've probably done what I once did: Bought myriads of WSOs looking for the next best or easiest method, only to end up filling up your hard drive and then eventually getting refunds. The sales pitch looks so good, yet once you find out what the method really entails, you make excuses and end up not doing it and you look for something better.

    Has it ever occurred to you that you've turned yourself into a victim of money? As if money is your master and you are it's slave? Basically, it's a way of saying money owns you, and so you reach for another WSO in hopes of getting more of it, and then when that doesn't work, you seek out another one and this cycle repeats kinda like a drug addict or alcoholic who can't give it up.

    So, what if there is another way?

    What would happen if you focused on giving/contributing instead of getting?

    What would happen if you decided to contribute towards people's real needs instead of trying to get more $$$?

    Let's be real here: Which one feels lighter? Contributing or trying to get money from others?

    Have you ever considered the possibility that by 'needing to make money' you are actually pushing customers/clients away? What if this need to 'get money' is the source of your procrastination?

    What if your gifts and talents could be better used by giving instead of trying to get?

    Think of it like a guy trying to 'get' a woman. If he is feeling needy, would a woman want to be with him? Yet, this is exactly what many guys have done, and the same principle applies in business. And while we're at it, if you're a guy and you want to attract a woman, focus on contributing/giving/blessing women instead of trying to get them. They will feel a much more positive vibe from you

    If you are focusing on getting, what you're really subconsciously communicating is that you're stuck in a state of lack. And the people you interact with will notice it in your behavior. However, by giving, what are you saying about yourself?

    How can one give what one does not have? In other words, when you focus on contributing, it presupposes you have! Thus by giving or contributing in some form or another, you are subconsciously communicating to yourself that you are in a state of having!

    And this gets projected out to others by your actions. When you do this, you are no longer worried about what other people think because you are contributing to their needs, like a doctor healing a patient. Does a doctor ever feel worried about whether he will get patients or not? Not at all, because a patient knows that a doctor can fulfill his/her needs.

    So instead of chasing after money, what can you do RIGHT NOW to contribute towards others?

    To put it another way: How can you bless them with your gifts and talents?

    Or ask yourself, "How can I make my clients/customers life better?"

    And if you constantly focused on contributing, do you see how money can flow into your life with greater ease? And doesn't the thought of contributing feel much lighter than trying to get money?

    Like if you can genuinely put a smile on someone's face or make someone happy, wouldn't that make things much easier for you?

    The amazing thing about this is that when you contribute towards others, you literally feel better, and when you're feeling better you are much more resourceful which allows you to see more opportunities to contribute and be richly reward for your contributions (in the form of payment).

    So again, "How can you make your clients/customers life better?"
    Strongly agreed, Jason Choi. ^^
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  • Profile picture of the author jenniferturner
    totally agree
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  • Profile picture of the author neowords
    agreed. But people won't change.
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    • Profile picture of the author SMSWriter
      You're pretty profound for a young guy!!

      What a sagacious and wise post! I believe that the reason people are so unhappy in this world is the constant focus on the self, which emanates from an insecure and broken self-image.

      When you are secure in the self, even if you have financial problems, you project abundance. And in turn, your financial problems won't last long...

      Excellent post! I've taken the liberty of bookmarking it!

      Shanen
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      • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
        Shanen, thank you

        But I'm not that young! I'm in my 30s lol

        When I posted the article, I was inspired to write it and share because I know there are people who are probably still buying WSOs
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  • Profile picture of the author darrenchow
    "How can you make your clients/customers life better?"
    Totally agree with you.
    IF one can help the others to get whatever they want, the money will come automatically.
    I think the simplest way to contribute is to give information and wise suggestion.
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  • Great post. Learn something from it.
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  • Profile picture of the author watty12
    quite agree. Focusing on trying to sell products and producing low quality content doesn't work. Providing good quality content should be high priority in order to take your iM business forward.
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  • Profile picture of the author luckystepho
    I agree- too many people are focused on going to get, when they should be focusing on going to give... always think of what you can do for your customer and how you can best serve them rather than how much you will make from them.
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  • Profile picture of the author David Sneen
    You hit it on the head, Jason! Contributing to others will help you! Good karma! A partial logical explanation is that if you choose to help by teaching, you will learn a subject far better if you teach it, than you could from even the best tutor.
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  • Profile picture of the author unclebuck
    Great post Jason! You will get so much more by helping people and it all comes back to you not only in the form of being able to feel great about helping others but also monetarily as well.
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  • Profile picture of the author josephpeter
    I have been thinking about this today and how to offer my services.
    Will be posting offering soon.

    So much is about what we contribute to others. How can we grow if we don't.

    JP
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  • Profile picture of the author Glenda from OZ
    This is so true Jason, thanks for posting. I have been victim to the money chasing syndrome because I want to change my life somewhat. The money I have spent on WSOs is for the most part wasted. I quit buying because I finally learned that most of them aren't going to help me out. Sometimes its because I'm not ready for them - but its easy to get pulled into the hype. I've found a couple lately where the people selling them are genuine. And I cant say enough what a difference it makes. I've been so burned by high level gurus and almost lost faith. But finding the people who really do want to make a difference to people has restored my faith and I do believe I'm a bit more discerning now and the faintest whiff I get of someone who is only out for themselves - well I'm outta there in a heartbeat. At the end of the day, giving because you can always wins out. My loyalty is to those warriors who take the time to help out and aren't always on the taking end.
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    • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
      Glenda, thanks for sharing!

      Originally Posted by Glenda from OZ View Post

      At the end of the day, giving because you can always wins out. My loyalty is to those warriors who take the time to help out and aren't always on the taking end.
      Yes, that's it! When we help others, they naturally want to reciprocate
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  • Profile picture of the author ketset
    That's a very good post and I think contribution is key. How about a bit of both!?
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  • Profile picture of the author gsgoh
    Because what goes around comes around.
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  • Profile picture of the author eguinan
    What a great post!!!! Thank you Jason!
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  • Profile picture of the author Evocess
    AWESOME! Thank you Jason. I've learned a lot from your post. Money is important but not necessarily all the time. I just remember one of the greatest sayings "It's better to give than to receive.".

    Thanks
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  • Profile picture of the author John F Kennedy
    Jason,

    Loving the way you express yourself.

    I think too many people focus on what's in it for them instead of how can I make someone's life better today..

    Funny how the money starts to flow when we change tact, did for me..

    Well done, good stuff!
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  • Profile picture of the author cup243
    Give value, get money. That's what IM and business as a whole is all about.
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