A simple technique to change your life

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Have you ever used affirmations but felt like they did nothing?

I'm sure many of you here are familiar with them but consider what some celebrities have said about it:

"It's sorta like a mantra. You repeat it to yourself every day. 'Music is my life, music is my life. The fame is inside of me, I'm going to make a number one record with number one hits.' And it's not yet, it's a lie. You're saying a lie over and over and over again, and then, one day the lie is true." - Lady Gaga
Muhammad Ali was known for saying the following:

"I figured that if I said it enough, I would convince the world that I really was the greatest."

"I am the greatest. I said that even before I knew I was."
Anyone ever read Dilbert before? Did you know the creator of Dilbert used affirmations?

If it's possible to control your environment through your thoughts or steer your perceptions (or soul if you prefer) through other universes, I'll bet the secret to doing that is a process called "affirmations."

The process as it was described to me involved visualizing what you want and writing it down fifteen times in a row, once a day, until you obtain the thing you visualized.

The suggested form would be something like this:

"I, Scott Adams, will win a Pulitzer Prize."
The above statement by Scott Adams is from his book The Dilbert Future (p. 246), and in it he talks extensively about what he did and how it worked for him in such uncanny ways including becoming a syndicated cartoon artist, making money on the stock market and passing the GMAT at the 94th percentile (the exact percentage!).

I used the affirmations again many times, each time with unlikely success. So much so that by 1988, when I decided I wanted to become a famous syndicated cartoonist, it actually felt like a modest goal.

The odds of becoming a successful syndicated cartoonist are about 10,000 to 1. I knew the odds, but figured they didn't apply to me. When I submitted my samples by mail to the major cartoon syndicates, I had a feeling of being exactly where I needed to be and doing exactly what I needed to do. I never once doubted it would work out the way it has. (p. 250)
By the time he decided to become a syndicated cartoon artist, he had such strong faith in the power of affirmations that he literally did not doubt!

His method involved writing affirmations 15 times a day every single day. He recommends doing it for at least 6 months to give it a fair shot, and he says coincidences began to happen within weeks.

Years ago I used to think affirmations were utter crap, but my perspective changed quite a bit in the past year. I used affirmations in a similar manner as described above and got some interesting results within weeks, like receiving unexpected checks.

This simple technique often stirs up resistance which is why they seemingly "don't work" but the repetition of certain thoughts do impact the mind over time and it allows for beliefs to change.

One way to deal with such resistance is to change the words to make it more believable. For example, "I am wealthy" will probably trigger this response, "No I'm not!"

But if you say, "I choose to be wealthy" it feels more believable, doesn't it? You could use other words that resonate with you better:
"I am willing to experience greater and greater wealth"
"I accept more and more wealth into my life"
"I choose to prosper today"
"I am ready to truly prosper"
"I choose to generate $2000 this week"
"I choose to take prosperous action"
Such phrases like, "I choose to, I am willing to, I accept" will lower resistance and thereby allow the mind to accept the suggestion far more easily.

By the way, here's an excellent question to ask if you're feeling stuck in procrastination:

"Would a millionaire do this?" or "Would a millionaire think like this?"

If the answer is no, then reflect back on one of the above affirmations and declare it to be true. For example, "I choose to take prosperous action today!"

If, however, you are resisting the suggestion of taking action, sometimes just stating or writing the affirmation over and over can do it. Other times you may need to find a way to clear the source of your resistance.
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  • Profile picture of the author LulaFor
    Great Share my friend. Already Bookmarked it for another time
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  • Profile picture of the author gsgoh
    Good share! I choose to succeed in life!
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  • Profile picture of the author ModelMentors
    Wonderful post. Affirmations are extremely important!
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  • Profile picture of the author zannix
    Hi Jason,

    Your technique is pretty smooth. A great way to bypass existing programming in the subconscious mind.

    However, affirmations and incantations (at least to my knowledge) serve a single purpose of making an impression on your self-image.

    And since the self-image is an impression of one self, the power lies within the equation "I AM = SOMETHING". Although I'm sure your way has its advantages as well

    As you mentioned, many people have problems with the "I am" affirmation because their brain tells them: "No you're not." And they accept it to be true that they're not.

    But, in my experience, if you keep telling yourself "I am", your brain eventually goes: "Oh okay, you stubborn ****, I'll work as if you really were."
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    Affirmations need to be repeated with enthusiasm and emotion to be effective.
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    • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
      Originally Posted by zannix View Post

      Hi Jason,

      Your technique is pretty smooth. A great way to bypass existing programming in the subconscious mind.

      However, affirmations and incantations (at least to my knowledge) serve a single purpose of making an impression on your self-image.

      And since the self-image is an impression of one self, the power lies within the equation "I AM = SOMETHING". Although I'm sure your way has its advantages as well

      As you mentioned, many people have problems with the "I am" affirmation because their brain tells them: "No you're not." And they accept it to be true that they're not.

      But, in my experience, if you keep telling yourself "I am", your brain eventually goes: "Oh okay, you stubborn ****, I'll work as if you really were."
      Yes, affirmations must eventually be stated as "I am" statements, but using the above approach works to prepare the mind for such "I am" statements

      Originally Posted by travlinguy View Post

      Affirmations need to be repeated with enthusiasm and emotion to be effective.
      I found that they still work even without such emotion, but it definitely works far better with enthusiasm.
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    • Profile picture of the author excoder01
      Originally Posted by travlinguy View Post

      Affirmations need to be repeated with enthusiasm and emotion to be effective.
      I agree.

      Repeating things to yours mindlessly without emotions is self-deluding.

      They have to be congruent with emotions (passion, envy, fear, desire, etc) to achieve something.

      Affirmations work - and even thinking, "Affirmations are stupid - they don't work!!!!" is a true statement in itself if you repeat that to your head many times. Why? You have strong emotions that they don't work and thus, work!
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      • Profile picture of the author Rick Britton
        Originally Posted by excoder01 View Post

        I agree.

        Repeating things to yours mindlessly without emotions is self-deluding.

        They have to be congruent with emotions (passion, envy, fear, desire, etc) to achieve something.

        Affirmations work - and even thinking, "Affirmations are stupid - they don't work!!!!" is a true statement in itself if you repeat that to your head many times. Why? You have strong emotions that they don't work and thus, work!
        this is exactly right! I posted something similar earlier in the thread
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  • Profile picture of the author simonf
    Thankyou Jason - a great post on a fascinating subject. Resistance is a really key issue, here. If you state something that is in opposition to the programming in your unconscious mind, resistance will kick in - perhaps very powerfully. The Sedona Method, the Option Method, and Byron Katie's 'The Work' are all great ways to get to the root of resistance and let it go.
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  • Profile picture of the author antac
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    wow!!!!
    It's a great thread ever i think.
    Really useful for me & I'm gonna bookmarked soon.
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    • Profile picture of the author miraclepitu
      Yeah..I agree with you friend, If we can do consistently, I believe its will be.. something we want..Affirmations is Magic !!
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  • I like the concept of affirmations but never stuck with them long enough to feel the impact. I have read - Ask and It is Given (By Esther and Jerry Hicks) multiple times and have found the strategies in the back of the book serve to get my head in a great place or in a better place then when I started.

    Thanks for the post. I am going to check out the - Overcoming Procrastination sales page and see what it is all about. My biggest challenge has been when there are too many things that I want to do at one time and it paralyzes me.
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  • Profile picture of the author Evocess
    What an awesome thread! Affirmations are really down to you.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rick Britton
    I would say

    why not actually learn to generate the mental state, spin it up and make it really strong then anchor and fire it when you want? Then layer all those states and pin them up there

    this gets round the issue that can occur with affirmations namely incongruence

    when your actions and unconscious are incongruent then you are really just deluding yourself even if the outcome was the one you wanted

    truly be the person you want to be inside your mind and you will have achieved everything
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    • Profile picture of the author bizwisard
      Affirmations are all well and good but it is no substitute for hard work.

      "Get up get out and get busy"

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      • Profile picture of the author The Niche Man
        Good post. Another way to add juice to your affirmations is to visualize or picture the results and the feeling.
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        • Profile picture of the author andreasup
          Originally Posted by The Niche Man View Post

          Good post. Another way to add juice to your affirmations is to visualize or picture the results and the feeling.
          Great idea Niche Man. Have you had experience with dream boards or similar? I've heard of people who create very concise dream boards and then tie affirmations to them in order to keep a consistent but very focused feel to their goals.

          Also, some people will do dream journals to track the result of their affirmations or dream board. I think they are also called vision boards?

          Does anyone here do those types of things in addition to their affirmations?
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      • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
        Originally Posted by bizwisard View Post

        Affirmations are all well and good but it is no substitute for hard work.

        "Get up get out and get busy"

        Well, I have to respectfully disagree. Hard work doesn't cut it for me. But smart work does

        Using the types of affirmations I mentioned above enabled me to create a mindset shift which allowed me to see better opportunities. Working hard wouldn't have allowed me to see them as I would have been stuck in a sort of tunnel vision (i.e. "I gotta work hard with this method" when in fact there could be far easier ways to generate income").
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    • Profile picture of the author zannix
      Originally Posted by Rick Britton View Post

      why not actually learn to generate the mental state, spin it up and make it really strong then anchor and fire it when you want?
      I wonder if one could anchor orgasm this way

      Edit: Apparently you can: http://www.orgasmsexplained.com/orga...asm-on-command
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    • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
      Originally Posted by Rick Britton View Post

      I would say

      why not actually learn to generate the mental state, spin it up and make it really strong then anchor and fire it when you want? Then layer all those states and pin them up there

      this gets round the issue that can occur with affirmations namely incongruence

      when your actions and unconscious are incongruent then you are really just deluding yourself even if the outcome was the one you wanted

      truly be the person you want to be inside your mind and you will have achieved everything
      Personally, I would love it if anchors always worked consistently but it doesn't always do that. The problem is anyone can just as easily resist an anchor at any point, and I noticed this with a lot of people.
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  • Profile picture of the author andreasup
    Wow...Jason...very very impressive post. I love how you did all the amazing research including listing affirmations from Lady Gaga.

    Ironically ancient witches and medicine men used a form of affirmations when they did chanting or repeated spells.

    I agree with you that affirmations absolutely do work. Both positive and negative.

    I also agree that if you're carrying a lot of personal baggage but haven't dealt with the underlying negative programming, affirmations may actually unleash some of your demons.

    Ideally if you do have negative programming as you do the positive affirmations it will help you find those inner blocks to creating what you desire.

    Some experts believe you should pay very close attention to what your inner voice says to you in response to affirmations you say out loud. It can be very enlightening about your own inner self.

    Thank you so much. I have bookmarked your post. Awesomeness!
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    • Profile picture of the author Rick Britton
      Originally Posted by andreasup View Post

      Wow...Jason...very very impressive post. I love how you did all the amazing research including listing affirmations from Lady Gaga.

      Ironically ancient witches and medicine men used a form of affirmations when they did chanting or repeated spells.

      I agree with you that affirmations absolutely do work. Both positive and negative.

      I also agree that if you're carrying a lot of personal baggage but haven't dealt with the underlying negative programming, affirmations may actually unleash some of your demons.

      Ideally if you do have negative programming as you do the positive affirmations it will help you find those inner blocks to creating what you desire.

      Some experts believe you should pay very close attention to what your inner voice says to you in response to affirmations you say out loud. It can be very enlightening about your own inner self.

      Thank you so much. I have bookmarked your post. Awesomeness!
      This is precisely because the affirmation is incongruent with reality. When you align your unconscious in a congruent way then you can really set about achieving your goals

      This is the difference between wishful thinking and creating a genuinely self aware and congruent state hat you can work to alter in the ways you want
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      • Profile picture of the author andreasup
        Originally Posted by Rick Britton View Post

        This is precisely because the affirmation is incongruent with reality. When you align your unconscious in a congruent way then you can really set about achieving your goals

        This is the difference between wishful thinking and creating a genuinely self aware and congruent state hat you can work to alter in the ways you want
        Hi Rick...I couldn't have said it any better than you did. Thanks so much.

        I totally and absolutely agree. Have a great week.
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  • Profile picture of the author JD Ways
    I LOVE this post!! I am starting to use affirmations! I am learning to use them more everyday!!
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  • Profile picture of the author TamilYoung
    Great share, Definitely Affirmations work and they give our minds true power. And Muhammad Ali's story is so popular and thanks for quoting that here! Nice one.
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  • Profile picture of the author jeanettebrown21
    its been a nice share
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  • Profile picture of the author Will Edwards
    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    One way to deal with such resistance is to change the words to make it more believable. For example, "I am wealthy" will probably trigger this response, "No I'm not!"

    But if you say, "I choose to be wealthy" it feels more believable, doesn't it? You could use other words that resonate with you better:
    No - stick with I AM!

    You don't have to believe in affirmations for them to work.

    Trust me - stick with I AM!

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  • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
    lol, well if it works for you then go for it

    In the beginning, "I am" statements didn't resonate with me, but now they do =)
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    • Profile picture of the author Will Edwards
      Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

      lol, well if it works for you then go for it

      In the beginning, "I am" statements didn't resonate with me, but now they do =)
      Hi Jason

      The reason is that affirmations work at the level of changing your beliefs, so at first there is always a disconnect between your 'current reality' and your affirmed future state.

      When you use the very powerful words I AM, your subconscious will be paying special attention. When you convince your subconscious mind that YOU ARE, then you will begin to see the results in your life.

      For more info, I have a free course here ...

      Affirmations Course

      Cheers,

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  • Profile picture of the author jason17
    awsome ,, nice words
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  • Profile picture of the author maskmirror
    Really like this post. Being new to this site, it's very inspirational. I believe that most people are held back by irrational fears. When you think about it, unless you're fending off a lion, to label fear as irrational would be like labeling water as wet.

    I think all successful people can find common ground in having set clear and seemingly insane goals. And it seems that the only thing keeping people from reaching their goals is not daring to try, not believing they can make it, not trying again after a failed attempt, etc.

    I especially like the idea of thinking like a millionaire. That has actually motivated me in the past (okay, I'm not quite a millionaire yet, but will be). The rich people I know aren't exceptionally smart or gifted. They do have a certain mindset, though. And when you think about it rationally, becoming successful knows no obstacles but yourself.

    Will definitely read more into affirmations to help me on my way, so thanks!
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  • Profile picture of the author Lovenus
    "The only true wisdom is in knowing that you do not know anything". - Socrates

    "Please do not let negative words from people put us down. Always remember that you are the BEST among few million others, thus you are able to come into this world. That reason alone is able to prove those negative remarks wrong". - Lovenus
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  • Profile picture of the author JasonJason
    Fantastic post! Affirmations are so important, especially on a sub-conscience level, and most importantly, it works! This post reminds me of the principles that Napoleon Hill teaches in his books, especially in what may be his most important work, The Law of Success in Sixteen Lessons. I highly recommend reading this if you're interested in learning more about how positive affirmations can change your life.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kostas Papadakis
    I wouldn't agree more with your approach. I do believe too that when you want something really really bad, the universe works along side with you to achieve it. This practically means that when you have imagined yourself somehow, in every detail, you have prepared your mind to work towards it, and when the oportunity arrives, you are ready to see the doors that open for you and grasp the chance!
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  • Profile picture of the author hireava
    Great share of insights Jason! Makes me realize some things about life. Very motivational and helpful! Thanks so much!
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