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How do you persuade? What are the most effective tools/techniques do you consider where you can persuade other people? Share your thoughts.
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  • Profile picture of the author DominicTFY
    Hey jayden,

    Before we can persuade anyone, we need to first build rapport with them. You can do this easily by:

    1. Relating to a common incident/situation
    2. Relating to a common interests
    3. And much, much more...

    How do you exactly do that? Just start by asking questions. e.g. "Ever had dirty tough stains that were difficult to remove?" etc


    Hope that helped,
    Dominic
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  • Profile picture of the author Brad Gosse
    Persuasion is a tough game. The word itself sounds shady but when done right you will always be able to persuade people. I try to live by the following...

    Rule #1 Deliver on promises. If people believe you, persuasion will come easily over and over.
    Rule #2 Offer real value
    Rule #3 Solve a problem. People are easily persuaded by solutions to existing problems in life or business. This could be a home remedy for the common cold or a complex business solution.
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    • Profile picture of the author rickymat
      Hi Brad,

      Here are the some useful tips to persuade anyone:

      1. Enter Their World
      2. Mirror Their Body Language
      3. Be Cheerful and Nice
      4. Be Sincere and Trustworthy
      5. Provide Them With Compelling Evidence
      6. Show Them "What's In It For Them"
      7. Genuinely Care For Them
      Try to implement these points in you and start persuade people.

      Best wishes
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      • Profile picture of the author ucajack
        Originally Posted by rickymat View Post

        Hi Brad,

        Here are the some useful tips to persuade anyone:

        1. Enter Their World
        2. Mirror Their Body Language
        3. Be Cheerful and Nice
        4. Be Sincere and Trustworthy
        5. Provide Them With Compelling Evidence
        6. Show Them "What's In It For Them"
        7. Genuinely Care For Them
        Try to implement these points in you and start persuade people.

        Best wishes
        I have heard about these before but never tried them.
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  • Profile picture of the author jayden.fellze
    Thank you guys for your sharing of thoughts, I think these are all enough for me to learn more about the art of persuasion.
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    • Profile picture of the author DominicTFY
      Originally Posted by jayden.fellze View Post

      Thank you guys for your sharing of thoughts, I think these are all enough for me to learn more about the art of persuasion.
      Jayden, there's actually a good book on persuasion, called "Persuasion" by James Borg. Wonder if you've seen it before...
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  • Profile picture of the author Loren Woirhaye
    Check out Kevin Hogan's stuff. Body Language Expert, Speaker, Influence, Persuasion, Kevin Hogan - there is
    some awesome free material on there about persuasion and the
    bonuses for joining his list are killer.
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  • Profile picture of the author Loren Woirhaye
    Check out Kevin Hogan's stuff. Body Language Expert, Speaker, Influence, Persuasion, Kevin Hogan - there is
    some awesome free material on there about persuasion and the
    bonuses for joining his list are killer.
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    • Profile picture of the author MaskedMarketer
      Originally Posted by Loren Woirhaye View Post

      Check out Kevin Hogan's stuff. Body Language Expert, Speaker, Influence, Persuasion, Kevin Hogan - there is
      some awesome free material on there about persuasion and the
      bonuses for joining his list are killer.
      I think kevin hogan says the first step to persuasion is persuading yourself.

      Makes sense.
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      • Profile picture of the author Vick S
        Originally Posted by MaskedMarketer View Post

        I think kevin hogan says the first step to persuasion is persuading yourself.

        Makes sense.
        I couldn't agree more. People can smell phony a mile away.. If you want to persuade people to do something for you (use people) - you won't get very far.

        I think you have to become the person you want other's to be for you and be real, then people will just be attracted to you... I know this sounds bazzare but its true and works.
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        • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
          Originally Posted by Vick S View Post

          I couldn't agree more. People can smell phony a mile away.. If you want to persuade people to do something for you (use people) - you won't get very far.

          I think you have to become the person you want other's to be for you and be real, then people will just be attracted to you... I know this sounds bazzare but its true and works.

          Well said Vick. You must be the person to become the person, and part of being an attractive person is believing fully in whatever you have to offer.

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          • Profile picture of the author Gino Robin
            Hi,
            The Only truth in Persuasion..it lies in the ability to get the other persons's point of view...as to see things in that person..angle...as well as in your own.......................PUT YOURSELF IN THAT PERSON SHOES !

            Thanks I Apreciate
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  • Profile picture of the author megalinktraffic
    Look at the Issue or goal from the point of view of your client or customers and act accordingly or speak in their favour this will enable them take decision as u need..
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Hi jayden.fellze,

    1 - Build Trust

    If people trust you they can be persuaded by you.

    2 - Establish Authority

    Experts can persuade others easily, without the use of force.

    3 - Don't Force It

    Force negates. Don't try too hard. Simply build a relationship with whomever you wish to persuade and allow them to be convinced. The universe finds perfect matches for you when you allow it too.

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  • I...

    - Analyze person. Body language, mostly.

    - Adapt to that type of person.

    - Understand his/her needs.

    - Use some universal tool for influence. (example: provide a quick fix, find similarity etc)

    ...........

    This topic is too big for the forum post. Books have been written on the subject.
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    • Profile picture of the author Optimus Lime
      Originally Posted by he_who_brings_order View Post

      I...

      - Analyze person. Body language, mostly.

      - Adapt to that type of person.

      - Understand his/her needs.

      - Use some universal tool for influence. (example: provide a quick fix, find similarity etc)

      ...........

      This topic is too big for the forum post. Books have been written on the subject.
      good stuff!
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  • Profile picture of the author Gary Pettit
    With passion, integrity, and a spirit of willing helpfulness.
    Then they either are persuaded or not, but your work is done.
    "To thine own self be true."
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    • Profile picture of the author Brock Henry
      Originally Posted by sparkie2260 View Post

      With passion, integrity, and a spirit of willing helpfulness.
      Then they either are persuaded or not, but your work is done.
      "To thine own self be true."
      Frankly, I think this is the truth. More than anything, simply being authentic is what persuades. People aren't stupid. If you aren't offering something of true value, that will come across in your offer no matter how hard you try to hide it.
      So, the solution is to make sure that what you are offering has amazing real value. When that's the case, you'll truly believe in what you are offering, and the persuasion will just be a natural part of how you present what you have. Let your personal quality and the quality of what you are offering speak for itself.

      Over-sell = under-profit. Period.
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  • Profile picture of the author papacuppa
    Well, just bear in mind that 70% of communication is through body language -- The only meaning words have are the tone in which you use them.

    What does this mean? It means that any rapport you build can ultimately depend on factors outside of your immediate control!

    But there is a shining light...

    You can condition more self control and so become a better influencer.

    If I had to give a couple of points that are practical right now I'd say:

    --Genuinely share the interests of who your trying to build a relationship with
    --And smile!!
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    • Profile picture of the author ashrafsobli
      Here is a list of books that I recommend you to read of which I've personally read myself and found great values in them :

      1. Influence : The Psychology of Persuasion Robert Cialdini (This is the best)
      2. The Psychology of Persuasion : Kevin Hogan
      3. Secrets of Power Negotiating for Salespeople, Inside Secrets from A Master Negotiator : Roger Dawson
      4. Power Persuasion : Roger Dawson
      5. How To Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie ( Classic ! and my first book on psychology of persuasion )

      Use the knowledge wisely because in persuasion, there are always 2 sides.. good side and bad side ... bad side is where all the con men are
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  • Profile picture of the author slk
    The above post has great book references to read. For me, I persuade by being honest, upfront and pleasant. When you are confident (not arrogant) and love what you do, then others are drawn to you and will actually want what you have. You can become better at persuasion.
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  • Profile picture of the author xInd
    THE TRUTH. Even when they can't handle the truth.
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  • Profile picture of the author rawservices
    Develop rapport by mimicking their actions.

    They raise their voice you raise yours.

    They play with their hair, you do play with yours on the opposite side of your body.

    Notice the way they breathe and begin breathing that way.

    This is a fast, powerful way to develop rapport with anyone.

    Once you have the rapport down and you're a friend, use the techniques above.

    Good book: "How to Make Anyone Like You in 90 Seconds or Less"


    -Ryan
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    • Profile picture of the author judith obrien
      By being able to relate to them.If you have walked a mile in there shoes before than you can almost predict what they are going to say or maybe even going to do.But personally i think that wile it make work initially, it will cathch up to you in the long run.That is if you are doing it to anyone who has any common sence1
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  • Profile picture of the author Vincenzo Oliva
    To make it simple, don't ever tell people what to think or do, give them the information needed where they can draw their own conclusion, the conclusion you want ;-)
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