Is It Okay to Give Up?

by abugah
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Most people seem to believe that you should 'never ever give up'. In fact, I have three quotes here from respected personalities...

1. "Never, never, never give up!" ~ Winston Churchill

2. "Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

3. "Never consider the possibility of failure; as long as you persist, you will be successful." ~ Brian Tracy

4. "When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place." ~ Unknown

Much as I have enormous respect for Winston Churchill, Brian Tracy and Ralph Waldo Emerson, I don't agree with their statements above.

I have sometimes given up and the decision saved me pain, loss of money and dignity.

I am just wondering, is there anyone else who thinks under certain circumstances one should give up?
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  • It depends on what you are giving up on,

    If you are giving up on the ability to make money online in general, maybe that isn't the best decision unless you absolutely know it isn't for you.

    If it is just a particular project, then sometimes it is 'okay' to give up, or 'take a break' at the least. You cannot finish everything and make a profit on every project, learning when to cut your losses is actually a profitable trait.

    Going through pain/loss happens to be a milestone for most internet marketers, I know it sounds harsh but it is very true.

    Good luck bud!

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  • Profile picture of the author Carlton Johnson
    I think it is the words "Give up" that should probably be revised.

    Sometimes I go down a certain route only to find that I have taken a wrong path and it is not the right route to take and if I continue down it I will either lose money or something else negative will happen. So in this situation would me changing path be seen as me "giving up" or would it be seen as me using my common sense and making an educated choose to change path?

    Being stuborn and sticking with something that is not working in the name of "not giving up" is a fast way to heart ache and failure.

    So while I understand the core of "not giving up" I think clarificatin needs to be made and it needs to be put into context.
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  • Profile picture of the author Brant
    It all depends upon what exactly you are giving up on, or that is "quitting". Have you failed along the lines of trying a certain path to get to your successful future and find that you should quit it? Have you found a certain technique to not work for you? Have you been in a job, position, or partnership with someone who is not giving you what you know you deserve or have earned? These are all things that you should give up on.

    But, give up on your dreams? Your own goals? Your financial aspirations? Never!
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  • Profile picture of the author joefizz
    Hey Abugah,

    Thanks for reminding of those quotes...I love 3 of them and use 2 regularly....

    The answer to your question is....

    ... absolutely NOT!

    If you are considering your future, then just take time to re-focus.

    My all time favourite quote is by Confucius:

    " It doesn't matter how fast you go, as long as you do not stop "

    Llwyddiant!

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  • Profile picture of the author sabinavarga
    Mr. Einstein defined "insanity" as "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Doesn't that encourage giving up?

    If you 'give up' because you get a better idea on how to get the results, or you 'give up' because the results simply aren't relevant to you anymore, that's okay.

    If you simply stop because it's more comfortable not to put the effort in anymore, if you'd still like to get the results but you settle for less, than it's probably not okay. It doesn't make you insane, but it will probably make you frustrated.
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    • One author I remember from a few years ago put it very well: he said that there's a difference between being persistent and being stupid.

      If you are trying to break through a wall, and the wall doesn't yield when you bang your head against it, you should certainly give up on banging your head against it. That doesn't mean you can't find a different way of breaking the wall.
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    • Profile picture of the author Techology
      Originally Posted by sabinavarga View Post

      Mr. Einstein defined "insanity" as "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
      This must have been in his dementia years Persistence is everything
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  • Profile picture of the author JOhnreal412
    It depends upon the work you are doing!
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  • Profile picture of the author warriorjeterboy
    We must know when to give up or not.
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  • Profile picture of the author JeniferStarr
    I think there's a difference between "giving up" and changing directions. Sometimes what you're doing just doesn't work for you and it's time to reevaluate. Then you can refine your goals and take new steps toward them. That's the opposite of giving up.
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  • Profile picture of the author sdingram
    Sometimes I need to put everything on "pause." Just hit the pause button on everything, and take stock of where I am, if I'm on track, and if I need to course-correct.

    If you write down your goals and then divide your big goals into smaller quarterly goals, then down to monthly targets, it's pretty easy to see if you're on track or not.

    It's amazing to me how few people actually write down their goals. Successful people don't just "wing it" - they have a plan and they know exactly what they're doing.

    So to answer your question, "Is it ok to give up?" I will say that I think sometimes it's good to correct the path you're on if you find you're not going in the direction that is in alignment with your goals. But don't give up!
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  • Profile picture of the author pjdengler
    There are definitely times when you should re evaluate what you are doing. If you can see now that what you are working on is not feasible or financially smart, it may be a good idea to "give up" and use your time on a better plan. If someone wants to give up because they are lazy and just don't feel like doing it, I think that is never good.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Ten
    For real! Giving up is a great way to get on the path to failure.
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  • Profile picture of the author alcymart
    Basically, if you don't like what you want to give up, Yes, nothing wrong, in fact, you shouldn't dwell on it too long and just quit, however if you do like doing what you want to give up, then it is wrong to Quit because success is indeed around the corner.
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  • Profile picture of the author angelinebobby
    Give up is good quality..Because of give up we do not loss anything..So no probs
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  • Profile picture of the author NezNezAt5
    There's no right or wrong to give up. It depends on what perspective you are looking from. To some, giving up is simply for losers, but sometimes, you have to ask yourself, is it worth giving up on what you have, or is it a change of direction for the better.

    Of course giving up too easily is not a good thing as certain things or event may takes time to see result.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jennifer Eagan
    I suggest never give up. This is my experience that if u give up you will never be successful in your life. Always try hard and keep trying and one day you will definitely be a successful man in your life. In field of internet marketing i lost a lot of money and time but i never give and today i am successful man just because of hard work. Thanks
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  • Profile picture of the author Evocess
    Giving up will give you 2 outputs it could be positive or negative. It's not bad to give up because that is an option. Just think twice before you decide for a certain decision like giving up. Know first what would be the positive and negative consequences before you take action.

    Wise man thinks many times before taking some actions.
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  • Profile picture of the author DemiWallis
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    I don't think that giving up is okay. NO matter what problems you encounter you should never give up, you shoud never think that you are weak and that others are better than you. Motivate yourself and you will acheive great thing! Never back down in front of a problem! Fight it and it will be much better after you have solve it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sum1
    abugah

    It's a mindset thing. To "give up" is a negative concept. It associates with defeat and gives birth to helplessness.

    Try this instead. Whatever it is you are doing:

    This method is not producing the results I need.
    Let's learn from this and modify the method. It is time to do something "differently".
    Sometime many things need to be done differently to navigate past your own hurdles.

    This way you keep the goal in sight and that in itself is a victory.

    To give up is to abandon the goal. That is a very expensive message to send your subconcious.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kaie
      Sure, it is ok, but maybe reframing it and rewording it so it doesn't sound so defeating.

      I recently released a former ambition/passion of mine, and it was the best thing. It freed me to fully follow things that were more appropriate for me.

      The funny thing is that now I am on my path, fully, and I am now finding my way back to that old passion, but it is more correct for me now. If I had simply thought of it as "giving up," I would probably never have the opportunity to re-discover it and come back to it in a more balanced way.
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  • Profile picture of the author hireava
    I can't say that it is okay or not okay to give up. It really depends upon the situation.
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  • Profile picture of the author StoneP31
    Giving up isn't the same as leaving a business deal, stock, relationship anything that isn't worth effort and can be potentially harmful or risky. Be smart with your money and your life, but never give up on your dreams. Pain is temporary
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  • Profile picture of the author abugah
    Originally Posted by Carlton Johnson View Post

    I think it is the words "Give up" that should probably be revised.

    Sometimes I go down a certain route only to find that I have taken a wrong path and it is not the right route to take and if I continue down it I will either lose money or something else negative will happen. So in this situation would me changing path be seen as me "giving up" or would it be seen as me using my common sense and making an educated choose to change path?

    Being stuborn and sticking with something that is not working in the name of "not giving up" is a fast way to heart ache and failure.

    So while I understand the core of "not giving up" I think clarificatin needs to be made and it needs to be put into context.

    Okay… these are some definitions of giving up: Give up what is not strictly needed; Put an end to a state or an activity; Give up in the face of defeat of lacking hope; admit defeat; Give up with the intent of never claiming again.
    I guess then a bit of common sense should prevail in certain circumstances.


    Originally Posted by sabinavarga View Post

    Mr. Einstein defined "insanity" as "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Doesn't that encourage giving up? [IMG]file:///C:/Users/James/AppData/Local/Temp/msohtmlclip1/01/clip_image001.gif[/IMG]

    If you 'give up' because you get a better idea on how to get the results, or you 'give up' because the results simply aren't relevant to you anymore, that's okay.

    If you simply stop because it's more comfortable not to put the effort in anymore, if you'd still like to get the results but you settle for less, than it's probably not okay. It doesn't make you insane, but it will probably make you frustrated.
    I like your perspective. What's clearly not working belongs to the trash can.


    Originally Posted by Hopeless Bromantic View Post

    One author I remember from a few years ago put it very well: he said that there's a difference between being persistent and being stupid.

    If you are trying to break through a wall, and the wall doesn't yield when you bang your head against it, you should certainly give up on banging your head against it. That doesn't mean you can't find a different way of breaking the wall.
    I guess one should use common sense to either drill through the wall or jump over it; whichever is the smartest way under the conditions prevailing.


    Originally Posted by Techology View Post

    This must have been in his dementia years [IMG]file:///C:/Users/James/AppData/Local/Temp/msohtmlclip1/01/clip_image002.gif[/IMG]Persistence is everything [IMG]file:///C:/Users/James/AppData/Local/Temp/msohtmlclip1/01/clip_image001.gif[/IMG]
    This perhaps the best I have heard about Einstein in years.
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    Thanks to everyone for the candid eye-opening replies.

    J. Abugah
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  • Profile picture of the author Kragsig
    Winston Churchill starts your post with one of the best quotes ever! Never give up!

    Of course the circumstances will affect your decision, but have in mind, that when everything seems to be bad, there is only one thing it can get and that's better
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  • Profile picture of the author infinityplr
    It depends on the situation of course, but in general, why would you even think about giving up? Changing your direction, your route, course or what ever you want to call it, it not giving up.

    Those quotations are always have been remarkable.

    I'll leave this one here, a quote I read from a fiction novel before, but I cannot remember the title anymore.

    Wisdom is knowing when to be doing and when it is useless even to try.

    This quote however is not the same about giving up. It merely suggest to step back and regroup, attack the situation in another manner, style or technique
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  • Profile picture of the author SuperDJ
    Depends on the situation. If it's something that I enjoy and the feeling of giving up enters my mind; I always tell myself that I'd rather die. Ambition is too great in me to give up. I'm too young to let the fire burn out haha. It has barely even lit.
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  • It depends on what you want to give up. If you are doing something that you don't really want to do then you should really give up. But if you love what you are doing you won't even think of giving up even if you are having a hard time doing it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Viramara
    I don't like the idea of "giving up" -- but rather "changing direction". Giving up is quit.

    I've read an analogy somewhere about a mosquito who wants to get to outdoor through a window. But he keeps hitting the glass. No matter how persistent he is trying to hit the glass, he'll never get out of there because he keeps doing it the wrong way
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  • Profile picture of the author Techology
    Will Smith quoted Confucious on a video I saw somewhere about mindset: "whether you think you can or whether you think you can't you are probably right"
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  • Profile picture of the author fitnesslover1
    this really depends on what you define "giving up" to be. I think you are confusing giving up with being irrational, unrealistic, and being unhappy. You choose what you are striving for and what your goals are. If you realize that the path that you have chosen for yourself is not for you, then choosing a different path is not giving up, in my opinion. I can relate this to basketball for me. I almost called it quits after my freshman year when things got rough for me. I was not happy with my life and basketball was not working for me anymore. I really wanted to quit and very nearly did. I did not however. I just realized that after the year, that the program was not for me and I transferred schools and it ended up being the greatest decision of my life. A lot of my peers would have called transferring to be "giving up" but I just consider it a change of path for the better.
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    • Profile picture of the author Walter Parrish
      I guess it all depends on the situation. I mean if you were throwing away money to an online scam, give up. On the other hand if you are putting money and energy into something that seems to be more than you can handle at the time then I wouldn't really consider that giving up. It all depends on the Situation. :confused:

      True Story:
      Somewhere around a year ago I decided to start my own social network, I figured I had enough supporters and figured I could kick fb's azz good. I began to learn thing's I never knew about business and that is that Strategic Management is alive and well, I also learned that these corporations work together and are larger than most countries put together.

      Anyway, Initially I began to seek funds and started to notice something odd. The new net laws that were being pushed each time I had success, as well as bit's and piece of my project being used by the major Social Sites. And I won't even talk about things like net access being shut down in my whole area. I had bitten off more than I could chew, so the project is on the back burner and guess what? After rediscovering IM it will probably stay there.

      I realized something about Internet Marketing and that is that Internet Marketers are quietly making more money than the major Social Sites ever will, without all the problems that a Social Site has to face or the type of competition.

      So Yes sometimes Giving Up Is A Very Good Thing Especially if it's to get something Bigger & Better.

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  • Profile picture of the author Mattias
    Its okay to fail,
    but donĀ“t give up.

    This is a quote by Thomas Edison " Why would I feel like a failure? And why would I ever give up? I now know definitively over 9,000 ways that an electric light bulb will not work. Success is almost in my grasp." About 10,000 attempts later he invented the light bulb.
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  • Profile picture of the author AMABIZ
    I don't give up easily, but I also don't believe it's a sign of weakness. You have to know when to cut your losses. Some interesting perspectives above.
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    • Profile picture of the author Denden
      Depends what you're giving up on. Do you *really* want it or are you not that fussed...

      If you really desire something then take a breather if you must but don't give up (i.e quit) forever.
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  • Profile picture of the author kolbywhite28
    Originally Posted by abugah View Post

    Is It Okay to Give Up?
    It's okay if you are a wuss.

    Are you???
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  • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
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    It's a situational thing, really. In the context that those three quotes were taken from I would agree with the sentiment. Now, if we want to talk about trying to run your own business, I think it is just fine to give up if things just aren't working. This kind of thing isn't for everyone, and there is no shame in learning that you are not in fact an entrepreneur. Everyone can't be one.
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    • Profile picture of the author briansacks
      cWARNING: THIS ONE IS DEEP-- BUT WORTH IT!

      I think you are asking the wrong question-
      Which is a common problem many have -- so here is a solution for all of my fellow warriors to consider.

      First- first if you read Think and Grow Rich and other motivational programs they all quote the NEVER GIVE UP concept.
      BTW- if you haven't read it yet it's free at
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      It's a book everyone should read at least twice a year.

      IN THE BOOK HILL QUOTES A STORY
      the story is about a general who leads his troops to battle to attack an enemy country.
      They must sail there since the country is accross the ocean.

      When they get there the general tells his troops to burn their ships so that THEY HAVE TO WIN....
      or die.

      good story BUT!!!!!

      If you read Hill's autobiography he did some wonderful things but was also a jerk to his family who stopped speaking to him ( wife and kids)
      and he was dead broke at the end of his career until W Clement Stone found him and brought him back to lecturing so he could get back on his feet.

      HOW DOES THAT HAPPEN? to THE guy who wrote the most influential success book of all time?

      That's what I was wondering myself-
      Until I started reading another book --
      WHICH YOU ALL SHOULD ORDER RIGHT NOW!!!!!!
      Called Psycho -cybernetics by Dr Maxwell Maltz
      It's what all NLP and current success ideas are based on.

      SO HERE'S THE BIG IDEA !!!
      I have coached business owners and professionals for over 12 years on success- direct marketing - time management and other important profit producing skills.

      I'm going to answer the question by giving you all a step by step process ok?

      1. Step 1 - find out what you really want to do
      What woudl your ideal income and life be

      2. Step 2-
      What skills do you have! or could you learn?

      3. Step 3-
      Now decide HOW you are going to do it and give it a definite date for accomplishment

      4. STEP 4 THE BIG ONE-- get going doing it

      5. Every week you should
      A. Decide if what you are looking at right now or doing right now is getting you closer or taking you further away.
      B. Start doing ONLY the things that bring you closer.

      So in conclusion ----
      It's not a matter of quitting or Never Quitting
      It's really an issue of
      1. Can you see yourself as ___________________.
      ( read psycho cybernetics)
      2. Is what you are doing - or is this project in sync.
      See the issue is most of us just start doing and never consider the consequencs of success or failure

      *yes- success sometimes is NOT the best result !!!!
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      • Profile picture of the author Walter Parrish
        Originally Posted by briansacks View Post

        cWARNING: THIS ONE IS DEEP-- BUT WORTH IT!
        I still say if you are making and selling horse and buggy whips in 2012 you may have the best product, but you won't make a billion doing that. Sometimes you have to either rethink what you're doing or realize that you failed.

        Interesting you mentioned motivational crowd, are you aware that a good percentage of them were once homeless? What would would one learn while being homeless? To do the work, while others sleep.
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        • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
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          Originally Posted by Walter Parrish View Post

          I still say if you are making and selling horse and buggy whips in 2012 you may have the best product, but you won't make a billion doing that. Sometimes you have to either rethink what you're doing or realize that you failed.
          I agree, mostly. There is a situation where that can work: rural Pennsylvania .
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          • Profile picture of the author Walter Parrish
            Originally Posted by Joe Robinson View Post

            I agree, mostly. There is a situation where that can work: rural Pennsylvania .
            lol Joe, you may be right but I doubt you will make a Billion there.
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            • Profile picture of the author coolgig
              I believe its only naturally after a series of losses to think that when your current path isn't going well it may make sense to give up.

              I'm facing that battle now :rolleyes:
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  • Profile picture of the author crx
    I must agree.
    It's healthy to know when to give up on something that's not giving good results.
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  • Profile picture of the author Cece and Mark
    When you're following your passion there may be moments when you consider giving up...but DON'T. No matter how difficult or challenging things become, the moment you give up you've lost all your chances for success. So...NO...NEVER give up.

    However...if you find that you're dreading each day because you're doing osmething you truly don't love and don't have passion for, then by all means you should "give up." Hope this helps.

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  • Profile picture of the author ebiz1
    I personally think that you are confusing the path with your goal.....the Goal should always remain the same, and those quotes are with regards to your goal. Now the path is yours to decide, which one to take, or to test or to change, trying a new way ext..If you are doing any of these, you are getting closer to your goal!
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  • The 'feel' of give up is a sign to us, that we must keep our chin up and face the world with greater spirit.
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    • Profile picture of the author Gianni
      Originally Posted by Indraraja Purbosatryo View Post

      The 'feel' of give up is a sign to us, that we must keep our chin up and face the world with greater spirit.

      Yes, you are right on that one my dear friend.

      Face the world with dignity, great spirit, do not let harsh circumstances bring you down.

      well said.

      All the best.
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  • Profile picture of the author Gianni
    Good post.

    I think we all feel the same way sometimes.

    Giving up is part of the process to achieve the top of whatever we want in this life.

    We will find a lot of pain, and obstacles on the way, only those who really strong will see success.

    I hope that helps a little bit.
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  • Profile picture of the author Larbi Rahmani
    sometimes in life we need to let go of things that we love, in order to achieve greater things.
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  • Profile picture of the author BugHo
    It is ok to give up on things that does not work.
    But it is also more difficult should you decide to restart what you have given up previously.
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    • Profile picture of the author kpierce
      For me it is okay to give up on things that don't work for you....or on things that are working against you....

      If something is starting to make things worse, rather than solve a problem, then there's absolutely a need to start rethinking your objectives and goals...and go another route...

      There's always another route to where we are eyeing to go to. It just takes understanding of what works for you and what doesn't to fully comprehend it all.

      Like I always say, goals and dreams don't have to stop when circumstances change. The possibilities are endless for each one of us.

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  • Profile picture of the author jrgattison
    Well I believe things should be determined by some guidelines set up beforehand. There are also different categories that we have to take into consideration when we ask this question.
    One of the biggest mistakes you can make (at least for us as internet marketers or even as wannabes) is to go into this thing with the mindset that it might be OK to give up.
    Trials are going to come, issues are going to reveal themselves, setbacks are inevitable but if you have the mindset that you won't give up you can "keep going when the going gets tough".
    But if you have the mindset that it may be alright to give up then when something arises that appears to be unbearable you are going to quit.
    Here's another quote "No temptation has overtaken you except what is uncommon to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it." 1 Cor 10:13 NIV

    Just ask people that are making things happen online and you'll soon find out that they have been through some things that would cause average people to quit and think it's ok that they did so.

    Make the decision to not give up on something unless you are definitely moving on to something greater.

    An example before I shut up is that about 12 years ago I decided to start selling on ebay and make a living doing so. I decided then not to quit. My wife rebelled against me, the people in my circle of influence advised me against it and my family were of no support.

    What's funny is that people looked at me and at times would think that I was poor or doing bad because I would go through some tough times. Hell, I went through the same kinds of tough times when I had a JOB. The difference after I made that decision was that I was in control and had the ability to tweak things in order to make more money or create more time availability.

    I'm still here 12 years later but have been transitioning into something better doing affiliate marketing and product creation. I'm still here building my business online while "they" are still there going from JOB to JOB, complaining about the economy and wanting me to give up my time to run their errands because they have to work 10 hours a day no matter what to maintain.

    Last December my family of 5 took a month long trip to Florida along with a 7 day cruise. I'm in this for the long haul, trials and all. I working to grow and expand my life, not give it up as I get older.

    One more thing is that saving pain, losing money and losing dignity might be reflective of the need to look a certain way in the eyes of our peer group which in reality might need to be looked upon as indicators of moving toward greatness. People become considered great normally when they do something that is out of the norm or that people frown upon or that people think is "impossible".

    Think About It. "Never, never, never give up!" ~ Winston Churchill


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    • Profile picture of the author Walter Parrish
      Originally Posted by andiqu View Post

      Do not give up.
      If you surrender, you will lose a wonderful moment to produce millions of buck
      or loose your shirt lol
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  • Profile picture of the author kaanb1
    Of course it is ok to give up.

    One must choose his/her battles wisely. A strategic retreat is often better than a sure loss. Use your resources wisely and act accordingly.

    Now, one must set the scope of "Giving up"

    Give up and go to sleep when you see you have a frustrating and non-productive day where everything goes wrong? You can always pick up where you left tomorrow... Seems good to me ...

    Give up on life and commit suicide? Bad idea ....

    So it depends how this that you are giving up on, how it fits in your bigger plan, idea, ecosystem of life, mission, destination and philosophy...

    When you "give up" -you can even think about it as a metaphor of movement for a change... you "give" something "up" (to whom? to a "higher" force? - expect aid from God or the universe) ? ... Well, your wishes may or may not be granted.
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  • Profile picture of the author Niceness
    If something is not working, it just means your plans need to be revised. Period. You can always revise your plans until they work. Or someone can lead you in the right direction if you can't figure it out.

    If you have no passion for what you're doing, I'd say drop that quickly.
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    • Profile picture of the author heavysm
      I don't call it giving up. For me its just reinvesting energy. If i see that an investment isn't giving me proper returns I have to shift my focus slightly to see WHAT will give me ample return on investment.

      Giving up on Google adwords was a huge relief for me years ago. That allowed me to shift focus for the other networks and therefore benefited me. Now if i had said its time to stop IM, that's me tossing all my cards in when i didn't know i had a decent hand. After you reach a certain point in educating yourself, you should be able to intelligently know whether the cost of giving something up is better than sticking with the stress and patience it takes to get through it.

      Am i saying it should be obvious if you're educated enough? Not at all. I'm just saying there is a difference between stepping back a little to minimize your losses to reinvest elsewhere and stepping away from the entire scene just because you don't think profit is possible.
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  • Profile picture of the author gwyrivera
    There are times when you really need to give up and stop for awhile its part of life.
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  • Profile picture of the author DriftZ
    I admit it can be okay at times but the word " give up" sounds way too demoralizing, maybe switch up the words?
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  • Profile picture of the author hyonglin
    You can back-out from circumstances but you can never give up on your objectives.
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  • When it comes to business you must know how to make decision, but you never give up on business you just switch plan. So, never give up.
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  • Profile picture of the author stopper
    I would certainly give up if i did not have all the information required for a realistic chance.
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  • Profile picture of the author LisaAllen
    It's okay to give up...

    Things that are "Urgent" but not really important
    Things that are not contributing to your happiness
    Things that are complicating your life
    Bad habits
    Time wasters
    Things that are not inspiring you
    Things that are stealing your dreams...

    It's not okay to give up on your dreams!
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    • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
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      Originally Posted by LisaAllen View Post

      It's not okay to give up on your dreams!
      Unless it's horribly unrealistic. Say, wanting to be a pizza .
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      • Profile picture of the author FreshApproach
        I believe you should never give up on your goals and dreams. However, it's perfectly fine (encouraged even!) to change or adjust the method you use to achieve those goals and dreams.
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  • Profile picture of the author DonnyBoy
    I'd say give up on too many great ideas and focus on just a handlful that you love doing the most. We at times spread ourselves too thinly that we end up being medicore in everything and superior on none.
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  • Profile picture of the author walksonthebeach
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    If you continue on to fail, step aside from IM for awhile. Do other things, like jog, chill with your family and do fun stuff basically.

    Once you put your failures behind, that's when you get back to work! :p
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  • Profile picture of the author AigulErali
    Patience, Persistence - are main keys! Persistence is similar to patience, yet different. Waiting sounds more passive. But persistence infers action.

    Notice I didn't include passion as a key. That's because passion is a given, do what you love to do.

    Never, Ever Give Up On Yourself! We need to try, and even if we fail, at least we can be honestly proud of the attempt.

    Don't think about the things you can't do. Think about the things you can do. There are no limitations to what we can do except the limitations we put on ourselves.

    We all have the ability to totally transform every area in our lives. Nothing meaningful happens by itself, though. We have to make it come our way, by our own efforts. Organize your thoughts into plans. Then make your thoughts reality by taking some action.

    just my 2 cents,

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  • Profile picture of the author WhiteStarlight
    For me it is ok to give up only in one case: you are giving up in one discipline to succeed in another.

    Let me explain. For example you are struggling to succeed in baseball, but you find out that you are doing really well and have talent for football. Then it is ok to give up on baseball and concentrate on what you are doing well, in this case on football.
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  • Profile picture of the author abugah
    Originally Posted by Viramara View Post

    I don't like the idea of "giving up" -- but rather "changing direction". Giving up is quit.

    I've read an analogy somewhere about a mosquito who wants to get to outdoor through a window. But he keeps hitting the glass. No matter how persistent he is trying to hit the glass, he'll never get out of there because he keeps doing it the wrong way


    First time I am hearing the mosquito analogy-I like it. It would be great if we borrowed this kind of persistence.

    Originally Posted by briansacks View Post

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    Originally Posted by jrgattison View Post

    An example before I shut up is that about 12 years ago I decided to start selling on ebay and make a living doing so. I decided then not to quit. My wife rebelled against me, the people in my circle of influence advised me against it and my family were of no support.

    Kendall


    I have noticed that most successful people get rejected at first; their ideas are rubbished. I guess that is normal because people rarely embrace new ideas.

    Thanks everyone for the insightful comments.
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  • Profile picture of the author rising_sun
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    Never give up means stick with it till success ,
    But for which thing you are hang out till success ?
    Just sure about your goal,and then try till success.

    If you wanna move a wall and try to stick with it till success ,then you are the great fool in the world.
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  • Profile picture of the author MrGelin
    Give up former things to achieve greater results? Yes!

    Give up all-together and accept failure? Absoultely not!
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  • Profile picture of the author Mimo2012
    Never give up on family, fun and money, except these you must be ready to give up anything else.
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  • Profile picture of the author essexlad2k11
    NOPE no excuses!
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  • Profile picture of the author lMlariaVC
    There are no people who fail, only people who give up before the magic happens.
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  • Profile picture of the author Johnphoto
    We give up anything for different logical reason. It can be said that give up is of two kinds. One to protect ourselves, I mean, to save our life, energy and money. And another is when we fail to achieve something.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mousumi
    Yes, We must give up on something in order to move forward......

    Giving up represents a choice you make when you decide not to take action on something over which you actually do have control. Sometimes giving up can make you more successful than hanging on and staying where you are.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
    Originally Posted by abugah View Post

    I am just wondering, is there anyone else who thinks under certain circumstances one should give up?
    Absolutely! If I'm heading in the wrong direction it would be insane NOT to give up. I've never understood this preoccupation some people have with "never giving up". Knowing when to give up can save your life, save you money, save you time, save your marriage, save a friendship and will leave the way open for heading in the right direction.

    Knowing when to give up is essential to success.

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  • Profile picture of the author Rodger Hood
    "Giving up" doesn't mean to quit.

    Give up old methods and techniques which are not helping you any more.

    Give up those idea which fall you down in darkness of negativity.

    Give up laziness and fear which stops you to make action.
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  • Profile picture of the author jjbalagosa
    I tried starting a thread on a similar topic. The answers you got are so much better! I totally agree that we should reword "giving up" to "changing direction."

    As long as you aren't giving up on things like advancing in life or being happy, then you're in good shape.
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  • Profile picture of the author Marlin Winters
    yes, but give up those ideas let you down.

    no need to give up your work, learn more about it!
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  • Profile picture of the author kasei
    I think that perseverance is important part on the way to success, but I am completely sure that when Albert Einstain said:
    "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. " was right. There is a fine line between insanity and knowing when to give up doing the things the same way.
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  • Profile picture of the author CalSullivan
    Giving up is for losers. Be a winner!
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    • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
      Originally Posted by CalSullivan View Post

      Giving up is for losers. Be a winner!
      lol...reminds me of a t-Shirt I once saw that said...

      REHAB IS FOR LOSERS!

      Giving up is a great idea in many situations. What about giving up smoking cigarettes, fatty foods, throwing stones at people, being negative, taking illicit drugs, being an alcoholic?...giving up is for losers? Or is giving up for winners too?

      Winners give up all sorts of things all the time.
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  • Profile picture of the author rollyinduro
    It is okay to give up if there's no more reasons to pursue. Why waste time, energy, and resources?
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  • Profile picture of the author Anthony Gibson
    It wouldn't be giving up if you adopt a new strategy in pursuit of the same overall goal.
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    • Profile picture of the author kayebee
      I don't think it's ever ok to give up. There are a few negative habits I have that I'm trying to let go of but I don't think it's the same as giving up on a dream. If you feel strongly about anything then it's not ok to give up. Even if you're not doing well and have failed constantly. I have struggled for years with my artwork but I'm not giving up. I did give up on internet marketing for quite some time before coming back and I truly regret giving up in the first place. I lost so much time that could have been spent learning from the mistakes I made. Life is too short to give up on the dream. Once you do you can't get that time back. Until you can time travel, giving up is not an option.
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  • Profile picture of the author WarrenPeterson
    Of course it is ok to give up at things. The questions to ask are what are you giving up, and why are you giving it up.

    If you are giving up something that is destructive to you and/or your family, then yes give it up.

    If you are giving up something that you still believe in, but others around you have told you to give it up, then you shouldn't.

    Don't confuse giving up with doing something different towards a similar goal.
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  • Profile picture of the author AlphaWarrior
    I don't remember where, but I read in one book where the author said "don't race a three legged horse" and the key is knowing when you have a three leg horse.

    To me, it seems that the decision to quit revolves around a broad goal or a specific tactic.

    If your goal is to earn money on the internet (a broad goal) and you have tried several methods/plans/systems (specific tactics), but have not been successful, then try another method/plan/system. The path to fulfilling your goal is broad and there are many ways to reach your goal on the internet.

    If your goal is to earn money from AdSense by writing articles on a certain topic (a specific tactic), but you do not have the viewers because the search volume is low, then you might be trying to race a three legged horse. You might need to quit and try something else.

    Thomas Edison didn't invent the light bulb (a broad goal) by limiting his experimenting to only one possible filament (a specific tactic), determined to make it work. Instead, when a possible filament did not work, he moved on to the next possible filament (different tactic). He never quit his broad goal, but he did quit many specific tactics.
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  • Profile picture of the author fitnesslover1
    I think the words we use are very powerful. In many cases realizing that something isn't effective or isn't working can be very important. I don't like the phrase "give up" however because it implies that you are admitting defeat. I prefer a change of heart or to follow a new path instead, but more or less it is all the same. "giving up" is not always something negative.
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  • Profile picture of the author jackiej21
    As long as you are not giving up for the wrong reasons! Giving up on something doomed to failure should be seen as a brave acceptance that there is no point continuing with somethint that will never produce the results you wanted at the beginning. People, governments and countries can all change the landscape over time.
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  • Profile picture of the author Chris Gray
    Don't give up ideas and plans which can lead you to success. need is to give up those negative thoughts which scare you to take action.
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