How can I focus? Please Help.

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Dear warriors,
My greatest issue with my online venture is Focus. I am not talking only about the usual " jumping to he next shinny object" syndrome, but also the difficulty to focus on completing all the task needed to get something up and running.

I mean there is so many task to be done, from setting up a website, copy writing, auto-responder set up with following messages...etc just to name a few.

Do you guys do everything by yourselves? How do you plan and execute so many task if you are not full time at the moment.

I know outsourcing but it also take pretty much the same amount of time and energy communicating to get the thing "the way" you want it.

Anyone have the same problem with me?
Can you share how you cope with all this?

Thanks
JS
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  • Profile picture of the author Patrick Batty
    This could be, and I'm sure is a complete wso on it's own..

    But in a nutshell the best thing you can do is set some goals.
    Set them for long term, medium term, and for each day.
    Prioritize them.. which one's give you the most benefit, the soonest.

    But above all, give your self some for each day at the start of the day.. then knock them off one my one.

    Also.. one cool little trick issomething called the Pomadoro Method.. I'll let you google it to find out about it. It's very effective.
    All the best.. It was a great question.
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    • Profile picture of the author mrjasonser
      Originally Posted by Patrick Batty View Post

      Also.. one cool little trick is something called the Pomadoro Method.. I'll let you google it to find out about it. It's very effective.
      .
      Thanks Patrick, I will check it out, but can you help explain briefly in laymen terms what "Pomadoro Method" is about?
      Do I have to spend money to learn that?
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      • Profile picture of the author Patrick Batty
        Originally Posted by mrjasonser View Post

        Thanks Patrick, I will check it out, but can you help explain briefly in laymen terms what "Pomadoro Method" is about?
        Do I have to spend money to learn that?
        No you dont need to spend money to learn it.

        Pomodoro Technique - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

        But you need to have a timer of some sort that counts down.

        Here's a free online one someone has created (not me) so you get the idea.
        http://www.online-stopwatch.com/pomodoro-timer/

        So essentially,
        1) write down your tasks for the day
        2) Rank them
        3) do them in order
        4) don't multi-task.. just one task at a time
        5) set the timer, do the task
        6) if it's more than a twenty five minute item.. take a short break between.. set timer and continue
        7) move from one task to the next.

        Strangely, it works like a charm! (I think even the subtle little ticking of the timer helps remind you that you are 'on the clock'.
        And you get to enjoy what you've accomplished at the end of the day.
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  • Profile picture of the author jjbalagosa
    This is something that I do and it helps me.

    Write everything down. Just dump all of your to-dos on paper. Spend about 20 minutes to an hour doing this first. Try getting everything out of your head and put it on paper.

    Once you have a list, do an 80/20 analysis on it. Prioritize the top 20% of tasks that will make the most impact on your business.

    In internet marketing, that almost always equates to traffic and conversions.

    Once your list is ordered, start crackin!

    DO ONE TASK AT A TIME! Don't move on to another task until the one you're on is complete or you cannot work on it anymore because of something out of your control. (IE power outage, natural disaster, etc...)

    I'm a huge advocate in killing the idea that multitasking is good. It just creates chaos and half assed work, in my opinion.

    Hope this helps. Good luck!
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    • Profile picture of the author mrjasonser
      Originally Posted by jjbalagosa View Post


      I'm a huge advocate in killing the idea that multitasking is good. It just creates chaos and half assed work, in my opinion.
      I am kind of a victim to this. Thanks.
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    • Profile picture of the author Patrick Batty
      Originally Posted by jjbalagosa View Post

      This is something that I do and it helps me.

      Write everything down. Just dump all of your to-dos on paper. Spend about 20 minutes to an hour doing this first. Try getting everything out of your head and put it on paper.

      Once you have a list, do an 80/20 analysis on it. Prioritize the top 20% of tasks that will make the most impact on your business.

      In internet marketing, that almost always equates to traffic and conversions.

      Once your list is ordered, start crackin!

      DO ONE TASK AT A TIME! Don't move on to another task until the one you're on is complete or you cannot work on it anymore because of something out of your control. (IE power outage, natural disaster, etc...)

      I'm a huge advocate in killing the idea that multitasking is good. It just creates chaos and half assed work, in my opinion.

      Hope this helps. Good luck!
      Hey Jeff.. that's a darned good post, my man.

      I'm with you on the whole multi-tasking issue.. good way to get nothing accomplished quickly IMHO.
      Thanks
      Patrick
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      • Profile picture of the author Cam Connor
        "...modern psychology tells us that when we start something and do not complete it, or make a resolution and do not keep it, we are forming the habit of failure; absolute, ignominious failure. If you do not intend to do a thing, do not start; if you do start, see it through even if the heavens fall; if you make up your mind to do something, do it; let nothing, no one, interfere; the "I" in you has determined, the thing is settled; the die is cast, there is no longer any argument."
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        Let the encouragement sink in...

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        • Profile picture of the author MKaren
          Hi,

          we are on the same boat!!..since I've been working online for years now and excited to know more about different things and want to be flexible and updated I often overlooked the fact that I have a goal.

          How I cope?though I'm out of focus at times my goal always bring me back to the tracking field(chase the dream not the competition as they say).

          I always take time to think of what I want to achieve regardless if it means to take a break.(which I rarely do by the way).


          Hope this helps.
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          • Profile picture of the author mrjasonser
            Originally Posted by MKaren View Post

            Hi,
            I always take time to think of what I want to achieve regardless if it means to take a break.
            Hope this helps.
            HI MKaren,
            That's the thing, I wanted to finish all the task sometimes that I can't bring myself to break. Maybe that's what I can try.
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    • Profile picture of the author Anthony Gibson
      Originally Posted by jjbalagosa View Post

      This is something that I do and it helps me.

      Write everything down. Just dump all of your to-dos on paper. Spend about 20 minutes to an hour doing this first. Try getting everything out of your head and put it on paper.

      Once you have a list, do an 80/20 analysis on it. Prioritize the top 20% of tasks that will make the most impact on your business.

      In internet marketing, that almost always equates to traffic and conversions.

      Once your list is ordered, start crackin!

      DO ONE TASK AT A TIME! Don't move on to another task until the one you're on is complete or you cannot work on it anymore because of something out of your control. (IE power outage, natural disaster, etc...)

      I'm a huge advocate in killing the idea that multitasking is good. It just creates chaos and half assed work, in my opinion.

      Hope this helps. Good luck!
      Couldn't agree more.

      Henry Ford: "The largest task in the world can be accomplished if broken down into enough small steps."

      First step could be "clearing your desk" etc...

      Eventually you will build up so much momentum you will be foaming at the mouth to do the next step!

      Anthony
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      • Profile picture of the author jjbalagosa
        Originally Posted by Anthony Gibson View Post

        Couldn't agree more.

        Henry Ford: "The largest task in the world can be accomplished if broken down into enough small steps."

        First step could be "clearing your desk" etc...

        Eventually you will build up so much momentum you will be foaming at the mouth to do the next step!

        Anthony
        Yeah man. Momentum is a huge motivator! For example, when I workout, I generally do the hardest exercise first. Once that's out of the way, my mind is essentially tricked into thinking the rest is a piece of cake.

        I also advocate writing things down, because lack of focus can also be attributed to having your brain overloaded with too many to-dos, facts, details, reminders, etc.

        Your mind is the worst place to keep a to-do list. I repeat. Your mind is THE WORST place to keep a to-do list. It isn't built to keep you on track. It will wander. It's just what it does.

        I actually say that you should always write things down as soon as you get them. I keep a little notepad on me, as soon as I think "Ah, I need to do that." I take action on it right away. If it's not possible, I write it down and add it to my task list when I get the chance.

        I make it a habit to check my task list once in the morning and once at night. I even put that in my to do list. :p

        I admit, sometimes life gets a little crazy. Especially if you're a parent. And I can lose track once in a while. You're probably superhuman - or a serial killer - if you don't.

        But I generally don't go through a whole week without keeping my task list up to date.

        Also - as much as you can - make tasks into a routine. The more things I can do automatically - or without thinking - the easier my day goes.

        Focus, motivation, and taking action is actually a specialty of mine. I just launched a product around it a couple of months ago. So all this info is still really fresh in my noggin.
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  • Profile picture of the author Stephen Marden
    The best thing I can suggest to you as it works the best for me and is the most simplest thing to do.

    Write down a daily list of tasks that you would like to complete. Nothing overwhelming...just a few things that you would be happy to have completed.

    Write it on a post it note and stick in on your desk or computer monitor...just keep it visible...You will see your productivity skyrocket

    Also keep the social media sites closed they are the biggest productivity killers out there

    Hope this helps
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  • Profile picture of the author Joey Evans
    Use this Productivity Planner...its ace and will help you focus!

    Good luck.
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    • Profile picture of the author mrjasonser
      Originally Posted by Joey Evans View Post

      Use this Productivity Planner...its ace and will help you focus!
      Good luck.
      Is this Joe? Hey man,how are you my friend! I will check your site out, thanks.
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  • Profile picture of the author orag08
    I've come to find out that the mind is kind of like a remote control. It is programmed to do a set of operations on command and you the individual are doing the programming. You press the +Volume button on a remote, the audio on the TV gets louder. In order for a person to focus on command it has to programmed in the mind. I feel I have to appropriately associate and make sense in my mind what "FOCUS" is in the first place in order to act out that particular action. All things take time and can't be rushed so you gotta take yours
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  • Profile picture of the author Jessica Lynn
    This is sometimes a problem for me as well. I've had very productive times and also wasted whole work days, so it's off and on for me.

    Like Patrick mentioned, the Pomodoro technique can be very helpful.

    I pick a maximum of 6 important tasks to focus on at any given time. Place that on a list and check off items as they're completed. Start at the top of your small to-do list and set the Pomodoro timer for 25 minutes. It puts a bit of pressure on you, but it's nothing crazy - any tasks that aren't completed can be done in your next 25 minute session.

    Health probably has something to do with it as well. There are supplements that help you focus, but I'm sure you can get all those nutrients from food sources (think tea for L-Theanine and fish for Omega-3s, etc.) Exercise is also a big help.

    Lastly, slap yourself in the face each time you check your email or log into Facebook. Just do it. Ever been forced to put money in a jar every time you did something wrong (swear/smoke/whatever)? Same principle - associate time-wasting activities with something unpleasant.
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  • Profile picture of the author RogerzWorld
    Man you guys are all spot on and I soo needed to hear that I'm not the only one who gets distracted. I find that writing out your to do list the night before and going over it briefly helps to focus you when you wake up as well.

    I have used a timer on certain things in the past and found it to be very helpful as long as you honor your own system, don't cheat yourself or none of this matters!

    Great thread guys, this is actually my first ever response or post in the forum...I can totally relate to this issue and thanks for having the courage to seek help. This is helping me as well.
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  • Profile picture of the author slingingshot15
    I highly recommend you watch this video I had placed on my blog by Dean Jackson which is 50 mintues long and it is a must watch for all Internet Marketers....I got it from Vimeo.....

    The 50 Minute Focus Finder
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  • Profile picture of the author AF54
    Good topic, I have the same problem, at the end of the day I realize that so many hours were spent and still haven't achieved what I needed to achieve. I guess the best way is to take notes and make a list of the things to be done and cross them out as you get them done and also think which one is more important than the others. It can be quite difficult if you have too many websites set up, there's a huge load of work involved in getting them all right. Good Luck!
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  • Profile picture of the author jjbalagosa
    So I looked up the Pomodoro technique and it's very close to something I learned from Paul Scheele's Photoreading course years ago. Except Scheele uses a 5x20x5 schedule and Francesco Cirillo (pomodoro's creator) uses a 25x5 schedule. So it's almost identical.

    I'm actually willing to bet that Sheele got it from Cirillo and just made tweaks to be able to brand it.

    Anyway, I can vouch that it's a very good technique! Helped me get 2 college degrees. This is also a great way to avoid burnout.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jerome Y
    If you take a look at the big players, outsourcing is the definitely the way to go. Ultimately all of us want to be free of having a "job" and the only way is to leverage on other's time.

    For someone just starting out, outsourcing would most likely be too costly and might even make you lazy even before you start making any money ! The real question to ask yourself is HOW BADLY do you want the internet marketing lifestyle ? If it's just something that's "nice to have" then your focus will never be where you want it to be at.

    Take mini steps, write out your goals and tasks for the DAY. These are things you MUST accomplish before going to bed. List them out and check them off as you complete them.

    I guess there's really nothing much to say when it comes to motivation other than it comes from within. How badly do you want success ?
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  • Profile picture of the author toju menekpere
    Do one thing at a time....get organized and put down your task for the day.... multi tasking does not help any one, you end up not doing any thing
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  • Profile picture of the author masterbizcoach
    I outsourced some my workloads. It may not work out the way you want it at the start but eventually when your VA know what to do. You can relax after while.
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    • Profile picture of the author Matida
      I have often a restless feeling when I think about all the tasks that I have to complete. I found that a mindmapping tool is a great tool for me to get myself organized. I have all the tasks in one overview and from there I create my list with tasks and their priority. This works best for me to stay focused.
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  • Profile picture of the author mrjasonser
    Originally Posted by Patrick Batty View Post

    No you dont need to spend money to learn it.

    Pomodoro Technique - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    But you need to have a timer of some sort that counts down.

    Here's a free online one someone has created (not me) so you get the idea.
    Pomodoro Timer

    So essentially,
    1) write down your tasks for the day
    2) Rank them
    3) do them in order
    4) don't multi-task.. just one task at a time
    5) set the timer, do the task
    6) if it's more than a twenty five minute item.. take a short break between.. set timer and continue
    7) move from one task to the next.

    Strangely, it works like a charm! (I think even the subtle little ticking of the timer helps remind you that you are 'on the clock'.
    And you get to enjoy what you've accomplished at the end of the day.
    Thank you sooooo much Patrick! You are awesome!!!

    Originally Posted by AF54 View Post

    It can be quite difficult if you have too many websites set up, there's a huge load of work involved in getting them all right. Good Luck!
    That maybe is my core problem

    Originally Posted by Anthony Gibson View Post

    Couldn't agree more.

    Henry Ford: "The largest task in the world can be accomplished if broken down into enough small steps."

    Anthony
    Thanks for sharing Anthony

    Originally Posted by CardJY View Post

    If you take a look at the big players, outsourcing is the definitely the way to go. Ultimately all of us want to be free of having a "job" and the only way is to leverage on other's time.

    For someone just starting out, outsourcing would most likely be too costly and might even make you lazy even before you start making any money ! The real question to ask yourself is HOW BADLY do you want the internet marketing lifestyle ? If it's just something that's "nice to have" then your focus will never be where you want it to be at.

    Take mini steps, write out your goals and tasks for the DAY. These are things you MUST accomplish before going to bed. List them out and check them off as you complete them.

    I guess there's really nothing much to say when it comes to motivation other than it comes from within. How badly do you want success ?
    Originally Posted by jjbalagosa View Post


    Your mind is the worst place to keep a to-do list. I repeat. Your mind is THE WORST place to keep a to-do list. It isn't built to keep you on track. It will wander. It's just what it does.

    I actually say that you should always write things down as soon as you get them. I keep a little notepad on me, as soon as I think "Ah, I need to do that." I take action on it right away. If it's not possible, I write it down and add it to my task list when I get the chance.
    I did something similar but I did not add it to a "task list" thanks.
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  • Profile picture of the author jape
    Wow! These are great advices. I have been battling the same thing for years now. Focus, clear goals, and a daily to-do list helps me a lot. I'm all over the place without a to-do list.
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  • Profile picture of the author slingingshot15
    came across this blog post from Stephen Pierce that deals with this issue.....take a listen 001 - How To Stay Focused - Don't Become A Hostage To Distractions | What Is Success Sculpting
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    Originally Posted by mrjasonser View Post

    Dear warriors,
    My greatest issue with my online venture is Focus. I am not talking only about the usual " jumping to he next shinny object" syndrome, but also the difficulty to focus on completing all the task needed to get something up and running.

    I mean there is so many task to be done, from setting up a website, copy writing, auto-responder set up with following messages...etc just to name a few.

    Do you guys do everything by yourselves? How do you plan and execute so many task if you are not full time at the moment.

    I know outsourcing but it also take pretty much the same amount of time and energy communicating to get the thing "the way" you want it.

    Anyone have the same problem with me?
    Can you share how you cope with all this?

    Thanks
    JS
    One thing that has helped me is having a whiteboard. If you are not full time, you might find that having a reminder right in front of you, easy to see and easily reachable to write and cross off tasks, can be effective.

    Start with one project. Then write down all of the tasks required to to complete the project on the whiteboard. Cross them out as you finish them and you'll feel motivated to cross off the entire list eventually.

    There are many useful productivity apps out there for the iPhone or Android, but getting back to the basics like using a whiteboard can be exactly what you need to be highly productive.

    Routine is also a great way to remain focused. What can you make part of your routine on a daily basis? For example, if you are only able to work in the evenings, do the same thing every single night for one month. After one month, you may have acquired some discipline to focusing on your online work. When this happens, it won't feel right to deviate from your routine, thus helping with completing tasks. (This actually applies to anything that requires discipline, such as going on a diet).

    Hope some of the tips help above. It has certainly helped me in many aspects of my online businesses (and actually diets ;-).
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    • Profile picture of the author Enfusia
      You absolutely must make a list.

      Make a list of all the things your need to do to go from point A to point B and then just do them ONE AT A TIME.

      As you do them cross them off the list.

      You will start getting pretty pumped when you pass the 1/2 way mark on your list.

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    • Profile picture of the author mrjasonser
      Originally Posted by marketersclub View Post

      Start with one project. Then write down all of the tasks required to to complete the project on the whiteboard. Cross them out as you finish them and you'll feel motivated to cross off the entire list eventually.

      ...but getting back to the basics like using a whiteboard can be exactly what you need to be highly productive.

      Routine is also a great way to remain focused. What can you make part of your routine on a daily basis? For example, if you are only able to work in the evenings, do the same thing every single night for one month. After one month, you may have acquired some discipline to focusing on your online work. When this happens, it won't feel right to deviate from your routine, thus helping with completing tasks. (This actually applies to anything that requires discipline, such as going on a diet).
      (and actually diets ;-).
      Thanks MarketersClub, feel using a whiteboard is a great idea for me. I have so many notes and paper around, a whiteboard is good.

      As for the routine, that is also my problems, my routine was always disrupted by other people in my life. How do you explain to your family member your needed the time alone and uninterrupted?

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      • Profile picture of the author marketersclub
        Originally Posted by mrjasonser View Post

        Thanks MarketersClub, feel using a whiteboard is a great idea for me. I have so many notes and paper around, a whiteboard is good.

        As for the routine, that is also my problems, my routine was always disrupted by other people in my life. How do you explain to your family member your needed the time alone and uninterrupted?

        Thanks
        Having a family can be tricky, especially with younger ones where routine may be impossible. You can start to explain to them (at least your significant other) exactly what you're doing - "I'm starting this project and I expect to make $$$ per month by the end of the year." Then you can start to explain that this is how your routine will be for the next 4 weeks and you would like to try and stick with it so that your family will have a better life and not be a slave to someone other person's business. If you have a job and you are respected at work, you are basically making someone else rich, but you would like to see for yourself what it takes.

        Having a schedule for family time might be the best thing for now if building your business is your priority. You may not have to sacrifice time with family, but they'll have to understand that there can't be spontaneous interruptions while you are trying to build your business. Once you get them into a routine, that is what they will expect as well, but if you cater to interruptions, they may find that this is completely acceptable.

        If you stay firm with the fact that you need time to work, but will continue to fulfill responsibilities, I don't see why someone would disagree with this. The people around you should be happy that you're trying to improve your quality of life as well as theirs, but it does take some sacrifice and work.
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        • Profile picture of the author mrjasonser
          Originally Posted by marketersclub View Post

          Having a family can be tricky, especially with younger ones where routine may be impossible. You can start to explain to them (at least your significant other) exactly what you're doing - "I'm starting this project and I expect to make $$$ per month by the end of the year." Then you can start to explain that this is how your routine will be for the next 4 weeks and you would like to try and stick with it so that your family will have a better life and not be a slave to someone other person's business. If you have a job and you are respected at work, you are basically making someone else rich, but you would like to see for yourself what it takes.

          Having a schedule for family time might be the best thing for now if building your business is your priority. You may not have to sacrifice time with family, but they'll have to understand that there can't be spontaneous interruptions while you are trying to build your business. Once you get them into a routine, that is what they will expect as well, but if you cater to interruptions, they may find that this is completely acceptable.

          If you stay firm with the fact that you need time to work, but will continue to fulfill responsibilities, I don't see why someone would disagree with this. The people around you should be happy that you're trying to improve your quality of life as well as theirs, but it does take some sacrifice and work.
          Thanks again. The thing is they will demand when can I complete my task, and at times, they feel that when they interrupt me, it s only for a few minutes (which always last longer than that). What's tiring is "interruption" rather than distraction. Its tiring to go back later and try to find out where I left off before. I did tried explaining my maybe I didn't do it right.
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            Originally Posted by mrjasonser View Post

            Thanks again. The thing is they will demand when can I complete my task, and at times, they feel that when they interrupt me, it s only for a few minutes (which always last longer than that). What's tiring is "interruption" rather than distraction. Its tiring to go back later and try to find out where I left off before. I did tried explaining my maybe I didn't do it right.
            Lock the door. Literally.

            You need to explain to your family that this is your career, and it deserves the same level of respect as any other person at 'the office' would receive. You would not tolerate it (and they would not do it), if you were in an office building with co-workers. You need to set work hours, and work them. Set your break times. Set your lunch times. And then, 'go to work'.

            I used to run into this all the time when I first started working from home. Not only would my family members interrupt me (with good and kind intentions), but I would get calls from other family members and friends as well. They equated working from home to, well... being at home.

            I didn't have an official 'office' at home when I first started out, I had a corner in the basement. When Daddy when downstairs to work, that was it - I went to work. I would come upstairs for breaks and to have lunch with the kids, and then went back to work.

            It took some time to 'train' everyone in the family, but not that long. I think it was a few weeks. After that time though, things changed. I could focus better without the interruptions, everyone knew when break time was during the day, and could plan for it, etc....

            All the best!
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    Hi all,

    So I'm new here, and this is post 1. I've been helping folks with their businesses for years however, and I'll share what I have found.

    First, the comments about goals are correct, you have to have very clear and very specific goals. I start all coaching with a goal session, all - with no exceptions. You must have your big picture goals clear, and you must have your small steps to reaching those goals clear.

    Second, you then use the great methods listed above to prioritize and keep on one task at a time, until complete. Focusing on one task through completion is excellent advice.

    Here is the other piece I'd like to add. I've found that people tend to get distracted the most when doing a task that is out of alignment with their inner mindset. When was the last time you had to force yourself to focus on something you really loved to do or loved to talk about? For most, very rarely. Yes, it happens, but is the exception to the rule, not the norm...

    So, I would argue that you have far too many tasks in your day that you either dislike, don't believe you can do fully, or don't want to do at all. In your mind you are telling yourself that you are 'supposed' to be doing this (you may very well be right that all those tasks do need to be done), and at the same time you are telling yourself that you don't want to, how much you dislike the task, etc...

    This means you must find a way to partner with, outsource, barter, trade, whatever, and find a way to remove those tasks from your list.

    Very few people struggle with distractions and overload when they are only focused on the task set and goal set they love doing.

    I would suggest that you spend some time tomorrow, not on your actual tasks, but rather on big picture planning. Take an hour or two and focus on your goals, both the high level goals and the small goals needed. Then take an hour or two and put together your task list of what needs to be done, and put that task list in a priority. Next, go through your list and honestly rank the tasks from 1-5 as a task you love versus a task you really don't like to do. When you find the high priority tasks that turn out to also be tasks you don't like doing at all, right there you have identified a main cause of your distraction. Take that knowledge now and do whatever you need to in order to find someone else to do those tasks for you.

    Best of luck!
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    • Profile picture of the author mrjasonser
      Originally Posted by WarrenPeterson View Post

      Hi all,

      So, I would argue that you have far too many tasks in your day that you either dislike, don't believe you can do fully, or don't want to do at all. In your mind you are telling yourself that you are 'supposed' to be doing this (you may very well be right that all those tasks do need to be done), and at the same time you are telling yourself that you don't want to, how much you dislike the task, etc...

      This means you must find a way to partner with, outsource, barter, trade, whatever, and find a way to remove those tasks from your list.

      Very few people struggle with distractions and overload when they are only focused on the task set and goal set they love doing.

      I would suggest that you spend some time tomorrow, not on your actual tasks, but rather on big picture planning. Take an hour or two and focus on your goals, both the high level goals and the small goals needed. Then take an hour or two and put together your task list of what needs to be done, and put that task list in a priority. Next, go through your list and honestly rank the tasks from 1-5 as a task you love versus a task you really don't like to do. When you find the high priority tasks that turn out to also be tasks you don't like doing at all, right there you have identified a main cause of your distraction. Take that knowledge now and do whatever you need to in order to find someone else to do those tasks for you.

      Best of luck!
      Thank you so much Warren! I think you had pinned point one of my core issue I believe, especially on doing things because I tell myself that I "supposed" to do. This built up quite a lot of stress actually.
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    try to draw with your imagination a star in a flat surface
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      Originally Posted by Tinderet View Post

      try to draw with your imagination a star in a flat surface
      Huh? Can you elaborate?
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  • Profile picture of the author WarriorFormula
    The key to focus is proper motivation.
    Visualize the end product, and what do you expect out of the job you're working on. When you visualize positive end result, motivation will come, and it will improve your focus.

    It helps me.
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    Do meditation. it helps to focus on work and improve work continuity.
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