Kill Your Limiting Beliefs
Hi guys
I've been using something called the Tony Robbins Dickens Pattern for a little while to get rid if my limiting beliefs. The idea is that you take a limiting belief at you have and is holding you back in life and then write out exactly how that belief will negatively impact your life in future. You then take the flip side and write out exactly how your life will be enhanced when you have overcome the belief.
By looking at the positive and negative it helps you to associate major pain to having the belief and major positivity to losing it and then as a result you ditch the belief. Here's one of my Dickens Patterns.
I must sabotage myself from achieving my goals
How will I be in 5 years if I keep this belief?
I lost another contract yesterday, officially it ended because my duration was up but deep down I know the real reason was simply that I didn't impress. It's the same old story, I start a role with high ideals and plans 'to make this one different' but I always fall by the wayside. I have huge plans and goals that I never follow through on and I disappoint in the end. It's what I've always done and always will do because I'm too much of a weak ******* coward to get my shit sorted and become the type of person who gets things done. My bosses all thought I was a bit strange and generally avoided me because I was too nervous and uncomfortable to just speak to them like ordinary people and now I'm back in the unemployment line. That wouldn't be the worst thing in the world if I actually believed there was a snowball's chance in hell that I'd make something of my career but I know that I won't. That's not even deep down either, I know that well and truly on the surface. I've done nothing with Captain Impulse, Sex Slave, Alastair and Preeta, or any of my other ideas and I never will ether because I hate myself and I know that I don't deserve to be successful. I know I'm a shit person and don't deserve happiness so I don't put myself out there at all. I sit back and let life go by while I age and fantasise about a world that I'm too much of a pussy to make real for myself. I'm a loser; this is who I am and always will be. I'm 35 and have no money, no friends, and nothing makes me happy any more. Whenever I do anything I've got 1001 thoughts running in my brain and they all make me feel miserable. I can't have fun doing anything because I'm always inside my own head and can't enjoy the moment so whenever I read a book or watch tv I feel numb and cut off from my emotions. I'm bored, restless and miserable all the ******* time and I don't know what to do. Part of me likes it though, because I know I'm a bad person it's good to punish myself in some way because I definitely deserve it for being hyperactive and weird as a kid.
Nicola has of course left me and gotten married. I try to tell myself that I don't care but if that was really true then why do I spend so much time checking out her Facebook page to see what she's up to and why do I fantasise about stealing her from her husband? It's funny how people can change, that girl completely loved me at one point. She'd have done absolutely anything for me and was besotted with me, but over the years she saw through my bullshit and changed. It was like how she was during the Adam situation but over a period of months and years instead of just one week. When she looked into my eyes she obviously didn't think much of what she saw and who could blame her when she was in a relationship with a guy who couldn't even get an erection for sex and had to jerk off to porn behind her back? A guy who was nothing special himself but had this dumb view of being with the ultimate woman and then wouldn't give her the love and commitment that she needed because of that?
I will go for my goals with everything I have!
How am I in 5 years with this belief?
I've not had a job in 5 years and I absolutely love it! What's more I love life and I love me! I Saw Junghe and Keith the other day out in central London. It was funny how nice and respectful they were being considering that they weren't like that at all when I worked for them. I could just tell from the looks in their eyes that they were shocked, impressed, and intimidated by me now and that thought is freaking awesome. Then again, who wouldn't feel that way? I'm a world famous writer who has books, comics, a podcast, a cartoon series and a movie out so that would have to have an effect on everybody. I'm a machine now, an absolute beast and once I get started on something I don't stop until the job is done. This isn't something I have to force, however, its just who I am as a person, I get sucked into a task and simply put 1000% of myself into it. I write all the time now and have a great time while doing it and that passion is evident in the work I put out as well as the frequency of my output. Then again, I'm like this in every aspect of my life nowadays. When I'm with people, I'm with them completely and focus on having a great time. I'm passionate, dedicated, fun, and completely at ease with who I am and people pick up on that so whenever I'm socialising I generally lead the interaction with my high energy and charisma. I'm married to Nicola now and we have 3 wonderful kiddy winks. I'm also proud to say that I'm an excellent husband and father because I've gotten all of my issues handled. I treat my family with love, respect, and strong authentic leadership and they pick up on that. Nicola and I get on like a house on fire and have a relationship that is stronger than adamantium. We learn together, love together and don't take life too seriously so our household is bubbling with laughter and improvised silliness. When I look at my family it makes me feel warm and content inside because I know that I have a core base of people who are there for me at all times. They love me as much as I love them.
How am I in 10 years if I keep this belief?
I registered as blind last week because I simply can't see properly. I can make out shapes and walk around in a well lit area but I can't read details and that means I can't work, read a book, look at a comic, or watch tv. Of course I've moved back in with my parents which makes me feel about 5 inches tall. They're both in their 70s but now have the added stress of having to look after me which is ridiculous. If there's one positive to take from this situation it's that my eyes are so broken that I'm not able to see how pathetic I look at the age of 40 being minded by my senior citizen parents. I've pretty much given up on life, doing nothing but sitting down in my room listening to podcasts and trying hard to block out my shitty existence, of course my brain is more ****ed up than ever before so I can't even begin to connect with what I'm listening to so the reality of my depressing life remains as real to me as ever unless I get blind drunk which I've been doing lately. I literally sneak downstairs and thumb for bottles of wray and nephew from my dad's cabinet and bring them back up to my room. Of course I know that drinking is what ****ed up my vision and mind to start with but I just need to escape the pain. I can't take my life now and knowing that I'm the one that caused all of it. I can't stand hearing the sympathy in Myisha, Tash, Monse, Leandra, Darren, Amara, Robert, and Adrian's voices when they come round to 'see how I'm doing'. I ******* hate the way Adrian's so nice with me now when I know he doesn't mean it. If he thought I was a loser when we were in our mid 20s then he obviously thinks even less of me now so I just want him to **** off and die and leave me alone.
I will go for my goals with everything I have!
How am I in 10 years with this belief?
I was featured on this is your life yesterday. It's amazing how they put those shows together because I had absolutely no idea that it was happening but everybody else I knew was in on it. They got everybody from my past to show up and they all had a level of pride for me that I was totally surprised to see. even Mrs Davies and and Ms Jackson were there to tell me how proud of me they are. Everybody spoke about how much I've meant to them and how much my stories have touched their lives. It was really cool to hear from people who claimed to be my biggest fans and it moved me to know that I've managed to create that much of an impact on people's lives. I was buzzing with pride the whole evening. Life feels so great that I can't really imagine it ever being the way it was. It feels like I don't really have to try to do anything because I'm being guided by some higher source which I guess is either god, my soul, or both. I've achieved everything I set out to do in my 20s and it feels amazing to know that I have what it takes to create the life of my dreams. I now know that I can do anything that I set my mind to and that no boundaries can keep me apart from my goals. I know and believe that from the core of my heart and it makes me feel strong, powerful, safe, secure, and loved.
How am I in 20 years if I keep this belief?
Everything hurts. My eyes hurt the second I expose them to light, my knees hurt whenever I try to walk, my back is always in pain and I can hardly walk straight. I have to lie down because I don't have the energy to sit up or stand but when I lie down it puts pressure on my lungs and makes it hard for me to breathe. I have great difficulty swallowing food and feel like I'm choking whenever I eat. Every time I sleep I genuinely don't know if I'll wake up because my body feels so weak that death could come at any time. It's funny how much I hated my teens, 20s and 30s. Back then I thought that life was miserable and hated pretty much every second of it but what would I give to go back to those days now? Back then I had energy, vision, memory, youth and a chance to grab life by the hands. I had so much going for me back then but I just didn't see it. I played small, didn't stay true to myself and now I'm here living on my own in the squalor of my parents house both scared to die and hoping for it at the same time, spending my dead parent's savings on prostitutes.
I will go for my goals with everything I have -
How am I in 20 years because of this belief?
Life is cool, life is free and life is easy. Nowadays I live by my own schedule and do the things that interest me when I want to do them. I'm working in a new book and also a new film and I really enjoy creating them, but I'm also spending time on my hobbies like acting, snowboarding and devouring comics. If I want to go to America for a few days, I take Nicola and go to America for a few days. We explore the cities, have fun, meet new people, and generally have a great time. My kids are at university age now so besides giving them some financial help whenever they need it I pretty much just sit back and enjoy the fruits of my labour as a parent. They're amazing human beings and are never shy about telling me how much I mean to them. I'm living a great life and I love it.
I've been using something called the Tony Robbins Dickens Pattern for a little while to get rid if my limiting beliefs. The idea is that you take a limiting belief at you have and is holding you back in life and then write out exactly how that belief will negatively impact your life in future. You then take the flip side and write out exactly how your life will be enhanced when you have overcome the belief.
By looking at the positive and negative it helps you to associate major pain to having the belief and major positivity to losing it and then as a result you ditch the belief. Here's one of my Dickens Patterns.
I must sabotage myself from achieving my goals
How will I be in 5 years if I keep this belief?
I lost another contract yesterday, officially it ended because my duration was up but deep down I know the real reason was simply that I didn't impress. It's the same old story, I start a role with high ideals and plans 'to make this one different' but I always fall by the wayside. I have huge plans and goals that I never follow through on and I disappoint in the end. It's what I've always done and always will do because I'm too much of a weak ******* coward to get my shit sorted and become the type of person who gets things done. My bosses all thought I was a bit strange and generally avoided me because I was too nervous and uncomfortable to just speak to them like ordinary people and now I'm back in the unemployment line. That wouldn't be the worst thing in the world if I actually believed there was a snowball's chance in hell that I'd make something of my career but I know that I won't. That's not even deep down either, I know that well and truly on the surface. I've done nothing with Captain Impulse, Sex Slave, Alastair and Preeta, or any of my other ideas and I never will ether because I hate myself and I know that I don't deserve to be successful. I know I'm a shit person and don't deserve happiness so I don't put myself out there at all. I sit back and let life go by while I age and fantasise about a world that I'm too much of a pussy to make real for myself. I'm a loser; this is who I am and always will be. I'm 35 and have no money, no friends, and nothing makes me happy any more. Whenever I do anything I've got 1001 thoughts running in my brain and they all make me feel miserable. I can't have fun doing anything because I'm always inside my own head and can't enjoy the moment so whenever I read a book or watch tv I feel numb and cut off from my emotions. I'm bored, restless and miserable all the ******* time and I don't know what to do. Part of me likes it though, because I know I'm a bad person it's good to punish myself in some way because I definitely deserve it for being hyperactive and weird as a kid.
Nicola has of course left me and gotten married. I try to tell myself that I don't care but if that was really true then why do I spend so much time checking out her Facebook page to see what she's up to and why do I fantasise about stealing her from her husband? It's funny how people can change, that girl completely loved me at one point. She'd have done absolutely anything for me and was besotted with me, but over the years she saw through my bullshit and changed. It was like how she was during the Adam situation but over a period of months and years instead of just one week. When she looked into my eyes she obviously didn't think much of what she saw and who could blame her when she was in a relationship with a guy who couldn't even get an erection for sex and had to jerk off to porn behind her back? A guy who was nothing special himself but had this dumb view of being with the ultimate woman and then wouldn't give her the love and commitment that she needed because of that?
I will go for my goals with everything I have!
How am I in 5 years with this belief?
I've not had a job in 5 years and I absolutely love it! What's more I love life and I love me! I Saw Junghe and Keith the other day out in central London. It was funny how nice and respectful they were being considering that they weren't like that at all when I worked for them. I could just tell from the looks in their eyes that they were shocked, impressed, and intimidated by me now and that thought is freaking awesome. Then again, who wouldn't feel that way? I'm a world famous writer who has books, comics, a podcast, a cartoon series and a movie out so that would have to have an effect on everybody. I'm a machine now, an absolute beast and once I get started on something I don't stop until the job is done. This isn't something I have to force, however, its just who I am as a person, I get sucked into a task and simply put 1000% of myself into it. I write all the time now and have a great time while doing it and that passion is evident in the work I put out as well as the frequency of my output. Then again, I'm like this in every aspect of my life nowadays. When I'm with people, I'm with them completely and focus on having a great time. I'm passionate, dedicated, fun, and completely at ease with who I am and people pick up on that so whenever I'm socialising I generally lead the interaction with my high energy and charisma. I'm married to Nicola now and we have 3 wonderful kiddy winks. I'm also proud to say that I'm an excellent husband and father because I've gotten all of my issues handled. I treat my family with love, respect, and strong authentic leadership and they pick up on that. Nicola and I get on like a house on fire and have a relationship that is stronger than adamantium. We learn together, love together and don't take life too seriously so our household is bubbling with laughter and improvised silliness. When I look at my family it makes me feel warm and content inside because I know that I have a core base of people who are there for me at all times. They love me as much as I love them.
How am I in 10 years if I keep this belief?
I registered as blind last week because I simply can't see properly. I can make out shapes and walk around in a well lit area but I can't read details and that means I can't work, read a book, look at a comic, or watch tv. Of course I've moved back in with my parents which makes me feel about 5 inches tall. They're both in their 70s but now have the added stress of having to look after me which is ridiculous. If there's one positive to take from this situation it's that my eyes are so broken that I'm not able to see how pathetic I look at the age of 40 being minded by my senior citizen parents. I've pretty much given up on life, doing nothing but sitting down in my room listening to podcasts and trying hard to block out my shitty existence, of course my brain is more ****ed up than ever before so I can't even begin to connect with what I'm listening to so the reality of my depressing life remains as real to me as ever unless I get blind drunk which I've been doing lately. I literally sneak downstairs and thumb for bottles of wray and nephew from my dad's cabinet and bring them back up to my room. Of course I know that drinking is what ****ed up my vision and mind to start with but I just need to escape the pain. I can't take my life now and knowing that I'm the one that caused all of it. I can't stand hearing the sympathy in Myisha, Tash, Monse, Leandra, Darren, Amara, Robert, and Adrian's voices when they come round to 'see how I'm doing'. I ******* hate the way Adrian's so nice with me now when I know he doesn't mean it. If he thought I was a loser when we were in our mid 20s then he obviously thinks even less of me now so I just want him to **** off and die and leave me alone.
I will go for my goals with everything I have!
How am I in 10 years with this belief?
I was featured on this is your life yesterday. It's amazing how they put those shows together because I had absolutely no idea that it was happening but everybody else I knew was in on it. They got everybody from my past to show up and they all had a level of pride for me that I was totally surprised to see. even Mrs Davies and and Ms Jackson were there to tell me how proud of me they are. Everybody spoke about how much I've meant to them and how much my stories have touched their lives. It was really cool to hear from people who claimed to be my biggest fans and it moved me to know that I've managed to create that much of an impact on people's lives. I was buzzing with pride the whole evening. Life feels so great that I can't really imagine it ever being the way it was. It feels like I don't really have to try to do anything because I'm being guided by some higher source which I guess is either god, my soul, or both. I've achieved everything I set out to do in my 20s and it feels amazing to know that I have what it takes to create the life of my dreams. I now know that I can do anything that I set my mind to and that no boundaries can keep me apart from my goals. I know and believe that from the core of my heart and it makes me feel strong, powerful, safe, secure, and loved.
How am I in 20 years if I keep this belief?
Everything hurts. My eyes hurt the second I expose them to light, my knees hurt whenever I try to walk, my back is always in pain and I can hardly walk straight. I have to lie down because I don't have the energy to sit up or stand but when I lie down it puts pressure on my lungs and makes it hard for me to breathe. I have great difficulty swallowing food and feel like I'm choking whenever I eat. Every time I sleep I genuinely don't know if I'll wake up because my body feels so weak that death could come at any time. It's funny how much I hated my teens, 20s and 30s. Back then I thought that life was miserable and hated pretty much every second of it but what would I give to go back to those days now? Back then I had energy, vision, memory, youth and a chance to grab life by the hands. I had so much going for me back then but I just didn't see it. I played small, didn't stay true to myself and now I'm here living on my own in the squalor of my parents house both scared to die and hoping for it at the same time, spending my dead parent's savings on prostitutes.
I will go for my goals with everything I have -
How am I in 20 years because of this belief?
Life is cool, life is free and life is easy. Nowadays I live by my own schedule and do the things that interest me when I want to do them. I'm working in a new book and also a new film and I really enjoy creating them, but I'm also spending time on my hobbies like acting, snowboarding and devouring comics. If I want to go to America for a few days, I take Nicola and go to America for a few days. We explore the cities, have fun, meet new people, and generally have a great time. My kids are at university age now so besides giving them some financial help whenever they need it I pretty much just sit back and enjoy the fruits of my labour as a parent. They're amazing human beings and are never shy about telling me how much I mean to them. I'm living a great life and I love it.