how do i overcome Perfectionism ?

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I am perfectionist..unless something is 101% done I 'cannot' leave it, I am a miser and that is good from what I've experienced ,it helps improve minute details...but by the time i finish something with my standards its already almost 15x time it would take to normally do the work,and I get bored or anything that makes me hop onto task 2 and so on...so I never finish anything, due to this small bug ,which is very big in the sense.

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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    you are doomed

    deadlines ..as perfect as something is by the deadline is how perfect it will be .
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  • Profile picture of the author Joe Crosbie
    Hey Joshua!

    Man, do I know how you feel! I used to be, such a big perfectionist I wouldn't achieve anything!

    I actually wrote a thread about it here: Perfection is developed over time..

    The best piece of advice I ever received on the subject was "It doesn't need to be this complicated, you're making it harder than it need be"

    Now, whenever I feel like I'm over-perfecting something, I say that statement out loud.

    I agree with @Odahh, deadlines help a lot too!

    Best of luck and if you want to talk more about it, don't hesitate to send me a message

    Have an awesome day!

    - Joe Crosbie,
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  • Profile picture of the author AntonioSeegars1
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    • Profile picture of the author robitay
      Hi Joshua,

      I recently posted an article on my website entitled How to Overcome Perfectionism.

      The link is How To Overcome Perfectionism5 Springs Media | 5 Springs Media

      I hope some of the information provided in this article will be of assistance to you.

      All my best,
      Bob
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      • If you have the courage to try something difficult and new, I say you should plan a project and execute it on purpose the opposite way you normally approach a job.

        In other words, deliberately do a roughshod job. Do the job 15X faster than you would normally just to crack your old behavior; to break the entrenched mold. Then you will have had a change of base line, a change in what you have done for a change. But this time you complete the badly done, speedily done project. That's an important difference for you.

        If you suffer this you will probably see so many new things within yourself it will change your mind-set. Warning: keep doing the same thing you are doing now and . . You are doomed!

        LLS
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Hi Joshua,

    Ship Seth Godin talks about shipping a bunch. Publish, create, ship. Provide a service.

    Getting real world experience is the quickest way to overcome the fear of failure - aka perfectionism.

    I just shot 3 videos. 1 more in the chamber. When I publish each of these today on my blog along with 1-2 text posts I will have 5 to 6 shipped, published posts for public consumption.

    Any fear of failure, or criticism, dies when you get yourself out there in front of your target market, or the general public for that matter.

    Same deal with my recently released eBook. I published it within a week or so after working with my web developer/designer. Easy peasy.

    Hit the ground running. Study many of the richest, happiest people on earth. This crowd reins in their perfectionism by shipping, tweaking, failing, learning and redirecting. If they did it, you can do.

    Remind yourself: fear is holding you back, masked as perfectionism by your ego Fear is conquered by taking freeing, highly uncomfortable steps, like creating, publishing, serving, etc.

    All the best!
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  • Profile picture of the author awesummer
    For me, it's hard for perfectionists to let some imperfections go. I suggest to rest and let things go at least one whole day once a week. Let somebody else do those work and just relax and divert your attention.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
    If you enjoy doing things in great detail then it's not an issue. It is an issue if you're bothered by it. Richard Branson once apparently said...

    Successful People Start Before They Feel Ready.
    http://jamesclear.com/successful-peo...hey-feel-ready

    I'm sure you could adapt it to your situation. In other words, stop it (your behaviour). Make it really good and push it out of the way. Perfect is never going to happen. Don't ship stuff with mistakes or errors but if going into amazing detail bothers you - just stop being like that. Make a decision to improve and stop being manic about irrelevant details.
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    • Profile picture of the author RichBeck
      Originally Posted by Mr Bill View Post

      If you enjoy doing things in great detail then it's not an issue. It is an issue if you're bothered by it. Richard Branson once apparently said...

      Successful People Start Before They Feel Ready.
      Habits of Successful People: Start Before You Feel Ready
      Bill,

      That was an excellent read....

      My favorite part was...

      If you're working on something important, then you'll never feel ready. A side effect of doing challenging work is that you're pulled by excitement and pushed by confusion at the same time.


      You're bound to feel uncertain, unprepared, and unqualified. But let me assure you of this: what you have right now is enough. You can plan, delay, and revise all you want, but trust me, what you have now is enough to start.
      All The Best,

      Rich Beck BCIP, MCSD, MCIS
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  • Profile picture of the author NewParadigm
    you are afraid to fail.

    Ask yourself, what is the worst thing that can happen if you took a particular action? It's usually a small fraction of what you think. When you discover you live little to lose, you'll go forward.

    Actually paralysis by analysis costs you a lot! So attach ongoing costs for doing nothing, because they exist.
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    • Profile picture of the author Treborrevo
      This Free tool (you can buy it, but it's free on a wikipedia link) has hands down been the BEST tool for helping me slay the twin demons of perfectionism and procrastination.

      It's the Pomodoro technique. Google it.

      Piece of paper and a 20 minute egg timer and you are good to go.

      I've given this resource to a number of friends/clients. It is transforming their productivity as well.

      http://baomee.info/pdf/technique/1.pdf
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  • Profile picture of the author ThomasOMalley
    If you want to be successful, in many cases, good enough is good enough. That should be part of your working approach. Perfectionism is just a way to set yourself up for failure from the start.
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  • Yep there's that old phrase that 'Great is the enemy of good.' Same as everyone else says really, there's nothing wrong with chasing perfection, as long as you achieve something along the way. Don't hold off launching, just do it, then refine.
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    • Profile picture of the author glenfic
      Joshua

      As an ex-perfectionist I can relate to what you are going through. There are two things that helped me overcome this issue:
      1. Optimulism over perfectionism....aim to optimize, let go of perfect and go for creating the optimum results in the time you have.
      2. Go as far as you can see...perfectionist's often don't start things till they have the entire course planned and mapped out. Just jump (take a leap) and do what you see in front of you right now, when you complete that (in an optimum way) you will see what you need to do next. This takes some faith...but you learn to trust yourself
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  • Profile picture of the author CG Tsang
    I was also a perfectionist.

    This made me waste 1 year in my first year of IM.

    Then finally decided to release a product even though i was not quite satisfied with it. And surprise surprise. Everyone loved it.

    Money loves speed. Create tons of stuff.. The world wants what's in you.

    You can always optimize/enhance the products later.

    Cheers,

    C.G.
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  • Profile picture of the author AlexRich
    I know how you feel
    Most of the time it is fear. Are you afraid to fail?

    An action plan and deadlines are always a good idea.
    Seth Godin is a good read! Eat that frog - do all important things first!
    Build the whole idea/concept (with drafts) and then tune it afterwards.

    I guess you also want to be in control of everything. Decide in which part you are best e.g. marketing, concept and text and give the rest ...design, programming to a freelancer.
    Just do it and finish it (deadline). Ask a friend what he/she thinks.
    Things change, so you have to change it anyway (but at some time later).

    Read successful stories, like Mr Bill posted it (thank you) and network with others.
    You are not alone! Others have the same "problem" and have "finished" and launched/realised their ideas.
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    • Profile picture of the author YHmuWong
      Originally Posted by AlexRich View Post

      I know how you feel
      Most of the time it is fear. Are you afraid to fail?

      An action plan and deadlines are always a good idea.
      Seth Godin is a good read! Eat that frog - do all important things first!
      Build the whole idea/concept (with drafts) and then tune it afterwards.

      I guess you also want to be in control of everything. Decide in which part you are best e.g. marketing, concept and text and give the rest ...design, programming to a freelancer.
      Just do it and finish it (deadline). Ask a friend what he/she thinks.
      Things change, so you have to change it anyway (but at some time later).

      Read successful stories, like Mr Bill posted it (thank you) and network with others.
      You are not alone! Others have the same "problem" and have "finished" and launched/realised their ideas.
      Lucky me,so deadlines and action plan IS the SAME.I should think about the "finished" product first and reverse whatever I am currently doing
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  • Profile picture of the author James Fame
    Originally Posted by Joshua P View Post

    I am perfectionist..unless something is 101% done I 'cannot' leave it, I am a miser and that is good from what I've experienced ,it helps improve minute details...but by the time i finish something with my standards its already almost 15x time it would take to normally do the work,and I get bored or anything that makes me hop onto task 2 and so on...so I never finish anything, due to this small bug ,which is very big in the sense.

    Help
    It's really easy. Here's what I do...

    You change your method completely, because you're doing things the wrong way around.

    Think of it as how you'd build a huge building. Look at various architecture... Aren't they works of art?

    The huge misconception is that diamonds are produced in a single try. That's wrong. Rome wasn't built in a day. Neither are diamonds in a week. It takes many, many tries before carbon turns into diamonds. It took Thomas Edison many, many materials before he eventually found tungsten for the light bulb.

    Use what I call the Branching Method.

    Steps:
    (1) Write out an outline - this will consist of all the major themes of your product. The gears that have to be there in order for everything to work. At this point, leave them minimally viable - the least state possible.

    (2) For each point, you will then enlarge the point from a sentence into a paragraph, for example. You will try to inflate it and make it better in that aspect.

    (3) LAUNCH. It doesn't matter whether your product is good or not - At this point, just launch it. As long as the product has a "theme" that which it is consistent to... It is sell-able because it already has a message to tell the buyer.

    (4) Alpha-versions, beta-versions, Release candidates. These are terms used for software when they are launched, version after version. Similarly, you do it this way.

    (a) Update the product by filling in more information into these points.
    (b) Send your past customers the link to the new product.
    (c) You can even raise the price-point after adding more - you can use this as a form of exclusivity in marketing.

    What's important? Telling yourself to stop minding your fears so much and just charge head on. The only way through hell is through it.

    It's not that hard. We make stories out of our own circumstances, don't we? And we're normally really good storytellers.

    - James
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