this category, the Mind, really pisses me off - not really, but

too late!

anyway, it's a motivator, which implies getting you to take Action.

and our kind of action (sales and marketing), involves rejection, dejection, and looking stupid sometimes.

To accept a not wanted situation in my life would mean to me that I have given up on myself or I just have to tolerate everything. Oh no, no, no... I get angry. I have not accepted or tolerated situations or circumstances in my life, which are not acceptable or tolerable to me. My anger pushes me to action, productivity, even creativity and gives me the extra energy to do what needs to be done to make the change to the situation. A new choice, a corrective movement and a new, desired result.

Acceptance = accept the situation only to see what lesson it holds for you, what needs to be done differently
Anger = the fuel to make and the passion behind the change when the lesson has been understood

For some reason anger is generally seen (and accepted...) to be only negative. I also see it differently; a very natural, healthy feeling and reaction to unacceptable situations - as long as it pushes us to productive action towards our desires and we don't release it to other people, ourselves or bottle it up inside.

sounds like balance is essential.

anger is good in the right places or the right time.

that's good to know.

I use it like this:

I take slights, and negatives from others, to get mad and add

"I'll show them"

Anger is an emotion, like all others, .


do we "but" in what we say, are positive emotions?

I am happy, but I should take it down a notch???

I really like this person, "but", ???

I like what you said, "but", let me rain on your parade for a minute???

from Dictionary and Thesaurus - Merriam-Webster Online

Origin of BUT

Middle English, from Old English būtan, preposition & conjunction, outside, without, except, except that; akin to Old High German būzan without, except; akin to Old English be by, ūt out — more at by, out

just bringing this up to garner more feedback.

anger is such a complex emotion and I have tried to use it as a a force for good.

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