18 Tips To Cope With Mental Stress

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For stressed out Warriors

Much of the stress we feel is mental stress. That is, stress that we have brought about ourselves. Even though there are outside influences at work, your mind takes these and turns them inward, often creating stress.

It is our perceptions that help create stressful situations. Some experts say that a certain amount of stress is actually helpful to the body. But when the stress starts to become too much, we start to feel it.

Type A personalities are most susceptible to mental stress. A type A person is someone who is constantly on the go. They are involved in everything and are moving at record speed. Eventually, most Type A people come to a point where they need a mental and physical break.

What can you do to help eliminate mental stress before it starts? Here are a few suggestions:

1. Make a To-Do list once a day and use it to check off items that are complete. Not only will you feel more organized, but you will also get a sense of accomplishment once you complete items from the list.

2. Partition your day into work sections. Spend some time where you let your telephone go directly to the answering machine. The uninterrupted time will help get your task at hand completed. Set aside a specific time to go through messages and make return phone calls. You will have gained some time in your day and will have completed something.

3. Use a planner or planner software to plan your days. You can set up alerts to let you know when you have an appointment or conference call coming up. There are many excellent software programs available as well as paper-based planners to help you get organized.

4. Take a time management course. Many are now offered over the internet. Sometimes they are sponsored through your company. Usually only a few days in length, the time is well spent learning new strategies and techniques to stay focused and organized. Even if you have previously taken a time management class, you will find you are re-charged by taking this type of class once a year.

5. Be prepared. Whatever the task, make sure you spend some time preparing for it ahead of time. You'll feel a lot less stress when you have readied yourself for a specific task. If you constantly wait until the last minute, you will put yourself under immense stress every time.

6. Don't procrastinate. Remember when you were in school and crammed for exams the night before the final? That was ultimate stress. People who say they work better under pressure are just poor at planning and are masters at procrastination. You will always do better when you take your time and don't wait until the last minute to complete your work.

7. Balance your life. Make sure you have a balance between work, home, family, fun, finances, romance, health and fitness, and personal growth. You will feel less stress when you achieve balance with all these areas of your life. Make a list of which areas you feel are out of balance and work on the areas that need more attention.

8. Streamline your life. When you take a closer look at all the things you do each day or each week, there may be some you can streamline. There are also bound to be some things you can eliminate all together.

9. Stop being a perfectionist. Not everything needs to be done to perfection. Allow yourself to be imperfect. We are usually our own worst judge. Try to free yourself from judging others and yourself.

10. Give your children chores to do around the house. Children as young as 5 or 6 can help with some easy chores. Don't worry if they don't do things perfectly. As the children get older, change their chores to harder ones.

12. Get a maid service. Even those of us on middle class incomes can afford a maid every other week. Save up the chores that take the most time or cause you the most irritation and let the maid do them! It's well worth the cost.

13. Get rid of clutter. Clutter can actually drain us mentally and cause us stress. Just looking at the clutter every day fills us with guilt about having it and thus, stress. Vow to spend a week (or more) sorting through the built up clutter and getting rid of anything unnecessary. You'll be a lot less burdened once you do.

14. Take up a hobby. Find something you like to do, make or collect. Then spend some time each week working with your hobby. Hobbies, by their nature, are instant stress reducers. You may even get involved in clubs or meets with others who enjoy the same activity.

15. Make a family schedule. Studies have shown that children benefit from structure. Adults can benefit as well. A schedule takes the stress out of chaotic days. Once you get used to it, a schedule is a welcome addition to the family. Everyone knows what to expect and things run much more smoothly. Be sure to leave some free time in the schedule for family members to do what they want.

16. Plan the family meals ahead for the whole week. Do the grocery shopping once a week to have all the ingredients that are needed on hand. This eliminates making numerous trips to the grocery store. Make some of the meals ahead, on the weekend. Freeze or refrigerate them for easy use during the week.

17. Eat balanced meals. Eating right helps the body work more efficiently and helps the body eliminate stress. Eat breakfast in the morning. This meal fuels you for half the day at work. When you skip a meal, you are more prone to stress.

18. Live in the present. The past is over and can't be changed. The future is not here and we can't predict what will happen. Therefore, time well spent is in the present. You will only bring up stress if you worry about what has already happened or fret about what may happen in the future.
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  • Profile picture of the author MNC74
    Great post and advice thanks for the information it is some very good advice and I think it will help very many people who read it!
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  • Profile picture of the author SDsurfer
    Great advice. I have also found that when I get overwhelmed (and it happens more often than I'd like to admit), I write myself an email asking the question I want answered, and I write it as if I'm writing it to someone else, not myself. Helps me look at it from a new perspective so I can move on and get past the issue.
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  • Profile picture of the author Vincent Joseph
    Stephan... that sounds great! Im having a really hard time with public speaking... any suggestions?
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    • Profile picture of the author origin
      Originally Posted by Vincent Joseph View Post

      Stephan... that sounds great! Im having a really hard time with public speaking... any suggestions?
      Hi Vincent!

      I heard somewhere that you should imagine your audience as naked... (just kidding, this has never worked for me).

      Here is what has worked for me in public speaking:

      1. I ask myself, "what is the worst that could happen?". Will my arm fall off if I speak in front of these people? Will I go blind? Will I lose a leg? Will someone close to me die or come to harm? If the answer is NO to all of these questions then there is really nothing to fear and you can go ahead and talk to the them.

      2. Think of the crowd in front of you as just people, just like you they eat, they sleep, they crap on the toilet, they have fears, they have dreams, there really is not much difference between you and them, so you need not fear them (unless you fear humans)

      3. Focus on two or three faces in the crowd and talk to them. I.e make the crowd smaller in your mind by focusing on just a couple of faces and talking to them. Now you are talking just to 2 - 3 people, not a whole crowd (remember to switch faces now and then) . Ever seen comedians on stage how they focus on one or two people in the front row? Just pick one or two receptive faces in the crowd and talk as if you are talking to them only.
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  • Profile picture of the author smonline
    Some good tips you have given here. Our mind is the main thing we use in this business, so we must learn how to keep it in top condition.

    I suggest to have a vision board or something as your wall poster that you can see regularly, which says:-

    "YOUR MIND IS WHAT YOU NEED TO KEEP IN TOP CONDITION IN THIS BUSINESS".
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  • Profile picture of the author Eric D Greene
    Super list. Each of these could probably be expanded into their own article! Thanks Stephan.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    because of the very negative effects stress has on your body.. it is better to eliminate as much of it as you can ..
    though many of these tips are valid ..

    lay off the caffeine ..a coup or two may be fine and have benefits in the morning ..like 1 or two glasses of wine can help you relax at night .. but more than that ..there is a problem .

    the diet you have .. should be tailored for what you do .. you should pay attention to the effect what you eat has on your production ,,
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  • Profile picture of the author Crystal_Jobs
    Great list!

    I will also add that you should spend quality time communing with God- pouring out all your concerns to Him. By the time you are done talking to God, you will feel much better.

    Also remember - 'a problem shared is a problem solved'
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  • Profile picture of the author Sisi
    Thank you Living in the moment is what I have been sticking to and its been just lovely.
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  • Profile picture of the author Doug Hewitt
    WOW! Great advice! I love the part about living in the moment. Thanks for posting this! Doug
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  • Profile picture of the author mazhar
    These advices are professional and important for all. If every man is conscious for his better life, then it can be possible to do anything.
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  • Profile picture of the author NickNimmin
    Great list!

    Meditation would be an excellent addition...it's the most helpful part of stress management for me.
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    • Profile picture of the author Sangfroid
      Originally Posted by NickNimmin View Post

      Great list!

      Meditation would be an excellent addition...it's the most helpful part of stress management for me.
      Yes, meditate, meditate, meditate..............the most important thing!

      Without it I would be a screaming meanie!
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  • Profile picture of the author ezexclusive
    Those are all great tips. Another one that gets overlooked quite often is drinking enough water and getting regular breaks to go outside and get some fresh air.

    Believe me these two things when done consistently will make you more alert and you will feel a lot more productive.
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    • Profile picture of the author JacSavage
      The following method Works well. Learned it long ago from a Kung Fu master. You move from over stressed to metal state akin to a big cat on the prowl- relaxed but ready for effective action in the wink of an eye:

      - slowly (3-5 seconds ) breath in deeply filling your lungs AND

      - imagine positive negative energy ( light ) flooding in your lungs and thru out your body. hold for a second

      THEN

      - expell air in a controlled manner WHILE imagining negative energy ( darkness ) exiting your body

      repeat as needed.

      With a little practice just a few repetioms will get you in the desired mental state.
      TRY it - you'll LIke it !
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      • good list.

        for # 2 - love that word Partition!

        true story from W.Clement Stone (contemprary of napolean hill, founder of combined life insurance, author of well know sales book)

        he sold insurance, going to small towns and small business.

        renting a motel room for the time.

        he would go back to his room and take a "power nap", and saw it as a way to re-start.

        so, a good way to partition is some down time, to recharge yourself.

        done this for years - although I call it "2 days in 1",
        I fall asleep, with what (mentally) I want to wake up to
        which is good if your having a "bad sales day" and plenty of Rejection
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  • Profile picture of the author Work1099
    It's also worth considering the biological side of this. For example, when blood sugar is low, a person is naturally more inclined to be emotional, irritable and more prone to giving up. Simply switching to a diet with stable blood sugar often does miracles for a person (such as a cyclical ketogenic diet). This isn't the only example of how the biological system can be adjusted to make success easier.
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    • Originally Posted by Work1099 View Post

      It's also worth considering the biological side of this. For example, when blood sugar is low, a person is naturally more inclined to be emotional, irritable and more prone to giving up. Simply switching to a diet with stable blood sugar often does miracles for a person (such as a cyclical ketogenic diet). This isn't the only example of how the biological system can be adjusted to make success easier.
      great input.

      powerful stuff when you go Biological!

      I'm 56 and when I'm tired, I'm not "optimistic"
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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Jacoby
    Thanks, Stephan. I'll follow your advice and try to start implementing the tips I'm currently not following into my lifestyle. The hardest thing for me is to stop being a perfectionist. I always want everything to be just right, when in reality you can ALWAYS improve on something. The best is to just get going and improve as you go.
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    • Originally Posted by JasonJacoby View Post

      Thanks, Stephan. I'll follow your advice and try to start implementing the tips I'm currently not following into my lifestyle. The hardest thing for me is to stop being a perfectionist. I always want everything to be just right, when in reality you can ALWAYS improve on something. The best is to just get going and improve as you go.

      me too. so I start at the basics.

      everything we do, think, feel, etc.., starts with the breath.

      I can't sit down for 30 minutes and do yoga.

      But, I can breath once, then again ...maybe...then I give praise, for just 1 breath!
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