An Introvert's Thoughts on Socializing
Here are some things I've learned about socializing over the past few months.
Learning to Deindividuate
As an introvert I feel like the most difficult thing to cope with about people and socializing is the fact that most people deindividuate and for all of the wrong reasons. The is especially visible on mediums such as the internet where people have a mob-like mentality. This means relinquishing any sense of self in order to feel like you're a part of the group and ostracizing people you feel are not.
Being Yourself
Throughout my life I've been told that being yourself is essential to socializing. The problem is that when people say be yourself they don't mean be who you are they mean be who society demands you to be. Play your role and be whoever is trendy at the moment.
Growing Your Ego
Act as if you're hot shit even if you aren't. Especially if it's the complete opposite of who/what you really are. The illusion draws other sheeple towards you and encourages slippery slope conversations over nothingness. Perhaps you'll go for burgers and photograph your fake friendship and post it on IG. #hisdaddyownsmercedes #golddigger #idatearapper
Learning to be a Bitch
Facing the music means coming to the realization that people in the day and age we live have no respect for kindness or respect for that matter. So if you're a respectable sweety you'll find yourself upset with many social experiences. Learning to only respond when there is something negative to say about a topic or person is essential to fitting in. Learning to come across as rude and accept disrespect is just as important.
Making Examples Out of People
It seems now more than ever socializing isn't complete without at least one of these incidents. You have to realize that you too can become an example at any given moment. Part of showing that you're hot is attacking others and accumulating goons, likes, follows and kudos. I mean this isn't shocking but I think it gives certain people the most grief.
So how do you bypass this? Sit in your house. Say nothing. Engage in nothing. But in all seriousness, socializing can be pretty tough. Especially when you have normal expectations for humanity. I guess it gets better.
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