Becoming a dad over 50 years old!

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My first bunch of children I got in my twenties, and they left the house years ago.
now I'm in my early fifties, remarried to a much younger wife and we are expecting (again).

I was wondering any other (future) dads that got one of their kids at a later age?

What are the pros and cons in your opinion?

Love to hear from you!
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    I'd focus on the pros and forget about the cons...since it's a bit late to change your mind.


    I think it's all 'pros' anyway. You have more sense and more time than when you were young...probably are more financially secure and settled in your life. Friend of mine who had two children long after they thought they were 'done' have said they enjoy those two more than they did the 'earlier' kids because they (the parents) are more mature and confident now.


    Congratulations.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    Originally Posted by allegandro View Post

    My first bunch of children I got in my twenties, and they left the house years ago.
    now I'm in my early fifties, remarried to a much younger wife and we are expecting (again).

    I was wondering any other (future) dads that got one of their kids at a later age?

    What are the pros and cons in your opinion?

    Love to hear from you!
    this is a very simple view ..but if you have good health habits and are financially sound ( which i am assuming based on the other post)..and the marriage stays good ..

    then id say there are almost all pros ..especially if the first batch turned out well
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  • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
    Originally Posted by allegandro View Post

    My first bunch of children I got in my twenties, and they left the house years ago.
    now I'm in my early fifties, remarried to a much younger wife and we are expecting (again).

    I was wondering any other (future) dads that got one of their kids at a later age?

    What are the pros and cons in your opinion?

    Love to hear from you!
    I'm more interested in how you came to be married to a much younger woman?
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    • Profile picture of the author allegandro
      Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

      I'm more interested in how you came to be married to a much younger wife?
      LOL

      I have a Ukraine office as well, and while I was visiting it, I decided to hit a club with a German friend who recently divorced. While he was getting drunk I got to talk with an amazing young lady.
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      • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
        Originally Posted by allegandro View Post

        LOL

        I have a Ukraine office as well, and while I was visiting it, I decided to hit a club with a German friend who recently divorced. While he was getting drunk I got to talk with an amazing young lady.
        So, you went abroad and found a broad. I can attest to having some experience in that dept.

        In some cultures it is quite normal for age gap relationships, like in Japan (and Ohio)
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        • Profile picture of the author allegandro
          Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

          So, you went abroad and found a broad. I can attest to having some experience in that dept.

          In some cultures it is quite normal for age gap relationships, like in Japan (and Ohio)
          Yes, you're right. Just I don't see it as going abroad, because I also have a condo there and lived there as well. But yes, you're right.

          I do not worry at all about our age gap, it stills feels like a perfect match.

          But that sad, soon I will be buying pampers for the youngest and for me as well. And when he or she will hit puberty I will move around with a walker.

          So in my group of friends, I do not have any older dad, so I decided to see if we have here any.
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          • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
            Originally Posted by allegandro View Post

            Yes, you're right. Just I don't see it as going abroad, because I also have a condo there and lived there as well. But yes, you're right.

            I do not worry at all about our age gap, it stills feels like a perfect match.

            But that sad, soon I will be buying pampers for the youngest and for me as well. And when he or she will hit puberty I will move around with a walker.

            So in my group of friends, I do not have any older dad, so I decided to see if we have here any.
            So, I would say, congratulations. Enjoy this double blessing in your latter years. Keep fit and healthy, take the vitamins and testosterone boosters etc. Your going to need them to keep up.

            Yes, it's sad when wearing adult diapers changes from being a fetish to a necessity. Lol
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  • Profile picture of the author DWolfe
    Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

    I'm more interested in how you came to be married to a much younger woman?
    Originally Posted by allegandro View Post

    LOL

    I have a Ukraine office as well, and while I was visiting it, I decided to hit a club.
    When he pulled up in his Lambo with the Gold chains since becoming a instant IM Guru the rest was history

    In a more serious note - Congratulations hope you and your wife have a happy healthy baby.
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    • Profile picture of the author allegandro
      Originally Posted by DWolfe View Post

      When he pulled up in his Lambo with the Gold chains since becoming an instant IM Guru the rest was history
      OMG, you saw me? LOL
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  • Profile picture of the author Diego Aguirre
    Some of this threads can be quite entertaining .
    OP I guess this is a good question for Reddit, if you're into it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
    I had a kid at 40, does that count?

    There are many more positives than negatives:

    1. You are more mature and established in life;

    2. You're probably more financially secure and can offer your new child things you couldn't have earlier in your life. I couldn't have afforded private school for my son when I was in my 20's;

    3. You have more wisdom to impart now that you're a wise ol' sage;

    4. You've been there, done that. You know when to wait out a child's illness and when to hightail it to the emergency room;

    5. Younger parents give you a little more respect. The steely gaze of Salt and Pepper Dad opens a wide swath at the playground;

    6. You understand just how precious life is and just how little time you have before your new child grows up. You'll know to find joy in the stolen moments of it all.

    Here's my insider tip: never let your wife catch you tearing up at that cartoon movie you're watching. You can allow her to *think* she caught you, but always try to maintain ambiguity. Otherwise, you'll never hear the end of it.

    Also, invest in batteries, super glue, and tiny screwdrivers.

    One more tip: After you accidently (of course) swear, shout "Peas and Carrots!" (or some other nonsense). The kid will cue in on the shouted vegetables and forget the curse words.
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    • Profile picture of the author whateverpedia
      Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

      I had a kid at 40.
      That must have been painful for you.

      On another note I was under the impression you had a human child not a goat.
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      • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
        Originally Posted by whateverpedia View Post

        That must have been painful for you.

        On another note I was under the impression you had a human child not a goat.
        Dan's family are quite well off so they have a Nanny Goat
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      • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
        Originally Posted by whateverpedia View Post

        That must have been painful for you.

        On another note I was under the impression you had a human child not a goat.
        You're showing your age, Whatty. The common parlance these days is "we're pregnant."

        And the way my son eats, he just might be a goat.
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    • Profile picture of the author allegandro
      Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

      I had a kid at 40, does that count?

      There are many more positives than negatives:

      1. You are more mature and established in life;

      2. You're probably more financially secure and can offer your new child things you couldn't have earlier in your life. I couldn't have afforded private school for my son when I was in my 20's;

      3. You have more wisdom to impart now that you're a wise ol' sage;

      4. You've been there, done that. You know when to wait out a child's illness and when to hightail it to the emergency room;

      5. Younger parents give you a little more respect. The steely gaze of Salt and Pepper Dad opens a wide swath at the playground;

      6. You understand just how precious life is and just how little time you have before your new child grows up. You'll know to find joy in the stolen moments of it all.

      Here's my insider tip: never let your wife catch you tearing up at that cartoon movie you're watching. You can allow her to *think* she caught you, but always try to maintain ambiguity. Otherwise, you'll never hear the end of it.

      Also, invest in batteries, super glue, and tiny screwdrivers.

      One more tip: After you accidently (of course) swear, shout "Peas and Carrots!" (or some other nonsense). The kid will cue in on the shouted vegetables and forget the curse words.
      40 Counts, but that experience I already had as well. I think there is a big difference between 40 and 50 in becoming a dad.

      But I agree with your points, that with age you know so much more and can take the wisdom of many years with you. This means that I hope not to make the same mistakes again.
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  • Profile picture of the author Crew Chief
    allegandro, if we're judging by the group below, you started EARLY!

    George Clooney had twins in his late 50's

    Billy Joel, 66
    Jeff Godlblum, 62
    Steve Martin, 67
    George Lucas, 69
    Mic Jagger, 73
    Michael Douglas, 58
    Rod Stewart, 66

    The key is staying strong!

    Meaning, walking daily, lifting weights, eating healthy, drinking water, avoid sugar, junk foods, cigarettes and hard liquor.

    And, most importantly, laugh!

    Hope that helps!
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    • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
      Originally Posted by Crew Chief View Post

      allegandro, if we're judging by the group below, you started EARLY!

      George Clooney had twins in his late 50's

      Billy Joel, 66
      Jeff Godlblum, 62
      Steve Martin, 67
      George Lucas, 69
      Mic Jagger, 73
      Michael Douglas, 58
      Rod Stewart, 66

      The key is staying strong!

      Meaning, walking daily, lifting weights, eating healthy, drinking water, avoid sugar, junk foods, cigarettes and hard liquor.

      And, most importantly, laugh!

      Hope that helps!
      "avoid sugar, junk foods, cigarettes and hard liquor."

      Nothing to smile about then
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      • Profile picture of the author allegandro
        Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

        "avoid sugar, junk foods, cigarettes and hard liquor."

        Nothing to smile about then
        I'm LDS and a vegetarian... and yes I still smile all the time.
        So it's possible!

        That said, my mother was a hippy and smoked a lot of weed when she was pregnant with me, so I guess it's still in my veins.
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      Originally Posted by Crew Chief View Post

      allegandro, if we're judging by the group below, you started EARLY!

      George Clooney had twins in his late 50's

      Billy Joel, 66
      Jeff Godlblum, 62
      Steve Martin, 67
      George Lucas, 69
      Mic Jagger, 73
      Michael Douglas, 58
      Rod Stewart, 66

      The key is staying strong!

      Meaning, walking daily, lifting weights, eating healthy, drinking water, avoid sugar, junk foods, cigarettes and hard liquor.

      And, most importantly, laugh!

      Hope that helps!
      I see, I can go for an extra round in 20 years, thanks. LOL

      And yes, let's stay healthy and laugh!
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      nice research you did there, gives me peace of mind for being 31 with no kids yet... plenty of time
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      Originally Posted by Crew Chief View Post

      allegandro, if we're judging by the group below, you started EARLY!

      George Clooney had twins in his late 50's

      Billy Joel, 66
      Jeff Godlblum, 62
      Steve Martin, 67
      George Lucas, 69
      Mic Jagger, 73
      Michael Douglas, 58
      Rod Stewart, 66

      The key is staying strong!

      Meaning, walking daily, lifting weights, eating healthy, drinking water, avoid sugar, junk foods, cigarettes and hard liquor.

      And, most importantly, laugh!

      Hope that helps!
      Do not forget Tony Randall of "The Odd Couple" became a father for the first time at age 77
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      • Profile picture of the author allegandro
        Originally Posted by discrat View Post

        Do not forget Tony Randall of "The Odd Couple" became a father for the first time at age 77
        I guess it was not from an Italian lady that also had a mature age of around 65?
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      Originally Posted by DURABLEOILCOM View Post

      Congratulations!
      Thank you, and when it comes to my wife, it should not stop with one more kid, so in some years I will be back with: "Becoming a dad over 60 years old"
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    Originally Posted by allegandro View Post

    My first bunch of children I got in my twenties, and they left the house years ago.
    now I'm in my early fifties, remarried to a much younger wife and we are expecting (again).

    I was wondering any other (future) dads that got one of their kids at a later age?

    What are the pros and cons in your opinion?

    Love to hear from you!
    I have a grown up son, I'm a similar age to you and also have the much younger girlfriend but no mini-rats on the way, although it is still a possibility and the topic has been discussed.

    There used to be a copywriter on this forum (7 years ago or something?) who lived in France and he was in his early sixties with a younger wife and a toddler he had with her, I can't remember his name. He seemed to be thoroughly enjoying the experience.

    Congratulations and best of luck, I'd be interested to hear how you get on once the bundle of joy arrives.
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  • Profile picture of the author rosario1990
    First congrats to both of you. I think it's a very good idea to make your second conjugal life interesting. Because a child will definitely add a lot of enjoyment to your family. Carry on!
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  • Profile picture of the author kenmichaels
    All that I can think of when I see this post is that I had a boy when I was young and fit (36) and for the next seven or so years he constantly wore me out.

    I can't imagine chasing an ankle-biter around the house all day in my fifties.

    Truth be told, we were supposed to be married for five additional years before we had a kid, so when he first popped out, I wished we had waited a few more years, but now as we get older, I wish he came along sooner.
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  • Having a child is a wonderful experience at any age. I'm also a member of the 'Nifty at 50' club.

    Once, whilst watching a space rocket launch on television, I recall my oldest saying to me: "I wish I could be shot into space, Dad". I replied: "You would have been if I hadn't been drunk and met your mother".
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  • Profile picture of the author discrat
    Originally Posted by allegandro View Post

    My first bunch of children I got in my twenties, and they left the house years ago.
    now I'm in my early fifties, remarried to a much younger wife and we are expecting (again).

    I was wondering any other (future) dads that got one of their kids at a later age?

    What are the pros and cons in your opinion?

    Love to hear from you!
    41 and 42 is when I had mine. But it's just a number so a MASSIVE congrats to you!!! Prayers and thoughts out to you for a smooth pregnancy and deliverance
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