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Marriage

by Jamell
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Do you ever think that you'll get married or is marriage something sentimental to you ?

I might don't get see myself getting married .
  • Profile picture of the author discrat
    huh?? .
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  • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
    Originally Posted by Jamell View Post

    Do you ever think that you'll get married or is marriage something sentimental to you ?

    I might don't get see myself getting married .
    My entire adult life I've either been married or in a relationship.

    Mate selection will make or break a lifetime. The right partner is everything.

    On the other hand, sometimes it isn't the mate that makes or breaks a lifetime of happiness. Sometimes it's YOU.

    Are you the kind of person that someone would love to spend their life with?

    Are you kind, decent, loving, and giving?

    Or...do you blame "women" for not just jumping at the chance to date you?

    Do you think all women are just after your money? I've seen plenty of videos (each with hundreds of comments agreeing) that blame women for all your troubles.

    If this describes you, you're the problem, not them.

    The solution to "marriage decision problems" is to be the kind of person that someone wants to marry. Treating other people well is a good start.
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    • Profile picture of the author discrat
      just celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary yesterday . It really has gone by fast.

      i will give one piece of advice to anyone out there. It's pretty simple and Dr. Phil actually came up with the notion and that is in a relationship you are gonna have to have one "hero" as part of the marital equation.

      In other wards when disagreements and differences arise you need at least one partner in the marriage to step up and concede and be the bigger person (preferably both)

      And don't be afraid to say iam sorry even if deep down that is questionable... learn to move on amicably
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      • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
        Originally Posted by discrat View Post

        just celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary yesterday . It really has gone by fast.

        i will give one piece of advice to anyone out there. It's pretty simple and Dr. Phil actually came up with the notion and that is in a relationship you are gonna have to have one "hero" as part of the marital equation.
        I think many marriages have that, maybe most. But these are also relationships that require work.

        The ones that require no effort are the ones where both people care about the other one more than themselves. Then arguing and fighting become a non-issue.


        Believe me, that took a little over 100 "girlfriends" a failed marriage, and then a very successful one.....and several decades....to realize.

        I suppose better late than never. At least it makes me feel a little better to believe that.
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        • Profile picture of the author discrat
          Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post


          The ones that require no effort are the ones where both people care about the other one more than themselves. Then arguing and fighting become a non-issue.


          Believe me, that took a little over 100 "girlfriends" a failed marriage, and then a very successful one.....and several decades....to realize.

          I suppose better late than never. At least it makes me feel a little better to believe that.
          You were so blessed to have Cheryl, seriously what a wonderful relationship you two had
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  • Profile picture of the author Princess Balestra
    Mebbe we talkin' consequenshl bonds.

    Of which, there may be a hierarchy -- an' sum way in for yr stoopid mortal ass.

    Evin if'n youwaint winnin' rn, you can be sure sumone on the othah sidea the planit dowin' OK bcs why the hell else they ain't smilin' like eedjits?

    There is gravity, an' there is repulschwaahn.

    Magnits in evidence.

    An' I guess you gotta hook yrself up to where all charge of life ignites yr ass.

    WAIT!!! (!) -- Is This a Warrior Forum Special Offer ... or a Special Warrior Forum a) Offer ... Special Warrior Forum b) Opportunity -- or ... you jus' shittin' us, O Princess?


    FFS calm yusselves down.

    "Momentum as may be of significance," said the dragon at the head of the storm (or the storm ahead of the dragon ... fergit which'n now bcs I such a ditz), "is a single step in the direction of magnificence when all would seem to be lost."

    I would wish always for benevolent intertwinements of such shocking beauty you would forget to gasp.

    Alas, so many places you look now, we gaht only rasp.

    Yeah yeah, so mebbe I bittah ' bout Dr Benedict Strangepants naht suckin' on muh tata's bcs Metaverse Whatevah ... but tbh who needs the Eye of Hugamuto trackin' yr unprincessly farts 24/7?

    You would want mebbe maxo conflux wherevah you can get it, without you swept along by ignitionismo beyond yr control.

    Gravity as kisses your flight.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jamell
    Not to me .Relationships are about mutual respect and good communication and I don't have to be married to adhere to that .

    That's my take on it .
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by Jamell View Post

      Not to me .Relationships are about mutual respect and good communication and I don't have to be married to adhere to that .

      That's my take on it .
      No. You don't have to be married. You don't even have to want to be married, or even date.

      My post was for any reader. I wasn't singling you out.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
    It's 25 years this year for me. Five more and I will have completed a life sentence.
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

      It's 25 years this year for me. Five more and I will have completed a life sentence.
      Stop taking credit for something you heard your wife say.
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    • Profile picture of the author Princess Balestra
      Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

      It's 25 years this year for me. Five more and I will have completed a life sentence.
      Anothah five, an' you may be elijibyool for strife repentance (if'n you been good).
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  • Profile picture of the author socialentry
    Not sure, as I grow older, I realize that I might be mighty bored if I don't have a family or wife.Like if you're 60 or 70, and you're not married, do u just play video games until you die.

    But I do agree that in a Western context, where you can more or less divorce at will and theres no difference between marriage and just having a long term partner, marriage is kind of a useless institution.
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by socialentry View Post

      Not sure, as I grow older, I realize that I might be mighty bored if I don't have a family or wife.Like if you're 60 or 70, and you're not married, do u just play video games until you die.
      You do if you stop looking. There is someone for everyone. Any trip through a WalMart will show you that.



      Originally Posted by socialentry View Post

      But I do agree that in a Western context, where you can more or less divorce at will and theres no difference between marriage and just having a long term partner, marriage is kind of a useless institution.
      There are a few tax advantages of being legally married. But it implies a commitment to the other one.

      I see plenty of videos talking about the advantages of not marrying after 50 or 70. But these are just designed to make single men feel better about not having someone else in their life.
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      • Profile picture of the author Princess Balestra
        [QUOTE=Claude Whitacre;11849039]You do if you stop looking. There is someone for everyone. Any trip through a WalMart will show you that.
        /QUOTE]

        Evidence is forevah.

        Yr senses cannot help but you imbibe it.

        Soon as you can git to the processin' part without bein' a ditz, likely you gowin' sumplace.

        Thing about 'any trip' is ... it's an always trip.

        One step inta whatevah the next thing is.

        On a You vs The Caaasmaaahs kinda ticket.

        Which kinda says, yeah, you gotta broaden yr horizons on out or suffcaite on yr own brayinns.

        But also swing sweet on shuttin' down crap in an instant.

        WalMart is where people gathah to have FA to do with anywan else.

        Lines of trolleys trundlin' to the checkouts.

        Evrywan free to choose & grab.

        But who actschwlly says anythin' to anywan here?

        Beyond "in my view, these zucchinis are gowin' ovah, an' lack the necessary tumescence to warrant incloosion in dinnah party arrangements for which I ain't gaht no cloo 'bout."

        Prolly you gaht brute force Moi Moi Moi meets total idc gowin' on in yr local FEED ME outlet.

        Sleepsy wakefulness, trolley shuffle, checkout buh-ding buh-ding buh-ding.

        How we meandah here, with nuthin' & evrythin'.

        It is as if we imagine sum sense to it othah than our own.

        An' we go YEAH.

        An' then we see evrywan else is here too.

        Like they on rollah skates you can fill up with more'n jus' yr feet.

        Vegtrbyools.

        Meat.

        Fish.

        Tinned stuffs.

        Sham frickin' poo.

        An exotic dance of people, you would wish to say.

        An assumed delivery of Wanna.

        Las' thing nowan would evah figure as a raison debtUR ... an' yet here we all are.

        Aisles & smiles.

        What else is there?

        I guess it is in the lookin' an' seekin' that you find the uninevitably delivahed.

        Sum yurpsy uh-huh POV that ain't actshly chaos.

        Sit yr ANYTIME ANYPLACE WalMart crowd sumplace else, likely they gonna switch out EZ AISLE SNOOZO for mortil cahmbat.

        As a natchrl Sagittarius, I would wish always for commune of maxo purpose independent of dragsy dragsy schwango.

        Like Andy Warhol said: "if I am EVER to write that 15 minutes of fame quote, purr-frickin-release gimme SOME ******* SHIT to FIX MY GODDAMN SKIN!"
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      • Profile picture of the author discrat
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        I see plenty of videos talking about the advantages of not marrying after 50 or 70. But these are just designed to make single men feel better about not having someone else in their life.
        yeah, single men who have never married over 60 just do not live as long compared to those who have. Thats verifiable fact !!
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      • Profile picture of the author socialentry
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        You do if you stop looking. There is someone for everyone. Any trip through a WalMart will show you that.

        Walmart? I'm disappointed.


        If ever I hit 70 and I want to get married I'm hitting Saint tropez baby.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kosmalll
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    Honestly, this isn't something you can really "plan out in advance like a project. For some people it's romantic and a clear life goal, for others it's just not a priority or doesn't feel necessary at all. Both are fine
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