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Ohkay this is something personal and still related to IM. Please bare with me.

I am a 19 year old college guy and a 2nd year college student.

My girl best friend told me that a girl's parent would prefer a son in law who has a proper day job rather than who is a business man because there is job security and stuff in a day job. India, where I live is a place where engineers and doctors are preferred by everyone

So IM is a business, and I plan to make it full time by the time I finish my college and graduation and I don't intend to do a day job at all but I do plan to complete my studies and do MSC in physics after the BSC I am doing.

Ever since she told me the "a girls parent's view about their son in law", I have been wondering if the parents of a girl I would want to marry will even allow when I'll decide to get married.

Please don't LOL. These kinda things are really sensitive to me and I need your advice. LOL

What do you think?
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  • Profile picture of the author Cee
    If you're starting IM now and are still in school then likely by the time you graduate you will be a hugely successful internet marketer making scads of money. Not only that but you'll have a degree in physics. You'll be a highly sought after son in law if you ask me.
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    • Profile picture of the author youngchild92
      Originally Posted by Cee View Post

      If you're starting IM now and are still in school then likely by the time you graduate you will be a hugely successful internet marketer making scads of money. Not only that but you'll have a degree in physics. You'll be a highly sought after son in law if you ask me.
      Really? You think so? Thanks a lot..
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      • Profile picture of the author Cee
        Originally Posted by youngchild92 View Post

        Really? You think so? Thanks a lot..
        I sure do. And you're welcome
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        • Profile picture of the author rlhurst
          I think Cee is right on. And, I don't think it was a "stupid" question to ask. Keep after it!
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  • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
    Originally Posted by youngchild92 View Post

    My girl best friend told me that a girl's parent would prefer a son in law who has a proper day job rather than who is a business man because there is job security and stuff in a day job.
    Ask yourself this: who has more job security - the business owner or the employee?
    I've yet to run into an owner who's fired or laid off himself.

    Additionally, I think your plan is solid. Continue to build your IM business while you further your education. This gives you options and many of them. You're going to want access to those options someday. You're young. Life has a way of throwing twists and curves at you. Prepare yourself today for the unexpected future ahead.

    As far as women go, a woman wants a man who is his own man - comfortable in his own skin and confident in manner - not someone who is controlled by the thoughts of others (well, other than her, anyway...).

    Be yourself, whoever that is, and you'll find a fitting counterpart. Parents be damned.
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  • Profile picture of the author RentItNow
    According to the millionaire mind (survey of 1371 american millionaires) more people have become millionaires from owning a business that had a unique idea than any other profession, yes even doctors. Keep it in mind. Make sure you do something no one else is doing and avoid the me-2 gen.
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  • Profile picture of the author anthony2
    Originally Posted by youngchild92 View Post

    Ohkay this is something personal and still related to IM. Please bare with me.

    I am a 19 year old college guy and a 2nd year college student.

    My girl best friend told me that a girl's parent would prefer a son in law who has a proper day job rather than who is a business man because there is job security and stuff in a day job. India, where I live is a place where engineers and doctors are preferred by everyone

    So IM is a business, and I plan to make it full time by the time I finish my college and graduation and I don't intend to do a day job at all but I do plan to complete my studies and do MSC in physics after the BSC I am doing.

    Ever since she told me the "a girls parent's view about their son in law", I have been wondering if the parents of a girl I would want to marry will even allow when I'll decide to get married.

    Please don't LOL. These kinda things are really sensitive to me and I need your advice. LOL

    What do you think?
    i will have to agree with Dan.

    work on your IM business and still further your education.
    if you are persistent and consistent you could be highly successful
    with your internet business and be making alot more then most doctors.

    if a girl or her parents don't like or approve of you being a entreprenuer
    then you will just have to move on. there many fishes out there in the sea.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nail Yener
    Originally Posted by youngchild92 View Post

    Ohkay this is something personal and still related to IM. Please bare with me.

    I am a 19 year old college guy and a 2nd year college student.

    My girl best friend told me that a girl's parent would prefer a son in law who has a proper day job rather than who is a business man because there is job security and stuff in a day job. India, where I live is a place where engineers and doctors are preferred by everyone

    So IM is a business, and I plan to make it full time by the time I finish my college and graduation and I don't intend to do a day job at all but I do plan to complete my studies and do MSC in physics after the BSC I am doing.

    Ever since she told me the "a girls parent's view about their son in law", I have been wondering if the parents of a girl I would want to marry will even allow when I'll decide to get married.

    Please don't LOL. These kinda things are really sensitive to me and I need your advice. LOL

    What do you think?
    I guess your girlfriend told you her own views, not her parents'. And believe me, she will mention that whenever you talk about IM or marriage. This will certainly hinder your motivation and dedication.

    Some people are born to work at a day job and some others are born to be a business owner. If that's what you are feeling, then go for it. Do not care whatever others think about what you are doing. Do not shape your future based on your girlfriend's parents' opinions. Those who have no idea how profitable it can be running a business, especially an online business, would always prefer to have a "secure" day job even if you make 10 times more with your own business.

    Do not bother explaining them what you are into and how you will make money etc. Show them the money when you get to that point, because that's really the only thing they are interested. Not the job, not the security, only the money.

    You are very young and it is really nice that you started IM. If you take massive action and start building long term income streams, there is no reason you would need a day job at the time you graduate. And then you will have the confidence to talk to your parent-in-laws.

    Sorry but if you have plans about doing a MSC in physics, I don't think you will be able to dedicate yourself to IM full time and make big money. Because that shows you yourself have the feeling of insecurity (unless you are a big fan of physics). Because, as far as I know, physics isn't something that we use in the IM world.
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    • Profile picture of the author youngchild92
      Originally Posted by Nail Yener View Post

      I guess your girlfriend told you her own views, not her parents'. And believe me, she will mention that whenever you talk about IM or marriage. This will certainly hinder your motivation and dedication.

      Some people are born to work at a day job and some others are born to be a business owner. If that's what you are feeling, then go for it. Do not care whatever others think about what you are doing. Do not shape your future based on your girlfriend's parents' opinions. Those who have no idea how profitable it can be running a business, especially an online business, would always prefer to have a "secure" day job even if you make 10 times more with your own business.

      Do not bother explaining them what you are into and how you will make money etc. Show them the money when you get to that point, because that's really the only thing they are interested. Not the job, not the security, only the money.

      You are very young and it is really nice that you started IM. If you take massive action and start building long term income streams, there is no reason you would need a day job at the time you graduate. And then you will have the confidence to talk to your parent-in-laws.

      Sorry but if you have plans about doing a MSC in physics, I don't think you will be able to dedicate yourself to IM full time and make big money. Because that shows you yourself have the feeling of insecurity (unless you are a big fan of physics). Because, as far as I know, physics isn't something that we use in the IM world.

      I agree physics really isn't easy and needs a great amount of focus to pursue but yes I have a thing in me for physics. So i think ill be able to manage. And yes I think I myself am insecure of what I am doing but I guess it will change once I scale up my business and make more money.

      Thanks for you great advice!
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  • Profile picture of the author JamieSEO
    Originally Posted by youngchild92 View Post

    Ohkay this is something personal and still related to IM. Please bare with me.

    My girl best friend told me that a girl's parent would prefer a son in law who has a proper day job rather than who is a business man because there is job security and stuff in a day job. India, where I live is a place where engineers and doctors are preferred by everyone
    There are really two different answers to the question you asked.

    Yes, you can make a good living from internet marketing

    BUT

    The social status is much lower, especially in countries such as India and not having a day job is generally frowned upon by the older generations (parents/grandparents).

    Your social status will have a great deal of influence in gaining the approval of your girlfriend's parents or grandparents.

    If you decide to pursue internet marketing - make sure you get as much information as you can to present to those that have concerns. Write a list of questions you think they will ask, or reasons why they believe a day job is better and make sure you have the answers ready to give them

    Good luck
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    • Profile picture of the author youngchild92
      Originally Posted by JamieSEO View Post

      There are really two different answers to the question you asked.

      Yes, you can make a good living from internet marketing

      BUT

      The social status is much lower, especially in countries such as India and not having a day job is generally frowned upon by the older generations (parents/grandparents).

      Your social status will have a great deal of influence in gaining the approval of your girlfriend's parents or grandparents.

      If you decide to pursue internet marketing - make sure you get as much information as you can to present to those that have concerns. Write a list of questions you think they will ask, or reasons why they believe a day job is better and make sure you have the answers ready to give them

      Good luck
      You are so right! Social status in India matters a lot!

      Here the social status of person is high either because he/she is a famous personality like a sportstar, filmstar or some owner of big business like kingfisher or something or if he/she is a lawyer, doctor, engineer etc!

      Everyone in my family is either a doctor, engineer or lawyer. So yes, me being the only kid in the family have a lot of pressure on me.

      Plus my gf says stuff like "business people can't be trusted. when they are rich, their life is heaven. but when their business falls, their life is worse than hell!".

      It depresses me so much when she says stuff like this because I see myself as a internet marketer even 40 years from now! And if she or her parents can't trust me about me being financially strong, then it would be very bad for me.

      And talking about physics, its a part of me, its like my hobby! If i make enough money, I tell you i'll buy a piece of land and build my own observatory there to gaze stars at night!
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  • Profile picture of the author hotrod26
    The average employee is making less and less and is getting fired and laid off more and more often while the business owners and internet marketers are making more and more. Internet marketing is the future and a lot of people still do not understand it, but it is what makes just about every business run.
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  • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
    Originally Posted by youngchild92 View Post

    My girl best friend told me that a girl's parent would prefer a son in law who has a proper day job rather than who is a business man because there is job security and stuff in a day job.
    This is very much true in India. The echoes of the caste system still linger, and the idea of someone making their own future and forging their own path remains foreign and frightening to the older generation.

    An advanced degree will help to offset this, but you're setting yourself up to be frowned upon. If you intend to remain in India, I would recommend getting yourself a good, reliable passive income from IM... then getting a "real" job doing something a girl's parents would approve. Since you won't really care about the money from your job, you can take the soul-enhancing jobs where you work for charity organisations and such. That counts for a lot.

    It also sounds like your girl best friend wants to pull out the word "best" and shove the other two words together. I could be wrong, but it sort of seems like she's prodding in that direction.
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  • Profile picture of the author omk
    Money is the ultimate determining factor. If you can generate income that matches an engineer or doctor, then I'm sure her parents will not think twice about making you their son-in-law!
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  • Profile picture of the author Cloudzz
    If you earn a good salary from your IM it shouldnt matter to them, you could take that money and invest it properly, which will give you "wealth" which is better then being rich and so on, and the fact that you have a degree to fall back on is security. I have my own business, do IM and have a degree myself. As long as you can get IM right, you have nothing to worry about, you could even do IM on the side if you had a day job.
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    • Profile picture of the author Gail Ogden
      Earning a living can be a prison sentence if you have no passion for what you are doing. You are the one who is going to have to live with your decision be it in the way you earn your way or the girl you marry. Don't let anyone make these decisions for you. Life is too valuable and too short to waste on someone else`s idea of what should make you happy.
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      • Profile picture of the author Mr Kevin
        Personally, I would rather much prefer a son/daughter in law who is an entrepreneur, because he/she might impart their ambition, knowledge, passion and experience to my grand kids as well! I am 27, BTW
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  • Profile picture of the author ciel
    Just my thoughts, don't mind.

    What is your goal - marrying the girl or setting up a full time IM business?

    If you are successful then everyone will support you but if you are not nobody is going to listen you or whatever you want to do (marrying the girl).

    If she can motivate you to be successful in IM (you need loads of motivation) then go for it. What does she think about your this decision? If she says she will support you regardless of whatever happens then she is the girl for you.

    If you are thinking about parents then you need to make sure you satisfy their criteria to marry the girl & to do this you need to make them believe that your have got your future secured with IM or a day job whatever.

    Again these were just my thoughts, whatever you do, I wish you success.

    Cheers
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    Originally Posted by youngchild92 View Post

    Ohkay this is something personal and still related to IM. Please bare with me.

    I am a 19 year old college guy and a 2nd year college student.

    My girl best friend told me that a girl's parent would prefer a son in law who has a proper day job rather than who is a business man because there is job security and stuff in a day job. India, where I live is a place where engineers and doctors are preferred by everyone

    So IM is a business, and I plan to make it full time by the time I finish my college and graduation and I don't intend to do a day job at all but I do plan to complete my studies and do MSC in physics after the BSC I am doing.

    Ever since she told me the "a girls parent's view about their son in law", I have been wondering if the parents of a girl I would want to marry will even allow when I'll decide to get married.

    Please don't LOL. These kinda things are really sensitive to me and I need your advice. LOL

    What do you think?
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  • Profile picture of the author DRO
    The average person is grown up on the ideal that you should become a good worker. Become a good employee over being a good employer. It is taught by our school systems, govt., media, parents and everyone else around you. If that is what you want to become; average, then do what you're taught and told to do. Otherwise, stop listening to average people -- Stop adapting to their state of mind. To become extraordinary; listen and learn from those that have broke free and deviated to a path much less taken and succeeded.
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  • Profile picture of the author enterpryzman
    My best advice to you is be cautious whom you listen to and be certain you are listening to those who are self employed about "if" you should be an employee or a business owner.

    I am a business owner ( age 48 and married ) who is very successful and I have 20 full time employee's working in my 2 physical locations. I promise you that my employee's have great deal of security, less pressures, and never have to worry about getting paid next week-next month-next year. I as the owner have all those worries and many many more.

    The security of a very good career without all the related issues involved in business ownership has certain appeal as well. I am in the USA and do not fully understand your culture but, the right answer needs to be qualified by you and only you in your exact situation.

    I personally spend more time worrying about taxes, regulatory issues, employee HR issues, insurances, law suits, marketing and competition, financing for growth, meeting payroll's, and the many-many other things related to ownership and less time enjoying success.........this is just more food for thought. Ownership of a virtual business would be less demanding yet can be much less secure.

    Should your IM business take off while in school, you will have new and real path choices to make. I think it may be great to enjoy the income from IM while in pursuit of your traditional career. Should the IM income develop into a valid-high enough income to consider full time, I feel it will create the validation and respect be given to you by others.

    Lastly, your vocation and expertise could be developed into your IM niche and your education would be great validation and credibility to separate you from others within that niche.

    Best wishes in your future, you will decide what is best for you and at 19, it may also be that another woman is a better choice as well, who knows ?

    Enterpryzman
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  • Profile picture of the author Sumit Menon
    Your girlfriend (or girl best friend, whatever...), she maybe pretty now, but you can count on the fact she'll grow out of it someday (No offense to anybody. But, come on, doesn't everybody? Unless of course, she's going for the whole package of cosmetic surgery and stuff in which case you'll require to be a businessman, anyway, to fund those as there ain't lot of hope of her making any great deal of money.) But you've got to live with the person inside of her all your life. If she is of the same opinion as her parents, would you want to live with someone with this attitude for the REST OF YOUR LIFE? I'm not judging anybody. Some people are okay with a day job and they do okay. Almost everyone I know fall into this category, inluding my parents.

    There was a suitor for my sister (you know, arranged marriage... She is married now) who had some kinda business. I never met the guy. But, his business was one of the reasons mom didn't like that guy. And when I asked what was wrong with owning a business, she didn't give me any logical answer.

    And, besides, if she is not your girlfriend (yet), I can assure you that there a lot more of liberal folks out there these days. Don't sweat it already. Find a girl with sane parents. LOL. Choose wisely, live well.

    BTW, I'm 18 and from India too. Maybe we could go looking for a bride together (or maybe not).

    Sumit.
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  • Profile picture of the author emmndi
    Since you are only a 2nd year student, another two years of IM will defintely earn you some amounts. And hopefully by the time your are through with your MSC in physics, much more will have come your way hence placing you a better position as a sort son in law. Just keep at what you love to do. The rest will always work out over time!
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  • Profile picture of the author seasoned
    Youngchild I agree. Why would ANYONE LOL!?!?!? Yeah, a lot of people DO figure a JOB is more secure. I guess India has experienced that just like the US. In the US, that idea is quickly DISINTEGRATING! The SAME is true of most of europe! Just wait! India THINKS they are benefitting from most of this. That was just starting to become far less true. The actions of your government will only make things WORSE! Within a few years, india COULD find that the growth is virtually ZERO and some people who are NOW rich may wish they had saved more.

    India, until recently, didn't really experience some of this. If you can prove you can make money, have a good backup strategy, and have enough to start, your job should NOT be a concern.

    Of course, the Indian government has decided that THEY want to get rich TOO, so t is getting harder to do IM there. Paypal may STILL not really support the area.

    Steve
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  • Profile picture of the author luke4
    A physics degree will be highly sought after, parents will love you!
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  • Profile picture of the author Sunfyre7896
    If the parents don't accept you, you could always just elope. You don't need their permission if you love somebody.
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