Who is more at fault?

alistair

15 years ago

I think he's more at fault, I mean why would he give her a slap?

He should of done a proper job and nutted her one.

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TLTheLiberator

15 years ago

Originally Posted by Victoria Gates

Who is more at fault?

A girlfriend screams in a guys face about well.. pretty much nonsense, he asks her repeatedly to back off nicely.. she keeps on and on and even when he gets ANGRY and tells her 3 more times to drop it and back off she keeps on in his face yelling. So he shoves her backwards and slaps her across the face, not enough to leave a mark, just to get her to stop. She calls the cops and claims he was beating the crap out of her, and he has weapons (he does not unless you count decorative swords) they come arrest him.

Even though she sounds like someone out of control...

I don't think the hand should hit the face.

He went to far.

If possible, he should have left the premises.

He needs to get her to drop the charges asap, if possible.

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Victoria Gates 15 years ago

I agree slapping was too far but I wonder if so wasn't calling the cops considering he wasn't beating her. Its hard for me as both of their friends to say in this situation I feel for them both but even more so for him.. now he has a court date set and I worry how this will affect his job.
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Doug

15 years ago

I could make all types of judgments...seemingly both are at fault.

Better to just walk away when confronted with someone who is 'out of control' and determine, away from the situation, exactly what is the appropriate next step.

Unfortunately, we all, from time to time, get caught up in the heat of the moment and make a poor decision. Sometimes we are manipulated into making that 'poor decision' which is why it's best to walk away, calm down and decide what is appropriate at that point.

Bystanders, and others, can get caught up into the fray after the fact too, be careful.

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Kurt

15 years ago

He is more wrong for being physical. Her lie is more harmful.

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Kay King

15 years ago

Sounds to me like they deserve each other. Don't like what your partner is doing - leave. Don't like someone screaming at you for nothing - leave.

Or create a big drama and you both look like fools. What happens after the drama is- people like this usually stay together and repeat the pattern.

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yukon

Banned 15 years ago

Originally Posted by Kay King

Sounds to me like they deserve each other. Don't like what your partner is doing - leave. Don't like someone screaming at you for nothing - leave.

Or create a big drama and you both look like fools. What happens after the drama is- people like this usually stay together and repeat the pattern.

Like every episode of the Cops tv show.

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seasoned

15 years ago

They were DECORATIVE swords! If they were swords such as that, for that reason, there is **********NO*********** way he would have access to them unless SHE was at HIS place, or in HIS shop. In such a case, lay ALL the blame at HER feet! He COULDN'T ask her to leave because he couldn't even keep her quiet! He COULDN'T leave! THINK about it! You have 100,000 CASH lying on the table that you can NOT remove, but SHE can, would YOU leave!?!!?!?!? NO WAY! WHY SHOULD YOU? It is YOUR place, and YOUR PROPERTY!

Now, if he carries his swords all over, it kind of brakes the idea of his being a collector, etc... AGAIN, TOO MUCH RISK!!!!!

Steve

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seasoned

15 years ago

BTW he doesn't even leave a mark, and they arrest HIM for beating her up? I'd arrest HER for filing a false police report. I could probably find other charges if she were in public, or at his place.

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Jay_Selders 15 years ago

Woman was at fault.

Woman always want equal rights, no sexism yadda yadda. But when it comes to stuff like this they feel entitled to not being held accountable like a man would if he was in someones face.
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HeySal

15 years ago

He should not have allowed her behavior to continue to a point where he got physically violent. People know when they are being pushed to the limits and they know what laws are.

This is a sick relationship all the way around and needs to end.

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Dave Patterson

15 years ago

Originally Posted by Victoria Gates

Who is more at fault?

A girlfriend screams in a guys face about well.. pretty much nonsense, he asks her repeatedly to back off nicely.. she keeps on and on and even when he gets ANGRY and tells her 3 more times to drop it and back off she keeps on in his face yelling. So he shoves her backwards and slaps her across the face, not enough to leave a mark, just to get her to stop. She calls the cops and claims he was beating the crap out of her, and he has weapons (he does not unless you count decorative swords) they come arrest him.

Diamonds....THAT'LL shut her up.

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yukon Banned 15 years ago

Originally Posted by Dave Patterson

Diamonds....THAT'LL shut her up.

...until she finds out there fake, lol.
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valerieSONORA

15 years ago

He shoulda got his stuff, left, and broke up with her and never came back after the screaming in his face never stopped. If I was being screamed at I'd get in the car n leave to not have to put up with that.

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Dennis Gaskill

15 years ago

Originally Posted by Victoria Gates

A girlfriend screams in a guys face about well.. pretty much nonsense, he asks her repeatedly to back off nicely.. she keeps on and on......

I detest people like her. I'll leave it at that.

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Tina Golden

15 years ago

He shouldn't have shoved or slapped her... period. No matter what another person is doing, you are responsible for your own actions and he had other choices. He could have walked away.

And it doesn't matter if it leaves a mark - it's still domestic violence.

I totally agree with earlier posters that this is an unhealthy relationship all the way around and the two should part ways.

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seasoned

15 years ago

Originally Posted by Tina Golden

He shouldn't have shoved or slapped her... period. No matter what another person is doing, you are responsible for your own actions and he had other choices. He could have walked away.

And it doesn't matter if it leaves a mark - it's still domestic violence.

I totally agree with earlier posters that this is an unhealthy relationship all the way around and the two should part ways.

Tell you what I'm going to do. If I find myself in a case where that might happen with me, I will do what I have dreamt of, after all the warnings, etc..... Put earplugs in my ears, pick up a airhorn, and blow it in HER direction. YOU will probably say the same even though I will have done no worse than she did, and no more than she could.

I want to do this every time they set off the nasty alarm.

He could NOT have simply walked away if his stuff were there. I guess if he did, and it was stolen, you would say he gave it to her or some such.

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valerieSONORA

15 years ago

Steve, Yeah he coulda walked away. I don't think OP said if they were living together or not. But if he walked away at least he wouldn't have been arrested, have a criminal history now that will affect any future job searches, etc. Plus the embarrassment of having to go to court for domestic violence. That's more important than "stuff" which is replaceable. A clean record, sanity, etc. is not replaceable.

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seasoned

15 years ago

Originally Posted by valerieSONORA

Steve, Yeah he coulda walked away. I don't think OP said if they were living together or not. But if he walked away at least he wouldn't have been arrested, have a criminal history now that will affect any future job searches, etc. Plus the embarrassment of having to go to court for domestic violence. That's more important than "stuff" which is replaceable. A clean record, sanity, etc. is not replaceable.

yeah, we don't know what those swords were wrth. On could have ben worth much more than he may ever make in a job. So what f she blackmailed him, and that MIGHT be the case here!? Should he just do as she says, even to risking his life?

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Fernando Veloso

15 years ago

She didn't deserve a slap, just a small prank to turn her into a diarrhea fountain for one week or two. That would be more effective then one slap. And funnier too.

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