Need parenting advice

There are much more appropriate forums than this to seek the kind of advice you need. This is primarily an IM forum, and this is the chill out zone for it. You're going to get maybe a few constructive replies but otherwise leave yourself open to all sorts of crazy answers.

I strongly suggest you seek assistance from those qualified in the parental field in the area you live, or if you have to seek advice online then do a Google search for a forum specific to your needs. Good luck.

I dunno, the off topic forum is an appropriate place for this post, and the WF has a huge variety of people of all ages, experiences and nationalities. Why not ask here, as well as other parenting forums?

These are my thoughts, for what they're worth. Must admit, and this may sound awful to some, but I raised my kids the same way I raised my dogs. No, not with shock collars and liver treats
Look for and reward positive behaviour, then stop rewarding inappropriate behaviour, and redirect it into something more appropriate. It takes time and patience but I reckon it has a better outcome than yelling or punishing.

Look for the positive. Find something, anything, your child is doing right, or well, and praise it with words and a hug. Your interactions with your child need to be pleasant for him, he needs to feel secure and enjoy being with you to build a rapport. Balance the no or stop with more positive interactions. You might have to look hard to see anything positive in the early stages, but there will be something.

Stop rewarding the negative. If your son's screeching is getting attention (eg you yelling), then stop giving him attention when he does it. Encourage him to shhh and as soon as he's quiet, then interact with him, help him to show you what he's after. My friend's 2 year old son is learning words for things, so maybe teach him the words for a few of the common things he wants, so he starts to learn to express himself better.

That sort of thing seems to have worked for my two, they're 11 and 14 now and are quite nice people. Worth a thought maybe.

Certainly get local expert help for the only things
on earth likely to really remember you after you
are gone. Your kids of course.

Two very, very important things for you to learn.

1) There is nothing wrong with your kid that is not like you
or the other kid and don't try to make him otherwise, or ever
be disappointed, or ever express disappointment. Find things
to appreciate and respect.

2) He's only two. Sheesh.

Dan

It might be wise to consult with an expert on autism spectrum conditions for your two-year-old, just to see if it might apply to him.

I would suggest, see what really captures your two-year-old son's interest and provide him with A LOT of it. adjust to him, don't force him to adjust to you. Let his genius emerge. That'll be the hot-air balloon that lifts everything up with it.

My husband and I had a really tough time when my daughter was 2. I was a stay-at-home mom hen, not working, and my husband worked nights. I was sleep deprived because she would have these night terrors almost every night. And when my husband gets home from work, he also ends up not getting any sleep because my daughter would have a tantrum every couple of hours. And she always seems to be looking for ways to hurt herself. We child-proofed practically every inch of our apartment and she keeps finding inventive ways to get around that and get her fingers and toes stuck into things.

So I can definitely relate to what you're going through.

Like MissTerrak, my mom suggested that my husband and I should find ways to be calm as a family and on our own with our child. For me, I started walking with her around our neighborhood, just looking around and talking. My husband's quiet time with my daughter is rubbing her feet and reading to her before he goes to work. As a family, we got into the habit of waking up early to cook breakfast together before going to church.

It took a while but eventually her behavior did improve. I guess she was just as stressed as we were. Maybe she just needed us to show her how to calm and still have fun.

I hope my story helps you. But by far you are the best judge on what would work best for your family. It may feel hopeless now but it will get better; just don't give up.