how to stop being jealous

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Hey guys,

Many people make more money than me.

They are better than me.

They have girlfriend, I don't.

I hate some people who make money by tricking others.

I don't know.

I don't want to be jealous.

I don't want to trick others to get money.

Get the real money by giving value is hard.

How to stop being so jealous?

I really need some advice.

Please help me.

Cheers.
#jealous #stop
  • Profile picture of the author stewie-Y
    I think that the only way to not be jealous is to develop humility, without it you'll never be satisfied with yourself and your own accomplishments and will always want what others have.

    Also, this might be a better topic for the Off Topic forum.
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  • Profile picture of the author RyanGillam
    Stop getting hung up on what other people are doing. Focus on what you can do and celebrate that instead.
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    • Profile picture of the author IndoSEO
      Originally Posted by RyanGillam View Post

      Stop getting hung up on what other people are doing. Focus on what you can do and celebrate that instead.
      Tottaly yes, why you should focus in what people are doing, much better take action right now!

      You can observe what other people doing but make sure get points to implement in your project.
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  • Profile picture of the author RhysEvans
    Go on the basis that most people lie about the money they are making.
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  • Profile picture of the author XponentSYS
    Who cares what others are doing?

    If you want it bad enough..... just do it.

    When you find yourself busy taking action..... you find yourself without the time (or energy) to worry about what someone else is doing.

    I used to get hung up on others too (sometimes certain individuals in particular) until I realized they are actually of no consequence and don't MATTER, at all..

    Unless it's GOD himself..... he's dead to you. That's the reality.
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    • Profile picture of the author wesleywinter
      Originally Posted by XponentSYS View Post

      Who cares what others are doing?

      If you want it bad enough..... just do it.

      When you find yourself busy taking action..... you find yourself without the time (or energy) to worry about what someone else is doing.

      I used to get hung up on others too (sometimes certain individuals in particular) until I realized they are actually of no consequence and don't MATTER, at all..

      Unless it's GOD himself..... he's dead to you. That's the reality.
      ^^Exactly! Why sit around worrying what others are doing? That will get you NOWHERE! You are going to have to stop dwelling on others and focus on taking action. Once you start taking action and working on your own business you will see that you should have just done that all along. Trust me, I was once in your shoes. I stopped worrying about what others were doing and started to focus on what I was doing and that is when I started seeing success. There is PLENTY of information on this forum to help you in the right direction so go and read some helpful threads and TAKE ACTION.
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  • Profile picture of the author Syed Raza
    Don't Waste Your Time Being Jealous, Sometimes you are Ahead And sometimes You are Behind ! But Remember that, THE RACE IS LONG.

    Best of luck !
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  • Profile picture of the author SteveSki
    You said...Get the real money by giving value is hard. I have to disagree… it’s like Carlos Castaneda said: “The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.” And… “The basic difference between an ordinary man and a warrior is that a warrior takes everything as a challenge while an ordinary man takes everything as a blessing or a curse.”
    ― Carlos Castaneda

    Cheers,
    SteveSki
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  • Profile picture of the author vtotheyouknow
    I fundamentally disagree with some of these responses. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being jealous. It's human and natural. Trying to suppress jealousy and convince yourself that you shouldn't feel this way is futile.

    I say embrace your jealousy, embrace your hatred and use those powerful emotions as fuel to beat those people you see as more successful than yourself, be it with girls or business or whatever.

    There's nothing you can do about jealousy or hatred directly through feel-good mental gymnastics. You'll just develop a sense of inadequacy that you can't even control these 'forbidden' feelings. So stop fighting natural emotions. Observe them, embrace them and USE them to transform the aspects of your life that you wish were better.

    Finally, these emotions go away eventually on their own once you've achieved a level of success in your life that you want. Or at least, they mostly give way to more positive emotions.

    But frankly, even then the feelings will still be there. They'll just be focused on the NEXT level of people who are beating you haha. ;-) I'm chuckling to myself over here. Because it's true man.

    I say, be human, stop trying to disembody your emotions from your being and simply use them as rocket fuel to launch your life into the stratosphere. Let the finger wagging begin.
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    • Profile picture of the author The Great Gordino
      You make a good point here.

      The feelings have to be acknowledged, not supressed I agree.

      They then have to be channeled.

      I think the key point I would make is that the actual word 'jealousy' has negative connotations, that's the problem.

      The feeling needs to be tagged differently, given a name so it can be used positively,
      cheers,
      Gordon
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    • Profile picture of the author BigFrank
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      Originally Posted by vtotheyouknow View Post

      I fundamentally disagree with some of these responses. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being jealous. It's human and natural. Trying to suppress jealousy and convince yourself that you shouldn't feel this way is futile.
      Wow! Suppressing jealousy by fostering a healthy self-image is a laudable, desirable and easily achievable goal.
      I say embrace your jealousy, embrace your hatred and use those powerful emotions as fuel to beat those people you see as more successful than yourself, be it with girls or business or whatever.
      Double wow!! Cast off your jealousies as you would a flea-infested coat, lest you never learn the true meaning of the word, 'successful.'
      There's nothing you can do about jealousy or hatred directly through feel-good mental gymnastics.
      Triple wow!!! Perhaps, not - but there's a helluva lot that you can do about both once you learn how to focus your energies, thought processes and daily actions in a concerted effort to rise out of the muck that is the human condition and to strive for a more positive approach to life and the way you think about it.

      Am I missing something, here??? lol

      Cheers. - Frank
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  • Profile picture of the author bertieallsorts
    Live your own life and stop worrying about what others are doing or how much money they have or how mnay girlfriends they have and think of the things you are good at that can you earn you a decent income (online) & (offline) Jealously is an emotion we have all felt at one time its anatural feeling and at one point i was no different i combated that by getting busy doing things im good at and as a result i was able to convert it into income, like a previous poster said alot of people lie about how much money they make to look good and thats a fact. I think getting away offline sometimes is important aswell and mixing it up with some offline social activitys, i myself use to spend 24hrs a day on the internet and it gets a very lonley place sometimes when its all you have and can somtimes trigger these emotions. You seem a very deep and honest person to me and i think if you get your head down and start converting your exisiting skills or establishing new ones your confidence will grow and the jealously will go away as you will be too busy to have ever noticed you were in the first place.

    good luck friend

    take care

    Bertie
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  • Focus on you getting money and as you start to earn some, you will gradually fade out of jealous and move towards real respect for those whom you once envied because NOW you understand what they went through. This also leads to more self respect.

    And the next one is very important...

    NEVER make comparisons with others ONLY make self to self comparisons. In other words, only compare your own person from today versus yesterday to ensure you evolve even if it's only 1 single inch at a time...

    *Following my advice above will automatically attract potential girlfriends to you by the default of a newer energy you'll be releasing which is almost like a pheromone
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  • Profile picture of the author JensSteyaert
    What exactly is there to be jealous about?

    Spend your time helping others and jealousy will disappear instantly...
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    • Profile picture of the author CynthiaDixon
      I agree with Jens
      Originally Posted by JensSteyaert View Post

      What exactly is there to be jealous about?

      Spend your time helping others and jealousy will disappear instantly...
      Your life, the quality of it, and the value you find in it has absolutely nothing to do with someone else.

      Jealousy usually stems from unhappiness. When you're not happy with who you are, what you have or where you are in life, you think that the lives of others are better than yours. Believe it or not, there's someone far worse off than you who would love to trade places with you.

      Try helping someone. Try being a friend. Try living your life being happy, because you're the only person who can.
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      • Profile picture of the author Karen Blundell
        instead of being jealous be inspired! - watch how your life changes for the better the moment you begin to be happy for other people's success instead of being jealous of them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Leon Zykos
    They say that life is unfair and indeed it is. Why do some people are born rich while others have to hustle and bustle to make a living. Why do some people have the fortune to meet wonderful people and nice girls while others simply have no such luck. There are some things that can be achieved through sheer hard work while some things just cannot be force. Not fate means no fate. I am speaking about love in this regard. So, just suck it up and make your life the best it can be. Keep pressing on and believe in yourself. One day, you will see the light.
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  • Profile picture of the author Daniel Evans
    Originally Posted by alertmakemoney4738 View Post

    They are better than me.
    When you realize that the bulk of the world is just a psychological network of each and every person seeing in the next person themselves, their likes, dislikes and desires deep within themselves it really just becomes one big unreal pantomime that you can skip through merrily.

    That is to say, there's a load of people out there who are jealous of you to in some way or the other. Your honesty and guts to make this thread being an example. Ultimately everything weighs up into very level playing field.

    Give what you have. If your giving is pure, it will be returned upon you and you'll shine inward and outward on your own merits and you'll gain momentum in a circle of productivity.
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