help with cold calling..yes another newbie

No.. I'm not saying that. I'm saying that if you haven't been able to dial daily in however long you have been doing this, you likely aren't going to have the success you expect all of a sudden with a sudden burst of action.

I always suggest cold calling. It's a great addition to a marketing plan, however, I don't think you're up to the challenge. If you were, you wouldn't be asking how to overcome your fear, you would just do it because the need and desperation for money would throw away any kind of hesitation you would have, and that obviously isn't the case.

I think you're setting yourself up for failure. The responsible thing would be getting a job, and save up some money. Work your offline thing on the side, at night, and on weekends until you achieve some level of success.

There is a difference between being an opportunist and an entrepreneur. I just don't think you're ready. If you need cash fast, I'd suggest a job... or taking a look at martin buckly or martin someone, I forget who it is. He always posts some threads about new, or outside the box thinking to make money offline, that isn't about selling internet services.

That's right, you tell'em big guy. Dont let the internet forum meanies get you down.

When they pick up the phone tomorrow just show them the same spunk you are showing right now and remember proving other people wrong is always a more important motivator than having $2 in your bank account.

Come back tomorrow and let us know how well you did.

Okay so here's where we are. You started this thread yesterday afternoon. It's gone on through the night and now here we are - a new day.

Today is the day you succeed. If you're going to hit the phones today, start at 8am and don't stop until it's dark. Just dial, dial, dial. After call #5 or so, you'll start to toughen up, get into the routine - call, talk, hang up - call, talk, hang up - and everntually, today, you will get an appt or close a sale. You'll do it.

Seriously man, that $2 isn't going to last much longer, so today is the day to prove it to yourself and hammer those digits. If a real job isn't an option, think of it like this:

Today your job is to be on the phone no matter what. You'll be fired if you get off that phone for longer than 10 minutes. Don't get fired.

Alot of people dont like mine either...lol

Thats what its all about though, targeting your specific audience that responds to what YOU offer, and not trying to be everything to everyone. I appreciate Iam because he is one of the few here who are non pretentious and speak honestly with his own voice.

The tune can change, but the trumpet stays the same with Iam, and its a successful trumpet.

If you knew what to look for you wouldn't be asking anyway, right? Sometimes the answer you don't want is an answer that makes sense. Happens to me all the time, happens to everyone. If you KNEW what you were looking for, you wouldn't ask.

You don't like the approach and what I said because it went against what you want. Giving you a step by step plan in my eyes is a waste of time. You don't really need to know what to do, you need to overcome the fear. The fear is what is stopping you from success. An awful script with determination will STILL get you sales. The fear of talking which leads to procrastinating between calls is why you're going to fail.

If you want to make these sales, you need to pick up the phone or do something to generate sales. If you're too scared to, or hesitate between calls, then how do you expect anyone to help you?

The awkwardness goes away with experience. No one can teach you that... only you can do it. It's been like that the entire time, only you can control your outcome.

If you want something... then get it.

You're looking for lovey dovey, you can do it type responses, but that isn't really what you need. What you need is some kind of motivation to actually do what you say you want to do.

Obviously you don't want to get a job... I don't know why.. I don't care to be honest with you. You're going to either get on the phone, be determined, persistent and hammer out the calls to make sales, or you're going to be working for someone else. Those are the options you have available right now. Whether I tell you that you can or can not do it, doesn't make a difference. What matters is what you decide to do.

If you can offer something to someone that benefits them, solves a problem, makes them money, or saves them money, mainly filling a need, then you can be successful. If no one knows you can do these things, then what difference does it make?

It's your choice... It doesn't matter what kind of replies you get on a marketing forum. You either decide to be a winner or loser. No one else can decide that for you.

I've been there... You either succeed or you fail. There is no in between. When you're pinned up against a wall you either whimper away or you fight to break through. .

Winners can see the value in this.

LOL.....I was wondering if I was going to get called on it!

Thanks sir....duly noted and never again!

Thanks for correcting me...

Lesson Time.

You are thinking too hard, "Ithinkhard".

This message is communicated emotionally...not through words, but rather feeling.

In this case, the feeling of righteous indignation.

These are the words (the ones you corrected) that changed my life. If you have never been surrounded by failures, then you wouldnt understand how motivating the desire to not be like them is.

Most people will do more to avoid pain that top gain pleasure.


On a deeper level- Here is the deepest truth of learning:

The mind does not pick up everything its told as truth...it picks up rather the truth its told "THAT LINES UP WITH ITS LIFE EXPERIENCE".

Now pause and think about that statement if you will....

Okay.

Why are you relating to what I just said right now?

Here's why, because that bold statement lines up with your life experience.

If you say you dont relate to the truth I just told you, take off the filters, and look at it again.

The teacher that gets my attention is the one who understands how I feel and can relate to what I already know...then he will have credibility to teach me something, because my inward being has confirmed that he knows truth, and understands the reality of how things have worked for me....

Now,

Most people's life experience tell them that only 10% succeed in being above average, and there is a great motivation not to be as the 90%.

If you tried to tell me that 60% of the people who try IM succeed, my mind would rejexct everything that comes out of you after that...because it doesnt line up with what I know to be reality.

But if you tell me that only exceptional people succeed at being above average in any field, then I can relate to you because you speak truth that my reality confirms. I may listen to more.

You could have told me everything in the world that was positive, and that all I have to do is click my heals 3 times and say magic positive words...and coming from my background I would have had very few reference points in order to be able to relate to that concept, however true it COULD be, it will do me no good because I cant grasp it....

I would HOPE you were right, but I wouldnt BELIEVE it, because nothing in my reality confirmed it- but what fnally motivated me was being tired of failing , being as the failures...and it wasnt a positive statement in my mind the day I started succeeding ,

it was "I am going to quit being at the bottom of the totem pole and hanging and eating and drinking with the losers, and I am going to become a lone Lion...far removed from this class of people who whine and make excuses..."

That motivated me.


Again, in short, text books say one thing, but in reality people dont believe what you say, they believe what you say that lines up with what they can SEE..."

My friend use to tell me to put a timer on my desk and play a game like I was trying to beat the clock to be more productive...but in my mind I thought "Thats what losers do, just pick up the phone and get focused, I cant trick my mind into thinking its playing a game, Im dead serious about making money...YOU play games, thats for people like YOU..."

Lastly,

This isnt about what the mind picks up. Its about what the EMOTIONS pick up. This an emotional thing.

So many people analyze the strategies to cold calling... but what really makes it work is an emotional determination to NOT be what you have been in the past...and to NOT fail like the others following bells and whistles..."

If you had a silver spoon you wouldnt be trying to get yourself to make calls....

Positivity works, but this person is tired of failing, and I believe they will be motivated to say "Im not going to be like those guys, Im going to seperate myself"

Looking at failures and comparing provides the polarity that helps you recognize when you are not just a man, but a man among men.

Observation of the difference between the way you do things and the way failures do them... Just like a man would not know he was a man unless he knew what a womabn was...".

There would not be any distinction to it.

Pride of being above average is a great motivator for many.

Mostly though, again, we are motivated toward truth that lines up with what we see around us...and that is the most reliable thing to your mind, its what we pick up...and if you look around most are failing but you must say "I will not be as the others".

Thats not the only thing that motivates, but the reality of it is alot easier to grasp than fluffy pie in the sky affirmations...it hits home harder and comes across to the subconcious as more real.

You have to have that "admission of guilt" in copy as redshifted points out- even the copy you feed your own mind in order tyo fully believe it, it has to have some reality in it, and not just vague confessions and affirmations.

You will be giving it something it believes, instead of trying to convince it of something it cant conveive yet, because there are no references.

Many people dont succeed until they get tired of being a failure and they start to despise being in poverty.

Of course you add positive imaging of what is wanted after you have convinced yourself through collecting mental data of what is NOT wanted, and you have polarity, that helps you know when you are moving the right direction..

However, if you have never been poor and you have only been around success, then you may not have those blocks... Most people DO.

Many peoples reality is not all airy fairy, and if you try to communicate that way to them, it wont line up with reality and their mind wont totally receive it because of that.

If you tell them "you have to be hardcore" they relate to that because in their world only the hardcore succeed.

My premise for adding pain and negativity , ALONG with positivity, is to create polarity for the positivity. It's not me seeing the world through my own eyes only- Its me seeing the world through the average PERSONS eyes, not the exceptions eyes only- but rather through most of the WORLDS eyes.

How many times do you believe a person who is totally one sided....polarity is what helps us make distinctions. Without it there is no counter pressure to make us push.

The way of least resistance is to work with the grain of our beliefs and not try to operate on things we arent convinced of.

The average person is a sheep, they are not above average with the lions, and so that reality relates to more people. Its the rule as opposed to the exception, especially at the WF where people come because they havent experienced the success they want to achieve yet,, and their reality is that achieivng is not all airy fairy and rainbows.

If you try to feed them strictly that, it wont line up with what they see around them.

Dont tell me the grass is green when every where my eyes see its yellow- tell me the grass is yellow and show me how to make it green and I will believe you better.

I wont believe that everything is positive until it IS...and yes, maintaining a positive mindset is part of that, but being SICK of being a sheep is even MORE powerful.

Thats more than a "desire" to succeeed...its a gut wrenching MISSION.


Much more powerful.

If you read most of the stories around here you wuill see that what Im saying lines up with reality.

People who want to try things around here rarely succeed as quickly as people who are sick and tired of being broke and dont want to be like the broke people anymore.

And...lol...YES, Im passionate. What I do is much more than money to me. Money is not a big enough motivator, but thinking of a child who went to school embarrased of his clothes WAS a motivator.... Seeing those people rise above is more motivating than money, because trust me, I dont get rich posting this. There are alot more income producing things I could be doing ATM, but this is mo9re important than excess money.

When we leave we are dust, and the only thing valuable is the inspiration we leave behind, thats the only thing that outlives our body...not our money. Someone could waste all your money within a years time and it would be forgotten within 5.

Aside from that , I am such a hunter that I can pull money when I want to. I am NOT as the people who spam forums because they arent enough of a hunter to do anything else, and damn proud of it!

I want others to be that proud, the ones who deservfe it. We are fishing that out of them here, and we are fishing THEM out of the pack...

I didnt get this perspective from listening to Tony Robbins and Abraham Hicks...although I probably replayed the whole personal power seminar 20 times when I got it for a month straight...and studied Abraham Hicks for 8 years BEFORE the secret came out, back when they were obscure teachers- I rather got it from training alot of people over many years.

I was a trainer before I was a writer. Which is rare online , and Im proud of that too.

In any event "The career I have chosen is laid with opportunity, yet the truth is that its also fraught with heartbreak and dispair, in fact; the bodies of those who have come before me and failed, were they piled atop one another would cast its shadow down uipon all the pyramids of the earth...."

THAT is the truth, you told it to me and you understood my view so now you can teach me...

"But I will not be as the others..."

That is the distinction...

"For in my hands I hold the charts that will guide me through perilous waters to shores which yesterday seemed only a dream untill even apples made of gold will seem no more than my just reward!"

Thats "Og Mandino", and he changed my life by telling me the difference between the two.

So dont be surprised if I call myself a man among men in my field- it just means "the exception" and Im proud to be one, and want to help others find that place inside of determination to be more than average at what they do. Because the average person fails to ever become exceptional at anything, and they miss that pride which is worth more than money.

Hope this helps somone,
JD

i gotta say i am feeling confident right now, and i have to agree with what you said they aren't as scary as i think. lol.