The true value of listening
Listening to someone with full alert presence adds a psychic dimension of value. Because everyone else they talk to will always be relating what is being said back to themselves or waiting for their turn to talk. Eavesdrop into a few conversations during your day and you'll notice that this is true.
The result is that neither person is truly being themselves. They are relating to each other by identifying with thoughts, labels, and mental positions. They mistake thought for who they are, instead of the awareness which observes thought. The interaction then dissolves into a roleplay of concepts: 'Salesperson and Prospect.' And the script is: the Salesperson chases.. while the Prospect runs away..
By listening with 'Presence', I am referring to how much mental noise is going on your head while someone else is talking. Are you mentally labelling what is being said? Can you simply notice what is going on in front of you without thinking about it? That is presence. And other people pick up on this subliminally as a result of dealing with you. Some people simply have 'Bad vibe,' while others are a joy to be around. Have you ever wondered why?
You must go first. To be more authentic and more human. Whatever you think you are being withheld in life, you are withholding FROM life. For every character you play there is an opposite and equal in intensity that will meet you.
Rapport occurs when two people are comfortable being present with each other. When you stop acting and see yourself in the other person; in the space between the thoughts. It's your role to bring the presence out in the other people by being intensely alert and in the present moment yourself.
The result is that neither person is truly being themselves. They are relating to each other by identifying with thoughts, labels, and mental positions. They mistake thought for who they are, instead of the awareness which observes thought. The interaction then dissolves into a roleplay of concepts: 'Salesperson and Prospect.' And the script is: the Salesperson chases.. while the Prospect runs away..
By listening with 'Presence', I am referring to how much mental noise is going on your head while someone else is talking. Are you mentally labelling what is being said? Can you simply notice what is going on in front of you without thinking about it? That is presence. And other people pick up on this subliminally as a result of dealing with you. Some people simply have 'Bad vibe,' while others are a joy to be around. Have you ever wondered why?
You must go first. To be more authentic and more human. Whatever you think you are being withheld in life, you are withholding FROM life. For every character you play there is an opposite and equal in intensity that will meet you.
Rapport occurs when two people are comfortable being present with each other. When you stop acting and see yourself in the other person; in the space between the thoughts. It's your role to bring the presence out in the other people by being intensely alert and in the present moment yourself.