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Here's how I live my life...

When I feel proud of myself and big headed, I look at someone better and that humbles me.

When I feel like the whole world is against me, I look at someone who is worse off... and realise how lucky I am.

I prefer to be happy with what I have.

However, that does not stop me working to achieve more.

I know exactly how you feel but...

1) Screw them.

2) You obviously have access to the internet and everything that goes along with and that means that you have everything you need to end up making a lot of money. While those other people are learning how to mooch off their parents, you could be learning how to get rich.

You should go buy Jeffrey Gitomer's Little Gold Book of Yes! Attitude. It will be the best $16.95 or so that you'll ever spend.

Rich

I actually did feel like that, and it was only last night. I had a fit of jealousy against a relative last night, which is not usually like me. Analyzing it later though, I don't think it was because she only has to look at her husband for him to throw shedloads of cash at her, but because she's ten years younger than me. I'm feeling kind of elderly lately I thought about her for a bit after realizing this - about how sunny her personality is, about her compassion and consideration for other people... and concluded that if we really were identical, then I'd be a right cow too

It's all relative. Often the people you think of as looking down on you are too busy thinking about themselves to notice. Just like you may not notice the guy staring at you from the shop doorway where he is about to bed down for the night - looking at you driving around in your 'junk' car and wishing he could be just like you. However bad things seem, there is usually someone who'd love to step into your shoes, just as there is often a smarter pair waiting for you around the next corner

The world is about balance. what you maybe poor in they are rich in ie money at the moment.

What you are rich in - a true fighting warrior spirit they are poor in. Hell they'd probably crumble if they broke a finger nail. So look at their good fortune and be happy for them.

If you despise them for being rich -that says something about your own relationship to money. You cant be something that you despise do you understand.

An analagy if you hate liars then you cant be a liar because you hate it. So if you are angry that they are rich then you will have trouble becoming rich because your mind does not want to become something you hate.

So in all fairness having a sense of Integrity and self worth are your foundations to being a success in life.

Let this motivate you to do better and you will!!

Look at it like this:

You've just experienced a form of 'creative tension'.

Now take out the 'envy' part, make a 'primary choice' and you'll soon be on "The Path of Least Resistance". A book by Robert Fritz that can change your life.

I personally don't look at others' positions to motivate me.

Hating, being jealous, or resenting anyone (especially who I don't know) won't do anything for me.

All you must focus on is yourself and your current position. Continue to move forward and you will achieve the vision you desire.

How do I like this kind of postS! One of my passion and one of my internet marketing niche is actually the subconscious mind. People are starting to learn and realize more and more that THEY are the masters of their own life, so this niche is becoming very profitable.

You see, if you fee like dirt this will NEVER help you get anywhere up high, however, if you are using this as a tool to motivate you to never feel like that again, that's great!

Internet marketing has so much to offer. If you work hard and in the right direction, you could be just like the guys you envied, in a year form now. All you have to do is learn your craft and work hard.

I will also add, write yourself a good positive self talk and visualize everyday where you want to be. These together do wonders.

I understand how you feel, kory, but don't be fooled - some of them probably feel just as miserable as you do. Money and "stuff" can bring a measure of happiness, but only if you're already a happy person. If you're miserable now, you'll be miserable when you're rich too.

Wow, how neat that you can share feelings like this. Like you I am sick and tired of being broke, especially when we moved to a "better" area and I was nursing my poor old Holden Commodore (with a leaky exhaust) along a road populated with posh new things.

I agree with some of the other replies here - use that energy in a constructive fashion. I found a free little resource the other day, "the little book of Joy" I think it was called that a woman was giving away for free and it helped on those days when I wanted to key somebody elses's car simply because they appeared more well off than me. (Mean I know, but sometimes you can't help it).

I also count myself lucky in what I do have - my kids are all in work and are happy, I have six grandchildren which allows me the pleasures of loving kids without worrying about them, and I do have some really good skills that I am using and will continue to use to make this internet income business actually happen.

Remember "success is the best revenge"

Best wishes
Lisa

If you compare yourself you are always going to find someone higher or lower. You are comparing your insides to their outsides. It doesn't work. Your perception of your world comes from within you, nobody creates your world. You will always see things through your own glasses. So make yourself happy, inside and out. It really is an inside job.

Yep, Chrissanterio called it right. It sounds like you are comparing your insides to someone else's outsides.

There is a fellow named Bill Bartmann who sells memberships at an expensive membership site. A couple of months ago, a book he had written was being released and he wanted it to gain a place on the various bestsellers lists. So for a period of one day only he offered a free membership to his expensive site to everyone who bought his book on that specific date. All the buyers had to do was email a copy of their order confirmation from Amazon or Borders or Barnes and Nobel.

I jumped at it because Bartmann's membership site is about building a business... not an internet one, and I was curious.

Bartmann's own story is one of going from abject poverty to extreme wealth. He was a homeless runaway child at 14, joined a traveling carnival, lived on the streets, became a gang member, an alcoholic and an addict.

Obviously by being a runaway he didn't complete high school. Eventually he passed the GED to receive a high school dipoloma, managed to get through college all on his own. Squeeked his way into law school, and finished with a "C" average.

But then he went into business - a total of 7 of them. He failed, he won, he failed again, he won again. He set a goal (he calls it a promise to himself) to become wealthy enough to be listed on the Forbes wealthiest 400.

He did it! He became the 25th wealthiest man in America.

One concept he makes very clear is it was his desire to no longer be poor, to no longer consider himself a failure, to escape his own feelings of low self-esteem to do anything necessary to become a success. And he used all this as a strong motivator to keep himself going even when times were really tough.

Kory, you are lucky. You are finding a "way out" by starting to learn Internet marketing. You see where you want to be. Now start looking for the ways (yes it is plural) to get where you want to go.

You are on the right track.

:-Don

A thread like this makes me realize that I am not alone!!! It also makes me appreciate what God has given to me and my family....

And God don't make NO junk!

We all have our shortcomings. We all have our strengths.

What we do with them is for the most part, our choice.

Never, ever, never! never! never! compare yourself to someone else.

If you feel like dirt because of something or someone you encountered, just maybe that 'still small voice' inside you is telling you to "listen up!"

And so something about it!

I live in NY. I can tell you this is a place where very rich and very poor can often be found in very close proximity at any moment. I've seen those kids you talk about, but when I saw them I thought "Hey, that's a nice car. Someday I'll be able to get one of my own." And yes, that did happen because I made it happen.

TomG.

Life is what you make it.

That happened to me in high school. Several rich kids were given brand new cars in 11th and 12th grade. It made me upset because I worked hard to get my crappy but desirable old Mustang. They didn't even seem to appreciate or take care of their new cars.

Later, I worked full time, but lived in a college area and in a complex with mostly college students. It was upscale and anyone living there and going to college had to be wealthy. I remember coming home from a hard day at work, tired, grumpy, and seeing several students playing volley ball then jumping in their sports car to go get some food. There I was, working my butt off, and these kids were in school, taking a light load, playing most of the time, and driving a car that I could not afford even working full time. It really bothered me for a long time.

Growing up privileged can make you woefully unprepared for the real world.

Just look at it this way. Alcohol and drug-rehab centers that cater to the so-called
rich and famous have no problems filling up.

Being rich or wealth off does not mean you will have no problems or tribulations in life,
or that you will be happy.

There are some great, truthful and inspiring replies in this thread.

Some might argue that envy, jealousy etc are wasted emotions. As much as they can be damaging, they can also work in your favour if you control them or 'channel' them.

Those emotions can give you drive. Spirit and everything else to propel you to a successful future.

Some of the wealthiest people come from poor families and got to where they are with the help of those raw emotions. Rich parents or not, we are all born with the same tools. It's what we learn and develop that moulds our future. The world is one giant slice of apple pie. The question is, how big a slice are you wanting?

Ah yes...

I once read in Chogyam Trungpa's "Shambhala: The Path Of The Sacred Warrior" about ephemeral "happiness". He gave the illustration of the Iranian hostage-takers during the years of the Reagan administration:

"Ah, great! We have hostages next door!"

Which meant that if they had no hostages....well, you know what I mean.

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Anyways, don't compare yourself unfavorably with those rich kids (or any rich folk) but also, don't compare yourself FAVOrABLY with them either, reading into them or their situations all sorts of negatives (e.g. mooching off rich dad's monies, having never worked a day at any sort of job, etc, which we actually have no way of knowing or confirming anyway) That's just a different form of superiority complex. Take that up to the societal level and you have people who say "Revolution! Take from the bourgeoisie and give it to the people!". And that is what "agitators" use and manipulate to get popular support from "the poor".

Fact is, you need only two things to develop appropriate self-esteem and feel good about yourself and your life: 1) a sense of appropriateness to life, a confidence about your adequacy to life and its challenges and 2) a sense of being worthy of happiness by virtue of your being human, being alive, being existent.

Those two you can always get and cultivate from yourself, by yourself, without comparing yourself to others, whether favorably or unfavorably. All it takes is to cultivate your mind, your mental/intellectual/etc efficacy and to cultivate and nurture your sense of worthiness to experience happiness just by the virtue of your being alive.

And that's it. You need nothing else.

Takes work, I admit. Not a walk in the park. But it is doable and it is the kind of work that the giants of genius and achievement have always done throughout their lives.

Something to think about

Yups I think everybody in their lifetime felt the same way...

Life is unfair..

Those who have more..gets more if they continue working on it..

Those who have less..lose more if they stop working on it..

Those who have lots of women easily gets more women..

Those who don't have any, if they don't learn the art of getting women will end up a 40 year old ..you know..

It boils down to one thing though..How much work do you do?

If you are busy working..a lot of things won't matter..If you are very engrossed in the things you do, you're richer than a rich couch potato unless of course if he's an investor in which case his money is working for him..

I like the reply about looking at people higher and lower than you. It gives proper perspective..


To Your Success..

Raul Omar Diaz

its good that it motivated you to become a better person - or to become better at what you do, and worked harder, instead of feeling more depress and angry. i still believe that life is fair, every one has their own battles to fight. for you its obviously financial, and i am sure that those kids you saw, have their own struggles too.

Hey Kory, pain and suffering is all relative. Everyone suffers and has pain in their lives but we all have different things that give us pain.

For those kids you were talking about they obviously don't have pain from lack of money but they do have pain that comes from somewhere else.

For one of those kids it could be having a parent that constantly calls them ugly names and makes them feel horrible.

You can bet that they would give that money up if they could get the love they need.

You know, maybe life is fair and we just don't see it.

Matt

Kory, it's important to count your blessings and appreciate all the good things you already have, rather than focusing on what you don't have (yet).

I'm not sure who said this quote, but I think it might enlighten you: "I was upset at having no shoes until I saw a man with no feet."

The perfect motivation. The remember that day and how you felt when you start to lose focus. It will kick you in the butt and get you hyped up again.

Hi,

I know how you feel. When I was in highschool, which wasn't too long ago. I had the same feelings. Instead of going to the public school I had to go to a Catholic school which I didn't know had rich kids. Yes they all had their Covettes! and etc..

I had to take the bus!!! When I could drive I had to share my parents old car and then eventually I got an old beat up car which broke down several times. Ya, I felt bad, but I had a few friends that was in the same situation as me so misery loves company I guess.

Looking back I realized that those kids are not going to be able to handle the "real" world like I did.

You may not realize it now but you're light years ahead of them, don't sweat it.

It makes sense, sure, but it is not useful to beat yourself up over that. Those people who seem to have it so good have their problems, you can be sure of that, since everybody does. If indeed they've never really experienced hardship chances are they won't appreciate what they have any more than anyone appreciates having fully functioning arms and legs unless they are without their use for a while (or forever). You'll enjoy things more if you appreciate them, and one very effective way to appreciate what you've got is by having earned it yourself.

Kory,

Get yourself a copy of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker. You can probably find it really cheap at Amazon. It will completely change the way you think of wealth and the people who make it. It is by far one of the top self help books I have ever read - and every time I read it I learn something new.

Now the only time
This moment the only reality
This body the only buddha
This place the only paradise

Dharma

You want to thank them next time, because its people like that which motivate people like you and me. I am in the same boat, perhaps not to the same extent and under different circumstances but many of my friends are rich, they all saving accounts mummy and daddy created and they all have nice new cars, but this is what motivates people like us.

If you look at some of the richest entrepreneurs in the world, they were once just like us, Richard Brandson (he wasn't rich), Duncan Bannetine and many many others.

Its because of this feeling we get, that we want to better ourselves and when we do we feel much better for it and I believe we can then look down at them (if we want) because although we might be driving a cheaper car, we can proudly say that we bought it, we earned the money to buy it.

I am only 19 yet everything in my life I have bought, except for the usual food and roof over my head, my computer(s), bike(s), clothes, laptops, phones, DVDs, money for holidays everything and its because of this pure drive and motivation that we shall succeed, whether it takes one year or ten years, we shall get there one day.

So be proud, you shall earn your way in life, whilst others will get through life easy and question in the end, what was it for? They will have no answer, where as we will have the aims and ambitions that we have fulfilled.

Be proud, be happy.

On another note, thats a very positive post I have just made, suprisingly. Been down in the gutter since my girlfriend split up with me, ah thats one thing that will always get in the way of everything, love. When your in love its great, when your forced to stop loving, now thats hard, painful and depressing.

10 bucks says they bought those cars on credit! lol

anyway my note here. everyone has challenges. those kids in cars, who know what other problems they have. This is life and no one's life is perfect. You have challenges. they have challenges. You just can't see theres. It's like those rich and famous celebrites who can't seem to keep their marriages together. On the outside, they look all glamourous, but they can't even keep someone around to love them

hey, i guess all peopel could feel a little bit lost in some time og their life
some overcome it, others just can't get through
when i have the feeling that it is really a bad
i will just indulge myself a little
poor as u have said, u still can be happy ,u can still have friends , love just as any rich man do
good luck , dude

In my opinion our spiritual wealth should be our first priority because if haven't reach the mental state to control the money and events surrounding us, money can ruin our live. However, money are needed to buy time. Simply if we don't have money we need to work long and hard to acquire money, which will consume lots of our time that we should spent on activities important to us or people around us.

I have find myself in lots of humiliating situations even close friends have put me in this situations, but coopering my quality of life (happiness) I can see that they are straggling big time.