A Special Request To All Warriors Here...

Hi,

There's lots of talk about 'ego' and stuff like this -

I don't recall any of the people who participate regularly and have been here a while from appointing themselves as either of those things. But you presume it's helpful to throw that cuss in here, aimed broadly at anyone who is not a newbie.

Here's an example -

http://www.warriorforum.com/main-int...ou-preach.html

It was an unusual thread because the OP had failed after trying for so long.

So I used my toughest tough-love approach. Why? Ego?

No, because it was what was required to help the person.

If someone has been doing this for 6 years and barely earnt anything, you might as well make them feel quite bad about it, while also giving them the nudge in the right direction. The only thing that will get that person out of the habit of failing is to feel humiliated and angry with themselves.

Otherwise they will stay in denial.

And the OP came to the forum with the facts, but was trying to transfer the blame onto others, rather than themselves. They were fooling themselves by doing this.

So I was as harsh as I'll ever be (when trying to help someone) in that thread. There was no point beating around the bush.

Was it about my ego? No, why would it be? I don't sell anything here. I took time away from my business to try and help someone.

This is the forum that helped me, and that's the kind of stuff that was delivered to me, and that I appreciate. Uncompromising, to the point advice. It's what's required in this fickle business.

There are tons of forums that will treat you with kid gloves. We make winners here.

So, was I out of order?

There's nothing forcing me to help people here, and I have plenty to get on with. If necessary, I can leave others to fool themselves and it won't affect me one bit.

I don't think my approach worked because the person seemed to be finding any excuse they could to justify what they claimed in the OP, and to avoid taking a long hard look at themselves.

They weren't a newbie either - 6 years trying, and two years or so here in the forum. For all the newbies around dictating how things should be here, perhaps you should consider that many of us who have been here longer stayed here because we noticed valuable elements that were missing elsewhere - and perhaps we would like to preserve those traditions, regardless of others bleating that they don't have the required intestinal fortitude for a bit of straight talk.

Life is short, so keep it real.