How do you motivate yourself every time you failed at something?

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Hi there..

2009 is a both good and bad year for me.

Learned a lot,made some money but also FAILED many times.Although I'll bounce back but usually it'll take a long time to do that.I'll take a long time to recover or set things right again and I'm easily "demotivated".

So here's my question:

How do you motivate yourself every time you failed at something or "demotivated"?

Any specific tips?Any books/courses that you recommend?

2010 is just around the corner and I want to start the year with a POSITIVE mindset and view.Your input is well appreciated.I don't care whether you're NEWBIE or an expert,if your advice makes sense, that's fine with me.

Thanks..

Happy New Year Warriors
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  • Profile picture of the author Jeremy Kelsall
    I'm not big into the philosophy mumbo jumbo so, my tip might be too simple...

    Go into every project knowing that you might fail - Everything you do isn't going to be a home run. I don't think anyone succeeds 100% of the time, more than likely, you will be no different.

    Cut your losses the minute you realize it is a losing battle

    Have more than 1 project going on at once - More projects leaves the gate open for even a small success which will likely motivate you enough to keep pushing forward.
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    • Profile picture of the author ebizman87
      Originally Posted by Jeremy Kelsall View Post


      Have more than 1 project going on at once - More projects leaves the gate open for even a small success which will likely motivate you enough to keep pushing forward.
      Hi Jeremy,

      Thanks for your input but I've a question here. As you've advised above, "have more than 1 project", don't you think that it'll be difficult to stay focused and hard to manage all the projects? I always had the problem to stick with 1 plan.How do you keep your mind to stay focused?

      Thanks again
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      • Profile picture of the author Jeremy Kelsall
        Originally Posted by ebizman87 View Post

        Hi Jeremy,

        Thanks for your input but I've a question here. As you've advised above, "have more than 1 project", don't you think that it'll be difficult to stay focused and hard to manage all the projects? I always had the problem to stick with 1 plan.How do you keep your mind to stay focused?

        Thanks again
        My mind is focused on the end result....not the tasks.

        I always have several things going on at once. One of the great things about doing what we do is we can do whatever the hell we want each and everyday when it comes to growing our business...

        So, when I wake up if I feel like putting up a site - I put up a site.

        If I feel like building links - I build links

        If I feel like writing - I write

        As the days pass, I get closer and closer to finishing projects and can already have a feel for which ones are going to fly the way I originally mapped them out, which ones need adustments, and which ones should be scrapped all together.

        If you work on one project for 30 days straight and at the end, it fails, it is kind of hard to rebound and put your nose to the grindstone for another 30 days knowing the same thing might happen.

        However, if you are working on 3 and 2 of them crap out, but one of them makes you even a little bit of money, you have a success to scale and model.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ross Dalangin
    Failure is expensive but it make me stronger because I'll learn something on it.
    The more times that I've failed will mean more experience that I've gained, the more money it will bring to my pocket.
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  • Profile picture of the author GarryMSayer
    Originally Posted by ebizman87 View Post

    How do you motivate yourself every time you failed at something or "demotivated"?
    When you say you've failed do you mean the results of your endeavours / projects were significantly less than what you expected?

    Or do you mean you failed to see projects through to completion.

    Either way you need to extract some positives from the situation by trying and identify what you did wrong and making sure you don't do it again.

    I spent over a year failing - long before I even joined this forum - although I browsed as a guest for a quite a while!

    My advice...

    Fail as fast as is possible.

    Why?

    Because so many people theorise on:

    What would happen if I did...?
    How do I drive traffic to...?
    What's the best way of creating...?

    Just take action and do it and don't forget to track your results then you can ensure you identify your mistakes and not repeat them.

    In any business, online or offline, you never know the outcome of any technical strategy unless you take action and try it out for yourself.

    Hope this helps.

    Garry.
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  • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
    I agree with Jeremy, to a point. It's always good to have more than one project going at a time. Having said that, I have a REALLY hard time focusing on more than one thing. What I've done in order to make sure I stay on track is buy a HUGE dry-erase board, write each project down and the steps needed to complete it. That way, I can still do what I feel like doing that day, but it's organized in a way that helps me finish steps that actually NEED to be completed....instead of spinning my wheels on something unnecessary. When I finish a step, it gets crossed out. When I finish a project, it gets erased.

    Also, I've always believed that failure is just another way of knowing how something won't work.
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  • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
    Originally Posted by ebizman87 View Post

    How do you motivate yourself every time you failed at something or "demotivated"?
    Trite sayings and cliches!

    Nobody ever made a comeback after winning!

    Fall down seven times, get up eight!

    The universe is teaching me a lesson!

    I am sure glad we are not having a thousand monkeys!

    Oh, wait, there are only about a dozen people on the planet who understand that last one. Let me explain.

    My business partner and I were sitting around one day in 2000 or so, discussing how bad different programming failures were, and we came up with the monkey indicator. So we could look at somebody's code and say "hmm, three monkeys" and smile knowingly at one another.

    Now, you would think that the monkey indicator is how many monkeys it would take to write the code, but you'd be wrong. The monkey indicator is how many monkeys should hump you in the butt as punishment for writing this code.

    We established as part of the standard that the monkey scale went to a thousand, and then our contractors picked up on it, so it became part of our "secret language." We'd be talking to a client, and a developer would say "we can deliver this component in two weeks." Then one of the leads or managers would say "no monkey?" and the developer might say "no monkey" if the component was near-done, or he'd say "maybe two or three monkeys" if he had a hairy bug to hack around, or something like that.

    Or the client would demand a component by a specific date, and the developer would shake his head and say "fifty monkeys" to indicate that his code would have to be that bad to ship on that date. A thousand monkeys effectively means "if we ship this code, the project will be cancelled and we will lose the client and he will tell everyone he knows how much we suck."

    So whenever we would truly, seriously fsck something up so much that it rated a thousand monkeys, our "look on the bright side" comment was always "it's a good thing we don't have a thousand monkeys!"

    One day, we had a huge meltdown with a client, and he stormed out of the meeting swearing that he would see to it we never worked in this industry again. During the stunned silence after this, one of our contractors... for whom English was not a first language... quietly and calmly said "I am sure glad we are not having a thousand monkeys."

    We laughed hysterically for about half an hour.

    And that's the way we always said it from that point forward.

    What a pointless story.

    So, um, to drag this back on topic... there's this old saying, "one day we'll look back on this and laugh." What are you waiting for? If it's going to be funny tomorrow, why isn't it funny today? Laughing at things gives you power over them.

    It's why people tell jokes about the things that scare them, like gay monkey rape. When you wake up screaming night after night because you dreamed you were being raped by a gay monkey, you make jokes about it to prove that you're stronger than gay monkey rape and it has no power over you.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jeremy Kelsall
      Originally Posted by CDarklock View Post


      It's why people tell jokes about the things that scare them, like gay monkey rape. When you wake up screaming night after night because you dreamed you were being raped by a gay monkey, you make jokes about it to prove that you're stronger than gay monkey rape and it has no power over you.
      I don't know about the rest of it, but WTF?!?!? lol

      The wife is wondering why I had to run to the bathroom and spit my coffee in the sink now lol
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      • Profile picture of the author tryinhere
        Originally Posted by Jeremy Kelsall View Post

        I don't know about the rest of it, but WTF?!?!? lol

        The wife is wondering why I had to run to the bathroom and spit my coffee in the sink now lol
        you to, i am crippled over with laughter and tears, ? wtf gay monkey rape has to do with failing i am not sure but i am afraid to ever fail again.
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        • Profile picture of the author boaterscott
          1. REASONS Come First - Answers Come Second...

          I think Tony R. said that? The point is, you need to know exactly WHY you doing something first. Do you have strong enough reasons to succeed? Of course we'd all like to be a huge IM success, but wishing can be wishy/washy. Once you have strong enough reason(s), doing it and sticking with it is much easier.

          2. Here is part of the story you tell yourself

          "Although I'll bounce back but usually it'll take a long time to do that.I'll take a long time to recover or set things right again and I'm easily "demotivated". These are your words.

          This is how you view yourself - no wonder it takes so long to bounce back.

          If you believed for example "If I fail at something, I bounce back immediately... Absolutely NOTHING will stand in my way of acheiving my goal...I am strong, and I am guided..."


          I spent a long time working on my psycology - basically learning about how and why I do things. I was very weak, bored, and thought that other people had "It". I didn't think I was good enough and smart enough to get the things I really wanted in life. A great wife, great health, great friends, a great business... Now I have acheived all of these things... but when I believed that they were too hard or impossible to get, I didn't get them.

          I am certainly not perfect, but I am a much stronger person now, so when it comes time to tackle a new challenge, I have a belief system that says "I will absolutely succeed. I may fail, but I will get up quickly and try another method. This is very important to me, and to my family so I must and will succeed..."
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          • Profile picture of the author joetheseo
            Look for the light at the end of the tunnel.

            There is a constant light shining, you just have to find it.

            And when you do, it's really a beautiful thing.

            Took me 2 years to learn everything I know with IM. My advice would be take all that you know and start coming up with your own ideas.

            Use other programs and methods and combine them to create your own method.

            The truth is that it takes a long time to learn what it takes to succeed in this industry, and that's why I love it.

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    • Profile picture of the author WD Mino
      So a thousand monkey code is not a good thing then.

      Your freikin hilarious C I was in stitches That is just whacky yet hillariously funny One day I should write a book using all your different stories and lines and call it a tale of a thousand monkeys the true life humor of CD
      HEHEHE

      -WD

      Originally Posted by CDarklock View Post

      Trite sayings and cliches!

      Nobody ever made a comeback after winning!

      Fall down seven times, get up eight!

      The universe is teaching me a lesson!

      I am sure glad we are not having a thousand monkeys!

      Oh, wait, there are only about a dozen people on the planet who understand that last one. Let me explain.

      My business partner and I were sitting around one day in 2000 or so, discussing how bad different programming failures were, and we came up with the monkey indicator. So we could look at somebody's code and say "hmm, three monkeys" and smile knowingly at one another.

      Now, you would think that the monkey indicator is how many monkeys it would take to write the code, but you'd be wrong. The monkey indicator is how many monkeys should hump you in the butt as punishment for writing this code.

      We established as part of the standard that the monkey scale went to a thousand, and then our contractors picked up on it, so it became part of our "secret language." We'd be talking to a client, and a developer would say "we can deliver this component in two weeks." Then one of the leads or managers would say "no monkey?" and the developer might say "no monkey" if the component was near-done, or he'd say "maybe two or three monkeys" if he had a hairy bug to hack around, or something like that.

      Or the client would demand a component by a specific date, and the developer would shake his head and say "fifty monkeys" to indicate that his code would have to be that bad to ship on that date. A thousand monkeys effectively means "if we ship this code, the project will be cancelled and we will lose the client and he will tell everyone he knows how much we suck."

      So whenever we would truly, seriously fsck something up so much that it rated a thousand monkeys, our "look on the bright side" comment was always "it's a good thing we don't have a thousand monkeys!"

      One day, we had a huge meltdown with a client, and he stormed out of the meeting swearing that he would see to it we never worked in this industry again. During the stunned silence after this, one of our contractors... for whom English was not a first language... quietly and calmly said "I am sure glad we are not having a thousand monkeys."

      We laughed hysterically for about half an hour.

      And that's the way we always said it from that point forward.

      What a pointless story.

      So, um, to drag this back on topic... there's this old saying, "one day we'll look back on this and laugh." What are you waiting for? If it's going to be funny tomorrow, why isn't it funny today? Laughing at things gives you power over them.

      It's why people tell jokes about the things that scare them, like gay monkey rape. When you wake up screaming night after night because you dreamed you were being raped by a gay monkey, you make jokes about it to prove that you're stronger than gay monkey rape and it has no power over you.
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  • Profile picture of the author TelegramSam
    There is no failure. Unless you think there is.

    It's more preferable to say something like,

    "Such and such didn't work yet. I'll find out why and make it work".

    Sam
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  • Profile picture of the author webwriter
    I chalk it up as a learning experience for the next time, identify and correct my errors and move on. I also find that if I spend too much time doing something, such as writing an ebook, I'm probably doing something wrong. Probably trying to develop a perfect product, which is not going to happen anytime soon, LOL!
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  • Profile picture of the author rodi
    Don't enter 2010 expecting that you will not be failing. We live in failures day in day out.

    But you know what, the sum of all your failures will be your success.

    So If you fail in something in 2010, don't give up, but just line it up as an upgrade for your future success.

    The more you fail, the greater your chance is for succeeding, because by failing your are eliminating the wrong turns.

    Just remember this example:

    Getting Success is like Getting Trough a Big Maze.. there are many doors from wich you can start from, but how big is your chance in getting the right door within the first try?

    Well, pretty low, depending on the number of doors.
    But after you got to an deadend in the maze, just eliminate the door you just tried and try the other ones.
    Your chance for getting the right door with get bigger and bigger.

    So for 2010, lets face Our Big Mazes and find the Right Door.


    (Tip for Noobs: Stop hopping from program to program and focus on one MAZE. One maze may have a lots of doors, how worse, you trying lots of mazes at the same time? Focus, Focus and Focus guys.)

    Happy New Year to All
    Bless

    Greetings
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  • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
    It's why people tell jokes about the things that scare them, like gay monkey rape. When you wake up screaming night after night because you dreamed you were being raped by a gay monkey, you make jokes about it to prove that you're stronger than gay monkey rape and it has no power over you.
    That is so full of awesome, I can't even stand it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Buildingfutures
    2009 was a bad year for me as well.

    I think I had a job maybe 3 months out of the year, and barely made anything more than $500 in IM.

    But hell, lifes full of disappointments. The only way that 2010 can't possibly be better is if I become a hobo next year. But like hell will I let that happen.

    To motivate yourself is simple, say you want to make it happen, that one thing didn't quite work, lets try something else.

    Or try it from a different angle.

    I just am very stubborn about what I do and how I do it. If It doesn't work, I get pissed, cuss, and try another way.

    Like Jeremy said, think of the end result, not the little failures that happen during your quest.

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    • Profile picture of the author oneplusone
      I recommend you get into Tony Robbins.

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  • Profile picture of the author cgcmarketing
    I had lost all my money last year, I came down with some medical issues that were not life threatening, but held me back and really put me down. I read the book "How to stop worrying and Start Living." It taught me to take it day by day, to make each day an "air-tight compartment" not to look to tomorrow or think about the failures of the previous day. This has REALLY changed my life, I read excerpts from the book every now and then. I'm making around $30,000 a month now and about to launch my new venture. I recommend EVERYONE to read that book.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Failure? Just means you aren't done yet. Just because you decided that something was done, doesn't mean is. It just means your work plans ran out short of a finished project. Once it's done it doesn't fail. Treat it like anything else that you have done that didn't fail. I'm sure you thought you were about there on something else at one time or other, then realized you forgot something, or something wasn't just right and just fixed it without a lot of wondering.

    "Quit worrying about not knowing what you are doing and just do it" (unknown)
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  • Profile picture of the author peakperformer
    Hi there ebizman87! I'm new to the Im scene and just started on this area only several months back... I totally understand how you feel as i have faced countless challenges in my efforts to make money online. Until today, i still face countless difficulties, but i look to it as a challenge to myself to break out of my comfort zone...

    Think about it, we only learn through experience, so don't look at dispapointments as failures, look to them as learning experiences on what is not working... Perhaps we should continue to work on a sigle aspect of our IM business before moving on to ohers
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    • Profile picture of the author WD Mino
      Ok Here is the facts,

      There is no failure. if you look at something that didn't work yes you will feel bad but what you need to do is look at it like back to the drawing board I will figure this out yet.

      see the things that don't work Rethink Redo and Retry.

      Let me break it down this way.
      Rethink your strategy marketing method traffic strategy rethink the product would you buy it? if not how can you improve it or better yet put it on the back burner and try a different one.
      Redo your efforts in driving traffic setting your page up try changing the headlines of your page split test things see what makes people stay on the page and what doesn't if they come and leave right away or if they are reading . whatever is not working remove whatever does work build upon.

      Retry until you have it. Don't worry about things not happening immediately I can tell you some very well known success stories have had many flops along with their success you just have to push through it. get over it and get on with it. look at it like your a speeding locomotive and the hurdle in your way is a wooden blockade. even though that blockade would stop anyone from trying to drive through it the locomotive just goes through it like butter. that is what you need to do go through the problem find the solution make a product based on solution

      I had a hard time replying earlier Laughing quite a bit at some of the comments and for that I apologize. I know what it is to go through things friend I made a mistake by getting upset . now I have purposed in myself who cares get over it and get on with it people are never gonna tell you everything in the way you feel you need to hear it.

      The best thing is to not look at it as failure but an obstacle then figure out how to go through that obstacle that is all

      HTH
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  • Profile picture of the author mariochase
    Normally if I fail I think:

    Well I must have done something wrong.. what was it!?

    And then.. I try to figure out.. what I can do better the next time.
    Failures for me are opportunities of learning. You can actually learn
    more from a failure.. than from a success.

    I never give up.. with a failure. And my mind is wired to think in
    a different way everytime. Even if things are really ****ed my mind
    is asking "What can I do to make this work!?","How can I make this
    work!?"

    That is what you have to do always. In my opinion.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      Failure? Just means you aren't done yet.
      I like that ---^

      Here's my philosophy...

      Failures are simply the learning bridges we cross over on the way to success. The more you lament the failures, the longer you delay the success.
      Here's a thought...if you never fail, you aren't setting your goals high enough.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      I love to have fun, so I always try to make everything a little fun.

      If I fail, wait, scratch that...When I fail, I say out loud to myself,

      "AHA! Terra you are a freakin' genius! You have just discovered yet another thing NOT to do in your business!"

      Then I say to myself out loud,

      "Terra, make note to self, never do <insert failed project> again!"

      I actually do make notes to myself on many things, but once I've said it out loud there is no need, as it's something I will never forget!

      I then rub my hands together and say greedily,

      "Moving right along to the next exciting chapter in the adventures of Terra's on going IM experiences in building the perfect biz"

      I feel much better and move right along, with no need to over obsess about it and feel hopeless or non-motivated!

      Sorry it doesn't compare to the bizarre behaviors of monkeys, but it works for me!

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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

        I love to have fun, so I always try to make everything a little fun.

        If I fail, wait, scratch that...When I fail, I say out loud to myself,

        "AHA! Terra you are a freskin' genius! You have just discovered yet another thing NOT to do in your business!"

        Then I say to myself out loud,

        "Terra, make note to self, never do <insert failed project> again!"
        You are definitely my kind of person!
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Kohler
    The key is to have one thing that you can do that never fails. Mine is article writing and submission.

    For others, it would be that CPA offer that does well on a PPC offer or a product that consistently sells for them.

    In regard to my article writing, if I write articles and submit them to get traffic to my sites, I make a daily income. If I write more, and submit more, I make more.

    On the side, I do other projects, some of which succeed and others that fail. These failures mean nothing to me other than act as guidelines for what not to do.

    Because I have my consistent base of income being generated, I just keep going because everything else, in my mind, is simply testing.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ron Hitson
    No method or process. For me. I just keep going no matter what. As long as I'm breathing and able bodied, I'll keep moving ahead. I have certainly had my failures but It almost never get's me down to a point that I stop moving. I will not play myself short like that.

    Life is really a fantastic voyage, some people have it better than others. That's the nature of the best. But be sure to keep your eyes on the prize.

    If I stop now, I'll never know if I could have made it.

    Maybe not the best way but if I start thinking about the failures, I can guarantee COMPLETE and TOTAL failure.


    Keep going........
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  • Profile picture of the author adventureman89
    One thing that has helped me stay focus on what I want is emtional freedom technique. You basically tap out your negative emotions that distract you from achieving your goals, and fearing failure. Any fear you have you can eliminate it with EFT (emotional freedom technique.)

    Try it out, and it will change your life.

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  • Profile picture of the author MrBusiness
    Gay monkey rape? Hahaha

    Anyway, just try and have alot self belief. Believe you can overcome it, and you will
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  • Profile picture of the author GeorgR.
    It's very unlikely that "everything" you will do will fail.

    It's true that in IM a good plan and strategy is a must - but the way to success is often full with so called "fails". Those "fails" are actually good since they help you to weed out what works and what doesn't. Ultimately, you will get to a point where something works.

    Sometimes it can take longer, sometimes not long at all. If you have a working plan right away this is great - but its more likely that it takes a few attempts.

    The motivation comes automatically. This can be the $$ on your paypal/clickbank account - and it can be people and customers telling you they like what you provide for them. (BIG motivation!)

    Furthermore, one big factor is that i personally have "fun" doing what i am doing...i am always motivated...sometimes its simply the challenge which gets me going. (For example ranking a site for a very good but competitive keyword, things like that.)
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  • Profile picture of the author ebizman87
    Thanks for all the feedback and support.

    Wish I can thank all the contributors here but I ran out of "thanks" today.

    I'll seriously consider all the advice, recommendation and brush up my mind for the new year.

    Thanks again WARRIORS. Happy New Year
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  • Profile picture of the author richdirtygirl
    Originally Posted by ebizman87 View Post

    Hi there..

    2009 is a both good and bad year for me.

    Learned a lot,made some money but also FAILED many times.Although I'll bounce back but usually it'll take a long time to do that.I'll take a long time to recover or set things right again and I'm easily "demotivated".

    So here's my question:

    How do you motivate yourself every time you failed at something or "demotivated"?

    Any specific tips?Any books/courses that you recommend?

    2010 is just around the corner and I want to start the year with a POSITIVE mindset and view.Your input is well appreciated.I don't care whether you're NEWBIE or an expert,if your advice makes sense, that's fine with me.

    Thanks..

    Happy New Year Warriors
    it is all a matter of keeping your bottom line... what is really important for you?

    for me, breathing... no, I mean it.

    when I was lil I was asthmatic, seriously emotionally asthmatic.

    like my dad was asthmatic too and kind of addicted to the medication, my mom decided that I was never going to have it, no matter how bad the attack was.

    I felt like dying more than once.

    One day, I went to see a doctor. He was an endocrinologyst, and he was not even working with patients but was doing research.

    not sure how i ended up there...

    Anyway... he told me something that set me free...

    he said: no matter how much you feel you are dying, you have 6 minutes before dying. And you only need 30 secs to take the air out and let some air get into your lungs.

    you only need to be able to control the panic attack. I was 11 years old.

    and I did it... after a while the asthma disappeared altogether.

    and no matter what, as long as I can breath... it is all good.

    so if you get seriously discouraged about a roadblock, is, maybe because you are giving it more importance than it really has...

    if you keep the bottom line and have faith in your own strength, there is no reason to get discouraged.

    One handy trick is: always look for something to be thankful for, and grab it with both hands. That will put you in the right emotional state. And from there just stand up, take the dust out, smile and keep going.

    Laura
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  • Profile picture of the author actionplanbiz
    The Main Motivation should always be the Fear of Not Acheiving your Goals and 2nd think about the Pleasure you will gain when Achieving your Goals.

    thinking about those 2 things will help you go through your failure. especially when you understand "failure" is a necessary step forward for everyone.
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  • To be honest, though it may be hard, you must keep pushing forward. Sometimes efforts may fail, but try, try, try again.

    I think about where I am now, where I have been, and ultimately where I want to go. This is an important part of success; to see a light at the end of the tunnel.
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  • Profile picture of the author paulie888
    Great question, you just need to go into your projects knowing that while there may be a possibility of failure, there is always something to be learned from the experience no matter what happens. The key is to take heart in that and derive some knowledge from your failures, and use that to approach things differently the next time around.

    Focus on what is learned instead of beating yourself up over a failure. I always remind myself of Thomas Edison's story (which I'm sure everyone here knows and consequently don't need to regurgitate), and how I could be very close to a breakthrough - this really spurs me on when working on tough projects, and I become like the dog that just won't let go of his bone!

    In addition to that, you must have some grand vision of what you want to accomplish and be, as this will provide the passion and drive you'll need when the times get tough, which they surely will. It's not a question of IF, it's just a question of WHEN! Without that vision you're likely to give up at the first few signs of difficulty, this is why it's so important to have a clearly defined vision that you can revisit whenever you need to.
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  • Hello Warriors

    I have read all these post, it is great advise. I have been struggling with this for about a month. Always thinking I will never get this done. I had so many emails that would distract me on what my mission was for the day. I will now focus on one, two or three things daily ontil complete.

    Laura
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    • Profile picture of the author sdentrepreneur
      Everytime I fail, I learn something. I also let experts in my Internet Education Company test things for me and use proven marketing methods. Why try to create the wheel?
      Wishing everyone a fantastic 2010 !!!
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      • Profile picture of the author Alminc
        If the failure doesn't cost me more than my labour and time
        I consider it a lesson. I will probably try that same thing again in a
        different way.

        As for motivation, I use to think ' If these ยค!#holes can do it, I can do it even better!'
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  • Profile picture of the author TrishMullen
    When I first started in IM, I was full of buzz and really placed no expectations on myself. I knew I had sooo much to learn and would get there one day.

    Time went on and nothing was happening, others seemed to be bragging about all the $ they were making and I became really despondent, but I kept my vision. I knew where I wanted to be and that it would happen one day.

    I quickly realised that whatever anyone else is doing and how much they are making, there is only one of them and what works for them may not work for me and vice versa.

    Now I just concentrate on being me, I take on board the learning given to me and implement the strategies and it's working.

    I may have taken longer than some but one thing I do know is that I did it the way that was right for me. My morals and ethics are intact and I have not, and never will scam anyone.

    So I think what works for me is a positive mindset and a strong vision and ambition to succeed.

    I wish you all every success with your own business as we head forwards now into 2010.

    All the best
    Trish
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    • Profile picture of the author Intrepreneur
      I would say that JeremyKelsalll covers (about 7 posts upwards) how I see my failures, that I already knew they could happen. His method and this book would make for an extremely succesful get up and go attitude.

      Amazon.com: F**k it: The Ultimate Spiritual Way...Amazon.com: F**k it: The Ultimate Spiritual Way...
      Just had to mention the book as it's begging me to press the buy button.
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      • Profile picture of the author Tam Chancellor
        Originally Posted by Intrepreneur View Post

        Amazon.com: F**k it: The Ultimate Spiritual Way (9781848500136): John Parkin: Books

        Just had to mention the book as it's begging me to press the buy button.
        Thanks for mentioning this book. I thought it was a joke until I
        saw it was published by Hay House UK. I'll admit that I'm itching
        to buy it too...mostly out of curiosity. Looks like an interesting spin

        Tam
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        • Profile picture of the author Intrepreneur
          Originally Posted by Tam Chancellor View Post

          Thanks for mentioning this book. I thought it was a joke until I
          saw it was published by Hay House UK. I'll admit that I'm itching
          to buy it too...mostly out of curiosity. Looks like an interesting spin

          Tam
          I read the reviews and it seems some people are bashing it as having nothing remerable within. Though from the skim read I done over it, I'd say it's a book you'll remember for a long time. Even without buying it we can all see what those 2 words could do for us. Say them now out loud and feel instantly better.
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  • Profile picture of the author Fernando Veloso
    Hmmm Just do it again with a smile.

    I love to discover new stuff and test new ideas, so, no problem:

    If I fail, I just do it till I get it.
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  • Profile picture of the author silvervixen
    Staying motivated is a real challenge for anyone who works for themselves, and is most especially vexing for IMers.

    I'll be honest here and say there are days that I am completely unproductive because I'm completely unmotivated and depressed. What gets me going again is thinking about the alternative: having to find work in a market that is completely saturated with people looking for work and more than that, returning to having a boss, commuting at least an hour one way, etc.
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  • Profile picture of the author Adrianne_
    If you've failed 200 times, then you now know 200 methods that did not work for you. Use it as a learning experience that you can always share with others to help them along the way. If nothing else, you will at least have a better understanding about why those things did not work. Think about people before you who tried and failed miserably such as the Wright brothers. Imagine the ridicule they must have endured? How about Thomas Edison, Ben Franklin, or Alexander Graham Bell? They never gave up. If they were successful in the face of opposition, then so could you.
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    • Profile picture of the author Karen Blundell
      so many successful entrepreneurs "failed" . Big deal!

      What is important is how you handle those failures. I consider them lessons, and because they are lessons, I simply try again. Learn and move on. But most importantly, never ever give up.

      good luck to you
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