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How to Really Connect With People? (An Example of What Not To Do)

by Brad Spencer
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Hey Warriors,

A friend of mine recently shared a video with me which really struck me for a lot of reasons.

It's a video of a group of men from Sudan who were taken and placed in the US to live here. The cultural issues immediately show through and are striking for people who live here and don't know much else.

Now the reason I share this with you is that this is how prospects and new people feel all the time. It's so easy when you're looking at the things you're good at in your niche whether it's make money online or weight loss or whatever.

It's easy to assume you are covering something but when you're talking to people who are REAL newbies and dont' know a thing, the little things are the ONLY thing that matter...

Take a look at the video on this site...it's only a few minutes and hopefully you can see a striking example of what new people feel when they enter your business.

Individuals from Sudan are brought to the USA, cultural differences emerge. [VIDEO]

Hopefully you can make a much larger impact keeping this very obvious video in mind whenever you're working on a project or something to take
care of your family.

Have a splendid day!

Brad
#connect #people
  • Profile picture of the author DanielleLynnCopy
    Brad,

    Thanks for the share That's one of the problems I constantly see popping up. People have great techniques, but don't always know how to share them effectively (especially with newbies).

    Definitely sound advice when creating a product for newbies, or for anyone who hasn't been what you've been through.
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    • Profile picture of the author Brad Spencer
      Originally Posted by DanielleLynnCopy View Post

      Brad,

      Thanks for the share That's one of the problems I constantly see popping up. People have great techniques, but don't always know how to share them effectively (especially with newbies).

      Definitely sound advice when creating a product for newbies, or for anyone who hasn't been what you've been through.
      It's just really all about perspective...something I personally feel is in very short supply in this industry...on both sides of the fence in terms of buyers and gurus needing more of it.

      Cheers,

      Brad
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    • Profile picture of the author KatyaSenina
      Originally Posted by DanielleLynnCopy View Post

      Brad,

      Thanks for the share That's one of the problems I constantly see popping up. People have great techniques, but don't always know how to share them effectively (especially with newbies).

      Definitely sound advice when creating a product for newbies, or for anyone who hasn't been what you've been through.
      Exactly, that is also why it's so hard these days to find a good product to promote that explains internet marketing in terms newbies can understand.

      Most Clickbank products are aimed towards newbies, but they almost all fail to explain the concept in layman's terms. FAIL!
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  • Profile picture of the author feodor24
    Originally Posted by Brad Spencer View Post

    It's a video of a group of men from Sudan who were taken and placed in the US to live here.
    By the way, do you know those guys who have taken them to US? Could they adopt me too?

    Seriously they are blessed to live in US from now on and yes there are some cultural issues and so on but sooner or later they will be ok. Better think of those left in Sudan. How do they feel now when the war is knocking their doors?

    Don't make us shed a tear because of them 'cause there's plenty of even worse things going on. You americans are funny...


    "Yes we had some problems with provision in WW2 period. We've never seen any meat that time. Had to switch to chicken instead", said some old american lady to me. Period.
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    • Profile picture of the author ExRat
      Hi Brad,

      I love visiting and learning about different cultures and seeing other cultures experiencing new things for the first time. A German client of mine brought a Maldivian friend over to the UK and Germany - he had only ever been to India/Maldives. It was fascinating to spend time with him as we showed him around and to observe the things that caught his attention.

      If you like these sort of things, I recommend a DVD called TribeDVD called Tribe . It's an ex-military English guy who lived with a variety of tribes for around six weeks at a time and made a really good go of integrating with each tribe - working for his food, partaking in initiation ceremonies and fighting rituals etc.

      There are some fascinating moments - EG - they don't trust him at first, but once established they make him a real member of their family and they are shocked and saddened when he leaves. Many of them really thought that he would not want to leave after making all that effort to integrate.

      I also agree with your sentiment on this - the more we adjust our perspective and widen our 'view', the better we are at dealing with people. Personally, I think there is a lot to be learnt from people from other cultures, because even though our leaders would like us to think that we are 'advanced' in the West, we have lost a lot of the human touch for the sake of that 'advancement' - which is what the guy highlighted in the video you linked to, when he spoke about passing people on the street.
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  • Profile picture of the author hommi_16
    The documentary is called God Grew Tired of Us and it’s worth watching.

    Just an FYI
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  • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
    This is an awesome video man. Really makes you think about how unfriendly we have become (something I've been noticing over the past few years and paying a lot of attention too) and definitely illustrates your point of new people being completely clueless coming into our world of internet marketing.

    Really great post. Glad to see people posting useful information.
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    • Profile picture of the author Brad Spencer
      Originally Posted by rcritchett View Post

      This is an awesome video man. Really makes you think about how unfriendly we have become (something I've been noticing over the past few years and paying a lot of attention too) and definitely illustrates your point of new people being completely clueless coming into our world of internet marketing.

      Really great post. Glad to see people posting useful information.
      Hey Bro,

      While I understand why people post questions...this forum really has become at times full of negativity and sadness and that really sucks.

      Our society reflects this and that's why I cease to read the newspaper
      because it just seems like all they want to talk about is how the recession
      will never end (it always does) and how bad things are (they really aren't if
      you look at non-mainstream data)...

      Just sad really...not enough love and compassion in the world...

      Cheers,

      Brad
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  • Profile picture of the author James Campbell
    Glad you liked my share

    I found it very interesting and what hit home for me is when he talked about people in the US not being able to talk to each other freely, "It is a great shame, actually."

    Don't know why, but it hit home for me.

    James
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  • Profile picture of the author healingoasis
    Thanks for the great share man. I will be reevaluating my techniques!
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  • Profile picture of the author Kelly Verge
    When my son and I were in Nepal on our mission trip a couple of years ago, we felt almost exactly like the young men in this video. We went WAY off the beaten path into remote villages, and while there were a LOT of similarities (people are people), there were also a lot of big differences.

    For example, in the mountains, the only way to get around is on the trails. These trails go right by many of the houses - often across the flagstone "patios" just outside of the houses.

    Because of this, as well as the fact that everyone walks on the same trails, hospitality is just a way of life.

    When you approach a house, you can use their water, rest on the benches at the front of their houses. You're even welcome to go into their homes and visit with them.

    This part of their culture even carries through to their language. They call each other "younger sister" or "older brother" or even "father" or "mother."

    I have wondered how strange and overwhelming our culture would be to either of the two Nepalis we spent our time with over there.
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    • Profile picture of the author Brad Spencer
      Originally Posted by Kelly Verge View Post

      When my son and I were in Nepal on our mission trip a couple of years ago, we felt almost exactly like the young men in this video. We went WAY off the beaten path into remote villages, and while there were a LOT of similarities (people are people), there were also a lot of big differences.

      For example, in the mountains, the only way to get around is on the trails. These trails go right by many of the houses - often across the flagstone "patios" just outside of the houses.

      Because of this, as well as the fact that everyone walks on the same trails, hospitality is just a way of life.

      When you approach a house, you can use their water, rest on the benches at the front of their houses. You're even welcome to go into their homes and visit with them.

      This part of their culture even carries through to their language. They call each other "younger sister" or "older brother" or even "father" or "mother."

      I have wondered how strange and overwhelming our culture would be to either of the two Nepalis we spent our time with over there.
      The funny part is I grew up in Indiana and this stuff happens...of course it's slightly different b/c we didn't walk everywhere...but you could visit people's home or borrow some eggs from your neighbor.

      I live in Orlando area now and I don't even know my neighbors except for the guys above us and some people on the other side of the building. Kind of insane how hard it is to meet people and just have a sense of community.

      This doesn't have to be but our society has gotten so focused on instant gratification and social media that taking the time to genuinely listen to someone, get to know them, invite them out for a beer or coffee, etc just doesn't happen anymore. It's like the attitude "what can you do for me now...how can you help me find my next job...etc etc".

      I definitely believe in my heart of hearts that this issue is why some people have such a hard life. My life is relatively easy even though I own 3 businesses and have lots to do all the time. Whenever I need something, I always have someone to call in my time of need. And people will ask me for help too ya know...it's just that sense of community and caring just for the sake of caring.

      Anyhow, I'm ranting....back to the grindstone!

      Brad
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