I have a feeling I will fail again, should I even try?

You need a therapist, not a business. And I mean that in the kindest way possible. This stuff isn't your answer, at least not right now.

Hey Mike,
Iam no expert that's why I might take a suggestion by another membr here... and that is if this keeps up and gets
worse( your emotions) you may need to seek professional help.

You sound a little more deep in this than just the average Marketer who has his up and downs.

Really.

I'm not going to scream Depression or General Anxiety Disorder but a professional could surely determine this.
Best of luck.



- Robert Andrew

Hello Mike

I like many of the replies to you, but one in particular by art72, he told you something of his life, challenges an hardships that he had to overcome, like dropping out of school in year 7, drug overdose at 15, losing everything at 35, becoming homeless, but not giving up an eventually being succesful with his IM Business's. A lot of his story resonates with me. I have often shared parts of my story in the hope it might inspire people, I hope it might do the same for you, and I will also give you some advice to help you. My story is a bit longer than art24's, I'm a woman, I talk more! Sorry bout that! lol. But the real reason of course is to show you like art24 did, that you can overcome anything in your life. Whatever you want you can get, whatever you want to be, you can be. Your future is up to you.

I was an only child of church going parents, we actually lived in a home owned by the church, next door to the church. My father was a church official an also preached there, but the love he preached was not echoed in my homelife. I don't remember any love or affection being given to me by my parents. When I was 12 he started to sexually assault me, my mother knew, she told me he was not really hurting me, told me if I told anyone I would be put in a girls home. By 14 it was a daily occurance, it was what I had to look forward to as I walked home from school. By 15 he even involved other men, they paid him to attend the sex show he put on each weekend at someones home. I was the one who had to perform with him an others at those shows.

At 16 I became pregnant to my high school boyfriend, when I refused to have an abortion my parents kicked me out of home (the only nice thing they ever did for me) an even ran me out of town, they didn't want to be shamed in front of their church community. I went to London, was on my own with a baby by time I was 17. It was very hard, I remember eating jus soup for a whole month, the cheapest soup cans of soup I could buy, jus so I could buy things for my baby. I couldn't get a job while looking after a baby, I did cleaning, ironing, baby sitting, etc for neighbours. I sang in a pub, was too young to even be in a pub but the publicans wife used to mind Sherri while I was singing, he would give me a big pub dinner an do a collection for me. His wife would then drive us home with a big bag of goodies she had cooked for me. I so looked forward to that night each week.

I was 21 before I could find a job, life got better then. At 23 I discovered Internet Marketing, I remember I was so excited, I would put Sherri to bed then spend bout 3 hours a night trying to learn. I started trying to sell ebooks on ebay, my first whole year I made US$408, but I never thought of giving up.

Then, I was 24, I met a man in a MSN chat room, he was an Australian, twice my age, BUT he was full time in IM, making up to US$75K a year, a FORTUNE to my way of thinking then. I asked if he would mentor me, he said he didn't have time other than for a couple of chats. After those chats I begged him to mentor me, he said no, but I didn't give up. I hounded an hounded him, he was likely so sick of all my emails an private chat requests he finally said yes, but with conditions, if I stuffed up jus once, that would be the end of his mentoring.

Part of his mentoring was sending me books to read, the first one was over 240 pages an he said I had to read it in a week before he sent me the next one. I thought I would need a month to read it an told him so. He said if you can't do it your wasting my time - of course I read that book in a week. So many times that happened, The first time I had to reproduce a simple website, he had shown me how to make a website via his online conference room, then he bought me a copy of FrontPage an a book bout it. After I installed FrontPage, jus looking at it on my computer, I knew I could not learn how to use it an design that website in a week. He told me I could, an that I had better! An to my surprise by the end of that week I had my website to show him.

I didn't realise back then that he had more confidence in me then I had in myself. He was constantly pushing me uphill so I could roll down the other side. He was telling me I could do anything an be anyone I wanted to be, no matter my lack of education. We became close an I told him bout my life, he started to councel me, told me my past was in my past, it could only effect me if I chose to let it. I started to think of him as being like a Dad I had never had. One night his mentoring was bout the English SAS an their Motto, Who Dares Wins. I took that lesson to heart, I thought bout it an I decided to Dare, I asked him if he would be my Dad an Sherri's GrandDad. He said yes. He took me in as his Daughter an into his Business.

Sorry for that long story Mike, but I'll update you to where we are now. In 12 years we have built one of the worlds largest privately owned IM Business's, over 20 companies online an a few offline ventures. With our IM Business's we have 65 employees, who work 24 hours a day over 3 shifts. Our turnover for 2015 is already over US$14 Million for our IM Business's. We continue to grow our Business's, an start more Business's each year. My Dad an I still work together 16 hours a day during our work week, we don't have to work at all, but it is not like work to us, it is pure fun.

So to some advice Mike.

Never give up. As soon as you give up you have lost the race. It is all bout mindset, you have to have confidence in yourself, you have to have ambition, an drive. You have to have passion for what you are doing. You have to be willing to put time an effort into things, you have to be willing to take the time to learn an to be continually learning, an you have to be willing to work hard for what you want.

One of the things my Dad told me years ago was that learning IM was no different to any other schooling. You start in IM Kindergarten an as you learn you eventually will graduate IM University. Your income will also reflect your IM education level. Do you really think those at Kindergarten in the real world are making much of an income? Get REAL.

In the real world many people spend years on their education, to give themselves the best chance of a high paying job or position. We have to do the same, but our rewards can be much higher than any professional#s income level. Don't buy into the IM myth that you can make big money fast without much work, so many people seem to think this is true.

You are very unlikely to be able to find someone like I did who will spend their time an personally mentor you. But the Warrior Forum is full of people with some form of experience, many run full time successful IM Business's, so treat them as being mentors of sort. The WF is also a place where you can learn bout the different IM Business models.

So, no use feeling depressed or desperate, neither will get you anywhere at all. Find yourself some sort of job, an hold it, anything to survive while you educate yourself bout IM. Be realistic, your not very likely to be making any amount of money in a few weeks or maybe even within a few months. But if you give up, your not going to be making any at all.

Cheers

Lindy

Mike,

We all have been through such situations at one point or another.

You feel stucked and overwhelmed due to the pressure to get results.

Two things.

First:
How long have you been doing this? Do you take what has not worked so far and improve on it? Like I did a bit of FB ad, it gave me $5 clicks when I started. Ouch. I then learned about Lookalike Audience, and it went down to $0.50 a click. So it's all about learning and improving bit by bit.

You expect to succeed, and if you don't, do you give up? You likely will as it did not meet your expectation. But what happen if you expect just a small win? :-) How about something small like an opt-in or 5 clicks depending on how long you have been on it?

I joined a guru's free list building course recently. I didn't expect much cause I had paid $300 earlier to another warrior to do the same but did not get much results. The guru promised a 2000 list in 30 days. I did not expect to get any since it was free but I forced myself to get a free gift up, opt-in etc. - to do and learn along the way. After a week, I ended up with about 10 new signups! I was overjoyed. See, since I didn't expect a single signup, when I got my first few I was thrilled.

Re-set your expectations, and you will win as you learn and improve.

If you did not succeed, it just means you have not learned the "how to succeed" yet. So keep learning, don't be too hard on yourself if you fail. What makes you think you can succeed in the first place anyway if you are just starting and learning?

Second:

Focus on your audience or market. Not focus on you to make a sale or opt-in. Are you serving or solving a problem that your market is looking for? Put yourself in their shoes, go to your opt-in/website as a user/prospect and see if what you are offering is what "you will buy" to solve the problem or benefit from it ;-)

Business is about the value you can give to your market. Take the time to educate yourself on the needs and problems of the market and you will eventually win. If you give enough value, like take a look at some of the WSOs, it's $1 or $5, for massive value/knowledge. Do they sell? I'm sure you've bought a handful ;-)

Some gurus like Alex Jeffreys gives massive value for his front-end programs esp. And they sell lots!

Hope this helps!

Yeah, I took exception to the statement that "Anybody, Anywhere can make money online" (if we are talking about enough to buy groceries for the month and pay rent or mortgage).

Very few people are capable of reaching that stage. I can introduce personally at least 12 people who I am POSITIVE would never be able to earn even 5 bucks a day online.

Persistence is one of the things that many people lack. The others lack "brain power" or the natural curiosity or drive to learn the required knowlege.

And in regards to if I "feel Randall" ... No Comment !

Warms the cockles of my heart when people quote me. Thanks, Jill,

Anonymous

Well, ok. We're not doctors, and we don't know the OP (at least I assume you don't...)

Having said that... there is nothing easy about creating a business from nothing, and anxiety and insecurity are absolutely normal reactions to the ups and downs of the journey.

A few words of desperation from a struggling IM'er are nothing new here. So I'll just say this.

OP, if your anxiety is keeping you from functioning normally as a human being (i.e. affecting your relationships, taking care of your basic needs, fetal position, etc), then you don't need to be working on the business. You need to work on yourself. See a doctor and get help.

If this was just an overly dramatic cry for attention, then step up and get to work fixing the problems in your business model. There are lots of ways to do this. Start by finding people who have been successful doing what you want to do, and learning in great detail how they do it.

Good luck.