How to choose your Mentor?

Ok, so last week, I was attending this seminar hosted by a group of psychiatrists. One of the guest speaker (an old grey hair man), took a very different approach in explaining this: How to choose your mentor?

First, he described the very famous Maslow's hierarchy of needs model (every IM must be familiar with it):



Then, he went on explaining how we all move along this psychological hierarchy model, from our basic needs to love and intimacy and then, finally to the most difficult hierarchy: Self Esteem.

Almost all of us get stuck at this stage. For years and years, we run for approvals and respect from others - all because we are so badly stuck here.

"Only those who surpass this stage and achieve self-actualization are the one who kiss true success. A success with both independence and peace of mind." he said.

He further added, "Choose your mentors who have achieved self-actualization."

This really struck me.

(btw self-actualization is a phase of true mastery where you are fully aware of your strong/weak points and become free of other people approvals a.k.a working at your full creative potential).

He also explained that how some governments remain stuck at self-esteem phase while those who have achieved self-actualization have the happiest and most prosperous citizens.

I know it's getting a little off the topic, but still, in IM, finding the right mentor is a hot topic.
(I also believe that each part of our life needs a different mentor).

What are your views on this? Do you think we must look for the "self-actualization" component in our mentor before finally choosing one?

Would love to know your approach on this!

-Junaid