Why you should STOP comparing yourself to others

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"By comparing yourself to others you limit yourself to being only as excellent as they may be, and in so doing, prevent yourself from achieving a higher level of accomplishment that you never knew possible. Let others be GUIDES not GOALS."

If you focus on what you don't have, you will never grasp and appreciate what you do have.

I try and focus my energy on what I DO have and what I am capable of. In doing so, I am motivated to progress and driven to succeed.
After all

"Look in the mirror, that's your competition."

Instead of comparing myself to others, I have chosen to compare who I am now to who I want to become.

So who do I want to become?

The best version of myself, and to me this means becoming educated, happy, and successful.

I recognize that this is a process, and every step I take is a change that is benefiting my life and bringing me closer to what I want and who I want to be.

By Elizabeth (Revolutionary Dream Builders)

Who is Elizabeth
#comparing #stop
  • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
    another random video supporting the OP and/or adding value to the thread.

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  • Profile picture of the author Joyce Birmingham
    I agree, it's never useful comparing ourselves to others. There's a saying that no one else is you, and that is your power.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joe Libby
    Absolutely true. I think that once you discover your special talents and strengths and work on those, then you will start to achieve successful results.
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  • Profile picture of the author Pat H
    I appreciate your post Juliana. I just read an article on TinyBuddha.com about this subject that suggests we often compare ourselves with someone who we perceive as being, having, or doing more. It goes on to suggest our mind wants to know where we fit into the scheme of things. So we need to give it something to do. Why not simply redirect the comparison to a past and a present self and keep the comparison within?

    What are you doing today that you couldn't have done five, three, or even one year ago? How have you stepped out in the last year that you might have found inconceivable before?

    In other words, how have you continued to become a new and improved version of yourself?

    If you can't get on your own side, you never get past "go!"
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    • TinyBuddha.com is the perfect site to achieve inner peace and radiate positivity all over. I personally follow the site and always appreciate a good read about minimalism and true happiness.
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  • Profile picture of the author laurencewins
    Comparisons have always been made through our entire life.
    Competing against others at school in sports and also in getting the highest grades.

    You compete with work colleagues trying to be the best performer, etc.

    When you socialise, people compare others to see who:
    wears nicer clothing.
    Has an expensive haircut.
    Drives an expensive fast car.
    Owns the biggest home.

    And so the list goes on and on.

    Unless you have walked a mile in somebody else's shoes, and can really understand what they're going through, it's impossible to accurately compare yourself.

    There's only one thing you should do and that's to:

    However, give yourself permission to stumble, but always be prepared to get back up again. That's the definition of a true winner!!!

    So stop comparing yourself to others, start comparing yourself now to how you were in the past and what you're working towards in the future.
    Your future starts TODAY!!

    Cheers, Laurence. Read my Warriors for Hire ad.
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  • Agreed!
    We should to strive to be the best possible versions of ourselves and not only for our own selves, but for the benefit and contribution we can offer to others.
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  • Profile picture of the author blueonblue
    "Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You."

    Dr. Seuss
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  • Profile picture of the author Johnny0204
    Each person has his/her own journey in life.

    Each person is different in their characteristics, circumstances, friends and millions of other stuffs.

    Let us strive to be the best version of ourselves, rather than trying to be the same as other people for the rest of our lives.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kingten
    Comparing yourself to others makes you loos focus on your goals , because you will be busy minding about what they are doing instead of minding your own business.

    Other people they should be inspiration to you, if they are doing good or better than you, You should stop comparing you to others because you dont even know if they are happy or not.
    Focus on you, that's the main thing.
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  • Comparison breeds jealousy. Comparison breed self-loathe. Comparison is not something we should all be so concerned about. It destroys how we look at ourselves and sucks the little self-love we feel. So, stopping it and not allowing it to take control of our lives is great advice.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mahmood99
    Very helpful, we all are guilty of doing this.
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  • Profile picture of the author speedjohn
    Comparing yourself to others might give birth to jealousy.Be the best of yourself is a great challenge.Conquering someone in looks may give you temporary satisfaction.Great thing is when you conquer your difficulties and achieve that gives you long term life satisfaction
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  • Profile picture of the author R0b328
    I couldn't agree more with you. For me, I think it's ok to look at something for the sole purpose of motivating yourself and wanting that too, we all like some form of materialistic things,

    but I think where the problem is, is like you say people start comparing themselves to others and they begin to expect it to happen for them exactly how it happened for that person they are comparing themselves to.

    Biggest mistake ever. Simple reason why is, there's just no comparing your journey to someone elses. There are so many factors involved that its impossible to say you're going to have it exactly like they had it.

    Different people, different minds, different life circumstances, different levels of emotional intelligence, just completely different universes inside each person's head.

    Great post
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