I hate my life

perhaps you need to see how hard others are doing it so in turn you can see how lucky you are.

Hi, acrasial, sorry to hear you're feeling that way. I've been there. I'm not there right now, but I hope it helps to know it can and will get better. It has to, right? Only way to go is up? Hang in there.

You won't hate your life if you will try to see the lives of others who eat 1 meal a day, live in cardboard boxes, and roam the streets for days..

Life is all about empathy.. Looking through life with the other person's eyes.. If we are more empathic, we are more understanding.. More understanding between two individuals means cooperation and guidance.. cooperation and guidance mean peace and prosperity for all..

Acrasial, I don't know about your background, so
it's hard for me to comment.

All I can say is you have a choice. To be happy or sad.
If you tell yourself, you will make your own circumstances,
do whatever it takes to be happy, and not let anything
get you down - you will be happy.

If you stayed mired in this "sad" state, and keep suggesting
to yourself that you hate your life...you will hate your life.

As Napoleon Hill said - you become what you think.

So take control. There are still plenty of hope left
in this world. We can only give encouragement
as bystanders, but ultimately, only you can decide for yourself
what path you want to take.

All the best!
Jag

Hi friend.. Don't look back, just look for the future..
God bless you

When ever feeling sad or angry. A girl friend dumped me. I lost a lot of money. A family member died. Or I simply feel crappy and un motivated. I remind myself. Everything that is... is. There is supposed to be highs. There is supposed to be lows. The fact that you are going through a very low time in your life probably means that later on you are going to go through a very high time in your life. It's all part of the process of living. So yes. Take the wonderful advice given to you by others on this forum. Being happy is a choice. So make the decision. Sharing your poor me syndrome with the world only breeds negativity in others and causes those around you to dislike you. Fortunately this forum is full of positive thinkers who like to help one another.

Happy Trails


hijack
Thank you so much warrior forum for being a positive influence in my life. You guys have helped me to realize that if I want to be a billionaire, even a trillionaire... I can.
/hijack

Iam so sorry to heard that about you ,
you are hating your life , hating your situation .. well .. you aren't alone , some times all passed a time like you , but never ever hate your life ,you have to full the empty side in your life , the spiritual Side ..
think happy you will live happy , enjoy your life , smile on problems
because we live this life Just ONES .. so .. live it with hope , with wishes , with happiness and always design a smile at your face .

wishing for you better life

I have been in that state of mind... after a car accident.... This is some years back.
It did take my quite some time to snap out of it (years to be exact).
If this is a long term state of mind, i recomend you go see a doctor. A depression is a chemical reaction in the brain and can be treated.
Otherwise, ask yourself these questions: Why do I want to live? Why am I here? What can I contribute with?
You may feel alone, but in reality we are all one. I know not everybody thinks this way, but investegate on your own.

Everyone, including me, goes through this kind of thought once in a while. I don't care who you are or how successful you are. Everyone goes through this once in a while.

Tal

I understand how you're feeling Acrasial.

On Sunday past, with the covers over my head, I thought about committing suicide. I felt no point in anything. After all this time, all this effort, and all this progress, I feel nothing but a wretched, horrible mess of a person.

I kept thinking about how peaceful it would be to die. I remember thinking: "Why did all of this have to happen to me? "Why can't I live a good life and be successful?" But, I felt nothing but self-condemnation, feeling like I deserve everything that happens to me.

So, after saying a quick prayer, I drift off to sleep.

The next morning I wake up and something's changed. I have a feeling of deep, profound peace, my burden has disappeared, and looking out of my window at the World everything seems to be as happy and peaceful as I am. I feel wonderful and I'm reminded why I love life and feel that all of this suffering has been to cleanse me of "evil" as I feel refreshed and renewed.

Then, I remember something I wrote down some time ago.

... "Suffering can be a blessing in disguise and God's gift to us. Because the more we suffer, the deeper grows our character, and the more loving and compassionate we become."

At that moment, enjoying the brand new day, that quotation makes even more sense than when I first imagined it. Although at the time of going through hardships we may feel "desperate," "hopeless," and "negative," ultimately I believe that everything happens for a reason and that we learn a great deal from these moments.

Today I'm back to my normal, happy self. And I feel as strong and as powerful as ever. Oh and I'm even more faithful, grateful, and appreciative of "God." (And whatever that quiet female voice that guides me is.)

Remember, there's always prayer. I believe that if you're humble and sincere, your prayers will be answered like mine have been. Good luck.

There are things that make your life a ****, longterm. I know how that is. Don't try, do it and no thinking about giving up!!! Our your life is going to suck all the rest of your life. You don't want that, right? So start working on your website/articles/backlinks etc.

I used to ALL THE TIME but now I've discovered my passion and I'm working hard on making things happen for me and I find that I love life now Funny how life works.

Shaleniie

As it says in the bible as long as we have bread and water and clothes and a love for God with the bible we should be content with our life.

Maybe you just need a hug

Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at will change

Before I get into this, I must say this reminded me of a quote...

Jim: "I hate my life!"
Gonzo: "I hate your life too!"

Muppet Treasure Island. GREAT movie. Now all joking aside...

I've been there. I used to be very, very morbidly depressed. I'd say it was a combination of a few seeds that had planted in the beginning, then grew into a vicious downward spiral. Hated by people I didn't know, in love with one of my best friends (all the while unconsciously denying he was gay), judged by a horrible so-called "therapist", faulty medications, physical fights, in and out of hospitals, self-mutilation, broken and hypocritical family...

With the steady help of an invaluable best friend I started to climb out, and she and I are best friends to this day. Back then, even with her undying support I felt I was still drowning, but then after the friend I'd loved betrayed me...

It hit me. I was SO INFURIATED that I decided, "I'm not going to let this kill me."

This was two weeks before ninth grade. I made the firm resolution that, even though I was still hurting, I'd climb back up. I went to a brand new school, made tons of new friends, made a point of discovering the music I'd always been looking for and dressing the way I'd loved for years and years (yes, I loved black dresses and minor key music LONG before I ever knew what "goth" was). In short, I began to reach inside and bring out the person I knew I really was.

It took me another year to fully put the past behind me, but becoming more involved in the present and working toward my future did wonders for me. It also taught me that I survived something that many, many people don't.

And THEN, as life went on, I discovered that it is possible to pursue far greater things than many ever do. I'm not quite there yet, but I've realized the potential and every day I'm working toward my dream. I've had my setbacks, and not too long ago I was thrown into a situation I was COMPLETELY unprepared for, and pissed off as hell about it. But once again, I went back to the drawing board, charted a course of action and have set sail.

I hope that you too, have a similar awakening and begin to rise up again. Even though I had support, at the end of the day my resolve came from ME and ME alone. It also must come from you alone. It's not easy, but it can be done. Good luck.

There's always a rainbow after the rain. Whatever you may have been in the past and no matter how dismal your present is, you should always have the strength to believe that there's ALWAYS a brighter future. Work towards it. Have faith. Believe that you can do it instead of wallowing in all those negative stuff.

There`s a famous saying. Count your blessings! Open your eyes for whats beautiful instead for whats annoying. Its your choice at what you weant to look and where you add power.
Cheers

Yes, and I decided to change it.



In the end it is all so simple, yet we make it so complicated.

Hi Acrasial,

So sorry for all you've been going through. I hope you're getting better now after all the encouraging posts.

I and Life are not seperate....

You don't have a Life, YOU ARE LIFE...

Be Grateful that we are Breating NOW cause were not here for long. So why Make 'Life' Hard, be Happy NOW cause Tomorrow Never comes only as Today and NOW.

So NOW is THE TIME.... =D

boo hoo. complaining is just anger without a plan

Like attracts like....have you heard of law of attraction?
You are the creator of everything in your life.
What ever you focus on expands. Your creation is a play of your intent, feelings, imagery....focus.......so if you practice the art of self appreciation & appreciation also your life changes.....When ever you feel low...put on life energizing music practice seeing the beauty in every situation.......buy some law of attraction workbooks to work on your feelings. Any other insight PM me.
Hears to a glorious & magnanimous life....Cheers

Yup. I think we all have those moments where everything is just going wrong and all you want to do is curl up into a ball and disappear. It's so easy for others to say think of how lucky you are and what not but when we are in that state of despair it's not that easy to do. We've all had those moments. You'll be fine.

What makes you happy? Figure that out and shift your focus to that when you fill down. In other words practice changing your point of view until this becomes easier and it will. Happiness can be exercised like a muscle until it is strong. Isn't that after all the grand prize? In time perhaps you will then begin to see the truly positive side of your life and trust me it is there if you start looking for it making toughs thoughts predominate. Best wishes.

Yes, I think we all have these moments from time to time. But when you're feeling down, there's no way to go but up. Move forward. Be aware of the blessings around you. Hope this helps.

Please try to see the videos on a thread here in WF, they might "provide" you a candle to light your way >> inspiring videos

Please note my signature...
I've had more then a few "Lemons" in my Life. Here's a few...
1. Born with a severe facial birth defects
2. Can't smell
3. Extremely malnourished as a child. (had worms in my p..p)
4. spent the early years of my Life in orphanage
5. was in the foster care system
6. finally adopted.
7. endured 26 surgeries
8. weighed 90 lbs at 16 years old.
9. Oops I forgot to mention the dark times (was severly abused)
10. Made fun of as a child.

Now I'm 30 years old.
I have only 8 grade of education and my GED but run 3 business.
Married to the most Beautiful girl in the world. We have three "perfect" children.
I learned martial arts and weight lifting. (still can do 200 pushups and 100 chinups)
I love Life to the fullest.
The Secret: Think of Others MORE than yourself. and if Life gives you Lemons make Lemonade!

hi,

Never think like that ,life goes with change .No body knows what happens in the next second.You may become millionaire ,who knows.Try to admit any thing in life,then definetely u will enjoy your life.

Yeah...it happens to me sometimes too.

The reason you have those moments all the time is because you THINK about those moments all the time.

It's impossible to attract something into your life if you never think about it.

If you hate your current life, you should do something about it. You have divine capacities to turn things around in your life. Remember, nothing changes if you don't make any change.

In order to change your state of being change your thoughts. Not to make this sound over simplified try to reach your mind to think of one pleasant thought. Something very simple that you like for example the fragrance of a rose, anything. Then savor that for a moment then reach for another thought and then another and keep expanding on this. The point again is to change what you think about and with practice you can literally change your world one thought at a time.

"Every passing day is a whole new chance to turn it all around..."

- Quote from Vanilla Sky film

Hmm, I think I'll just add something in here.

You say you hate your life...there was a point I would say that all the time. I used to get picked on so much (still kinda do) to the point that I have very low self esteem and I get paranoid when a group of people laugh around me (if I wasn't fully there to determine what the joke was). There were times when I just couldn't take it and I felt so useless to anyone and everything, because people were always good at something, but I never really cared to think I was good at anything. I'm almost 20 years old and I've never been in a relationship. So yeah, there was my depression right there. Fast forward 6 years later at the age of 19...I have my own site, I do CPA marketing, I'm not in school, but yet I'm starting to make a lot more in a day than my peers do in two weeks.

So you hate your life? Think about the homeless...think about people who don't have internet. I don't know about your background...and I'm not shutting you down...but I'm just helping you realize, your life is probably not as bad as you think it is. Hopefully I helped and not pissed you off but I'll give you an internet hug *hug* to at least make you feel a bit better.

If you need anyone to talk to, I'm always here!

Thanks for sharing

Go volunteer at a soup kitchen, child cancer center, old age home. This will change your perspective around tremendously. Hating life, being bored, being frustrated are perfect times to go out and expand yourself. Congrats, you are on your way to something better.

Yes, I have those moments usually when I burn some food, Ha

What you have is a form of depression. You never feel satisfied to adequate enough. It may seem like no matter how hard you try to do something it never turns out the way you wanted it to.

My advice is to see a psychologist, who will refer you to a psychiatrist, who will put you on meds to help level you out.

It sucks feeling this way, but with a little help from modern medicine you can be back to your old self again

Yep, hate is a very strong word to use, but I can feel your frustration.

I just spent 10 months unemployed with a wife and 2 beautiful daughters (1 and 5) to feed, a mortgage to pay, bills to pay, dreams put on hold (or so I thought) and I learned more from that year than the prior 10 years of my life.

There were people I hated, situations I hated, was pissed off at people that still had jobs that I didn't feel deserved to and there was even a short time I considered taking my own life.

Heavy ****.

The negative feelings stopped when the negative THOUGHTS stopped.

Thoughts become things, make sure you choose the good ones. Sounds hokey but it's more true than you could ever imagine.

Can't tell much from your avatar, but from what I can see, you're young, you're pretty, you've got all your limbs (unlike Nick Vuyjic <--Love that dude) and I assume you're not homeless because most cardboard boxes don't have internet access.

Here's an idea or to do list to think about...

- change your user name to your real name. Shout out to the world who you really are and be proud of it.

- Ditch the black hole thing and change it to "Blonde Internet Marketing Godess" or something awesome like that

- Wake up each morning with the attitude that you're going to rock this world and you'll slap it's face if it doesn't give you what you want out of it.

- Expect NOTHING from anyone else. Go after all you want and desire and know that nobody can stop you but you.

- Look up a dude called Gary Vaynerchuk...the author of the book Crush it! Watch his videos and buy his book. He will inspire you.

- Come back to this thread in a month and tell us how awesome you and your life have become. You have the power to change you and your life.....so DO it.

No, I have never hated my life, but I have hated things going on in my life so I chaged what I could and walked away from what I could not change. You can do the same.

I hate it when a young person hates their life. I have a daughter who will be 24 yrs old Sunday who hates her life! I've had my moments, but I was much older than you are. I haven't had a moment like that in the past 20 years. Why? My focus has not been on my own life, but the lives of others. Volunteer at a nursing home or pass out food at a homeless shelter. Visit the people living under a bridge. You may change your perspective.

I know of certain people who would think about holding a pistol to their head and end it all.

Then somehow, they chanced upon Internet marketing...

And had not looked back since.

Acrasial... I have the sneaking suspicion that you'll understand exactly what I mean when I say... it's perfectly alright that you hate your life right now and nothing needs to be done about it.

It's okay.

Because most of your answers have been very mature and level headed. It seems to me this post is more of a fishing for what sort of response you might get than it is a real cry for help.

That's a compliment, by the way.

My answer will scare the sort of people that like to cling to happiness. But if you investigate it closely, it becomes obvious that happiness is an undulation in emotion. How would you know you were happy unless you'd once been unhappy?

It's nice to see the good hearts in here so quick to offer you a way out and it seems like compassion enough... but I think it's misplaced.

There's no need whatsoever to avoid the low moments in our life. After all, it's those moments that make the high moments at all possible or enjoyable.

And let's not forget that it's dung that flowers grow from.

The real swinging cat knows that nothing at all needs to be done because our misery is only a problem if we resist it and try to get away from it. The world will keep right on flowing along whether or not we have a fit.

And to everyone throwing up a guilt trip about how we manifest our own misery and if we avoid thinking about miserable moments they'll cease to be... come off it already.

It should be obvious that to throw somebody in the bind of trying to avoid certain thoughts is only going to make those thoughts more pronounced. If I were to suggest you shouldn't think of a big, red, shiny stop sign... point made?

I hope so.

There's a weird attitude of trying to have happiness only floating around which is kinda creepy.

Also it should be made clear that when I say nothing needs to be done about your misery... the reason I say that is because you'll come out of it either way. It will take care of itself before you know it if you don't try to help life along. That you are miserable at all implies happiness is already on the way.

Do you have to strain to grow your hair? Is it by any muscular or mental effort that you regulate your hormones or do any of the other millions of miraculous things you do?

Your wisest answer so far, which I whole heartedly agree with... "this too, shall pass."

Peace.

I'll chime in the other direction. Its okay to hate your life at times. I think being sad, or melancholy is a good thing. It helps you get a perspective on things (and hey, this is not coming from a 40 year old, but a 20 year old college kid who just passed through adolescence).

The important this is that you don't let it become a habit.

What is your life that you hate? Until you know the sickness we can't suggest a cure. Or is it just seeking attention? if you are, you have succeeded.

Hi, Acrasial - it's OK - positive thinking and the tyranny of "having to feel good" is one of the delusions of our age, maybe. Check out the new book by Barbara Ehrenreich "Smile or Die, How Positive Thinking Fooled America and the World". And, you know, I wonder if it's better to have a genuine starting point - a reality position, at last - about life, rather than sticking a smiley face over an empty gas tank? Thanks for your post - made me think. My best to you - James PM me if you would like to.

Even if I risk to be laughed at:

Go outside, take good long walk, wash your brain with fresh air ... as primitive and simplistic as it sounds, it has always helped me.

Don't hate your life because you are luck that you know something happen in our action. Check your sig and you will understand what I mean. When I was 6 months old, I was in a hospital with several health problems and in a room of patients with only few days to live and I survive. When I was nine years old, I started working because I want to help my parents to support my family while several teens bullying me when I was selling selling something on the streets. One of my cousin even trowing a hammer on my head, so what I did is to remove the hammer in my head while going to hospital.

I had more than 7 accidents in the street and one in my early years of marriage,
I had a situation where me and my wife was inside a cab and been hit by a track
and while having a discussion with the driver, I punched him because of anger.
Why? because during that time my wife was pregnant and I can't think straight.

And lastly, I decided to go into this field, being solo working at home starting from
zero. I told my wife to resign to her job also so we don't have money to feed my
children.

I am not telling you to worsen your situation but it's all up to us, when we think
of a problem, we must think of a solution.

Here's a theory: ALL PROBLEM HAS A SOLUTION. If your problem don't have a solution
then don't mind it because it's not congruent to the theory. It's like this, if there's
no solution then there's no problem.

Have a great day!

Ross


You are surrounded by simple, obvious solutions that can dramatically increase your income, power, influence and success. The problem is, you just don't see them.
Jay Abraham

I think it is manmade. I think it's clearly manmade. If you don't understand what the cause is, it's virtually impossible to come up with a solution. We know what the cause is. The cause is manmade. That's the cause. That's why the polar icecap is melting.
Joe Biden

Sometimes the situation is only a problem because it is looked at in a certain way. Looked at in another way, the right course of action may be so obvious that the problem no longer exists.
Edward de Bono

We may need to solve problems not by removing the cause but by designing the way forward even if the cause remains in place.
Edward de Bono

I teach something called The Law of Probabilities, which says the more things you try, the more likely one of them will work. The more books you read, the more likely one of them will have an answer to a question that could solve the major problems of your life.. make you wealthier, solve a health problem, whatever it might be.
Jack Canfield

When you confront a problem you begin to solve it.
Rudy Giuliani

If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.
Abraham Maslow

When I hear bad news I look at it as another leadership test that will determine how successful Go Daddy will become. So I no longer dread it. Instead, I enjoy the game of finding the very best way to deal with it, and take great satisfaction in having a hand in resolving the issues that come my way.
Bob Parsons

You have to seek the simplest implementation of a problem solution in order to know when you've reached your limit in that regard. Then it's easy to make tradeoffs, to back off a little, for performance reasons. You can simplify and simplify and simplify yet still find other incredible ways to simplify further.
Steve Wozniak

When we can identify a problem and face the problem with confidence and enthusiasm, the solution is on the way.
Zig Ziglar

Hey its been awhile since your last post, are you still there. I hope all is well. Just remember you have the ability to change whatever it is, you just have to choose to.

I know it sounds easier said than done, but i have been there. homeless more than once. At one time my our lights got shut off and my pregnant wife had to take a shower in cold water. I literally hated my life. But I realized no one is going to save me and get me out of my situation. I have to do it myself. I think this is what it means when they say we we're given free will. Freedom to change our circumstance. its up to you. wish you the best.

Of course you hate your life if there's nothing new in it.
Instead of sitting in front of your computer all day go out,make friends,have fun.
I like going out more then sitting in front of a PC.

Interesting statement. I quite often say I hate my life. But do I? The confusion, the fustration, the child with special needs. The man who doesn't look at things like I do.
Do any of us know what goes on behind others eyes? Have you every thought, is the black I see the same as the black you see?

I was once told, it only takes a small shift in direction to change. As an individual, am I willing to do that, or am I comfortable where I am?

Jane

Well,10% of babies die when they born and 1% if people is stupid and commit a suicide.
Life's not easy but what the hell?

Don't overlook this statement because it's short and simple, but...

Change what you think about and you'll change your life.

Good Lord, you sound really depressed, if so you should find out whats causing it. If its your life, or something neurological. Then work on fixing it. Look, life isn't wine and roses all the time. We all feel bummed out from time to time, but don't ever giveup. Happier times will come, and yes they do go, but they will come again. If your clinically depressed then don't hesitate to go to a doctor. Things can change!

Read, watch and re-read The Secret and Psycho-Cybernetics. You attract what you think about. So.... if you're *thinking* that your life is in the pooper, guess what happens...

i don't hate my life...everyone thinks that his life is nothing and all others have a great life but there is nothing like that.There are problem in everybody's life and we need to face it...i always smile whenever i face any problem whatever it is

Your life right now is the sum of all your thoughts and actions up to this very moment.

This means that you can plant the seed of change right now and before you know it you'll be writing "I love my life" here on the forum.

How can you very quickly do it?

Stand straight, chin up, force a smile on your face, put on some great music you love and maybe dance a bit. Think of some funny and happy memories. Smile, even lough out loud...

Do this for 5 - 10 minutes and I guarantee that you'll be in a wonderful mood for the rest of the day.

You see, body and mind are very much connected and you know that when you're feeling bad, you're slouching and you're not laughing etc... Well, it goes both ways... If you stand up straight and assume the posture of a happy girl, you'll very soon (within minutes) begin to be one

And when you're in a good mood, you can begin planting bigger seeds of happines for your future!

Hope you try this out and see how well it helps.

My life is sinking. Trying hard to step out and distract myself.
That's why I'm here.

Some of them here are really friendly and helpful. Cheers all !

It's your life.

No, Never. According to my beliefs that I got from my religion, I always believe that it is pretty hard to get a life and no matter what happens I should disappoint about it. I am always trying to see the half of the glass of water that is fulled. Believe everything happens for the best and for some reason. then you will never get dissatisfied with yourself. Then it is easy to live

Are you married?

My life has had a lot of dark periods. Things have been bleak at times. Health problems, unemployment, loneliness, other sucky things - I've experienced them all. But the funny thing is when I have eventually emerged from the other side things have been so much more incredible than I have ever dreamed of, it's amazing.

I was inspired, as no doubt many Warriors were after reading this thread... Where did the OP go?

Oooo yes... I hate my life once in a while.. But then I just think about all the things I still want to achieve and I don't hate my life anymore. Instead, I feel blessed.

Dude, no matter how bad life is, it can get worse.

The bright side: it can also get better. How much better? That's for you to decide!

When I was growing up I had bad haircuts, was only fed ramen noodles, so i was skinny but fat still, had horrible gaping acne, had abusive parents physically and mentally, and barely passed my classes. I also had to deal with severe social anxiety, which after tons of work I finally got over!

Now, I'm a recovering kleptomaniac(AKA THIEF), have to deal with court, fines, possible jail, and jobs doing background checks. I also owe over 7k, have no phone, and the love of my life is many hours away and I can't even call her or see her.

I work literally all day, and study as much as possible. In what time I have, I do I.M. and play a bit of instruments for fun.

No matter how bad it is, it can get better. Believe. Try. Give yourself a chance!

Figure out why your life sucks, then figure out how to fix it... Keep us updated. I want to hear that you're doing better soon!

I hate my life, because I hate what I do. I hate what I do, because I constantly struggle to do the right thing. Why can't I do the right thing?


I've got no idea, just excuses.

There is no right thing. Right and wrong, are mental concepts. The universe does not know right or wrong, everything simply is. Whatever meaning you attach to things is your own.

You cannot do the right thing because you think everything you do is the wrong thing. That is all.

I am broken. I broke myself. Can I have a replacement please? Or maybe some duct tape...

For my mouth?

Try changing your profile name: acrasial means: ill tempered or ill mannered. (which you already know I'm sure) Then change "black hole" from your profile.

My guess is 6 months from now you'll be in the same spot you are now......unless you change your stinking thinking. You can't control everything that happens in life and when that happens it's your choice of what you do. Some people overcome "crap" in life and some people dwell on it, have a pitty party and never get out of it.

You probably get good advice but never follow it. I know, I have a daughter that sounds just like you. She's good for a day or two then it's back into bad choices which some people would call bad luck.

So either embrace the black hole (which you have been & look where it's gotten you) or do something about it. Only you can.

As people suggested, get out there and find a meaning to your life.

Sorry to hear that

I actually haven't had those moments since I was a teenager and living at home. Once I became an adult and could make all my decisions by myself I've only ever had an awesome time.

Hope you're feeling better now

Hi there

I understand where you're coming from as i used to feel the same alot of the time. Then I read a book by Susan Jeffers called "End the struggle and dance with life" subtitled "How to build Yourself up when the world gets you down"

It is a great book - in fact it turned my life around by changing the way I was thinking. My actual life didn't change much to start with but my way of looking at it did and it took time but now I'm in the happiest place in my life that I've ever been and still working to improve things for my family and me.

You can get it quite cheap from amazon - it's much better than feel the fear and do it anyway. It is very uplifting. Maybe you could try reading that one!

Hope whatever you do that you're feeling a lot better soon.

Im sorry about how sad your feeling, but I guess everyone feels that way at some point in time.I guess the key to conquering this is to force your way out of feeling like this, surround yourself by ppl that you love, do things that you enjoy and make you feel happy, maybe even do something for someone else whose in need that will always gives u a sense of satisfaction. Have control over your mind and your feelings dont let them have control you.

A woman staggered out of the ICU with the help of her husband. She held tightly the last letter written by her son saying " Mommy, don't feel sad, I will wait for you till the day we meet in Heaven..." This is a true incident, do you think he hated his life? NO. He has learned to focus on what he can do while he can still breath. Try to focus on others rather than yourself. Change the things that you can change and accept the things that you can"t change. Try to put that in your prayer and see youself a happier person. Cheers

Not good to have moments like that... You should think about changing something. Maybe a drastic change would help or maybe a minor change. Either way you should never feel like you hate your life.

Be positive! Power of The P!!!

I find a sack of jellybeans and Diet Coke to be a good remedy for the blues. That or any movie with Jimmy Stewart.

Yep I do... and I understand where you are coming from.

Thanks for the post.

Sincerely

OK. Are you able to do this? Help somebody in however minor a way. And can you kindly come back and say, how it went? Thanks

I was always depressed and bothered my entire life stemming from quite the intense childhood. At a certain point I literally lost all will to live but realized I had no choice but to live. So my only choice was to keep living the way I was or change.
I won't go into all the detail about myself but the change started really taking hold when I truly saw I was the one holding onto the past and projecting it into my present. I saw how it took me from my true heart and forced me into my mind where all the pain and torment was kept and thus it transformed me into a product of environment rather than a person. I lost who I was.
What really put my changing into motion was an ignorant belief that ONE day, whenever it was going to be, everything would be ok. I use the term ignorant belief because I chose to believe it no matter what might happen to me or what my negative thoughts would say. Now that depressive beast is laid to rest, has been for a number of years even though my diagnosed depression was "uncurable", and all sparked from the little belief that one day I'll be ok. Now my eyes are wide open and everything looks so much different.
You, the world, life, everything is only what you believe it to be.

And a nice spread of sushi with a good movie always helps too.

Listen to Dropkick Murphys - "Sunshine Highway"

It's like Celtic Punk, but kinda upbeat. Idk, it's a good song for me when I'm a bit down. Otherwise, I'd say find some good music you enjoy that reminds you of good times and turn up the volume!

Er, didn't you get lots of support and god advice the last time you posted this thread??? :confused:

Reality is a crutch for people who can't handle drugs.

Oh and..

If you are going through Hell, keep going!
--Winston Churchhill

I found something which helped gradually to allow me to pull myself out of the mire. Whether it is the placebo effect or if it's real, I don't know, but either way you're gonna feel stupid doing it. It's working for me so maybe other folks will get something out of it -


Peace out.

Hi Acrasial, hope you are feeling better now. I reckon all of us have very negative (hatred, anger) feelings once in a while; as you may have seen in your thread, many people answered saying "yeah I've been there before", "I used to as well", etc. Me too and I would dare to say everyone else around. The key thing here is getting better and better acquainted with your attitude towards life. Attitude is crucial. Attitude can really make or break a life. The moment a person recognises that making her attitude more and more positive and self-accepting towards herself and others, actually improves the quality of what she does and ultimately her overall life experience, she will start leaving those disturbing thoughts/feelings for good.

There's a caveat here: if the origin of this state of mind is clinic depression, the best thing to do is see a specialist.

There's a post in another thread by a fellow warrior, Kneb Knebaih, that I found quite informative. This is the thread; his post is near the bottom of the first page:

http://www.warriorforum.com/mind-war...technique.html

Hope this is useful.

Before I hate my life because I feel not productive and useless but I am now a change person coz I am slowly gaining back my confidence again and my trust to myself

acrasial, believe in yourself.

The wise man said just walk this way
To the dawn of the light
The wind will blow into your face
As the years pass you by
Hear this voice from deep inside
It's the call of your heart
Close your eyes and your will find
The passage out of the dark

Here I am
Will you send me an angel
Here I am
In the land of the morning star

The wise man said just find your place
In the eye of the storm
Seek the roses along the way
Just beware of the thorns

Here I am
Will you send me an angel
Here I am
In the land of the morning star

Find ONE small thing you can change for the better. Start by doing that.

Is this a call for help?

I guess you have your reasons for hating life. Without a doubt, there is plenty of suffering in the world.

Maybe, you could tell us a little bit more about what is going on or not going on

Hanging with Buddha has taught me that most people are unhappy because they are deluded and a slave to their desires.

Make a Grey sky Blue!

I used to hate my life. I literally hated everything about it except for my wife. So I started a multi-year process to change all the things that I hated, and I am 90% there.

The wife is even happier with the new me and the new life than she was before.

Think of 3 things in your life you are most grateful for, big or small.
Do this every day for a month and you'll notice you don't hate your life so much anymore.

If you hate what you do because you can't make the right choices, then ask yourself what you want your outcome to be. What do those choices lead you to? What do you want to do? Use your own thoughts and decide upon how you think you should lead your life. Incorporate what you know you need to be like in business and personally and live by your own rules. Who says what you are doing isn't right? You or them? Who are they? Why do you go by what they say?

Practice your virtues daily and work at them until you integrate them with your daily actions. Hope that helps. You can read more about this by reading the Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin online at Project Gutemburg. Good luck!

NO you should not hate it, bcs u will fail even more.

Love your life first, and the life will love you back!

acrasial,

Notice how just about every post in this thread is trying to help you by offering solutions? That's not what you need is it? You need folks to listen to you talking about what's happening in your life and you need someone to understand how you are feeling and why. Empathy before solution.

Judging from the responses you've had on this thread and others, I'm sure most of us would love to sit down with you over a cup of coffee or a hot chocolate and just listen to what's going on. But, most of us can't.

Back to the solutions lol - Do you have anyone you can talk to about this problem? A friend, family member who will REALLY listen and not judge you or any past choices you may have made? If not, I'd suggest you write it all down - everything. The act of writing it down can help distance yourself from the feelings associated with the problem. As you read what you have written you can start to see it through the eyes of an understanding third party and get an external perspective on just what is holding you back.

Once you've identified the core of the issue, then you can start looking at solutions.

Good luck acrasial, I hope you don't let this problem define your personality. That would be a shame.

Cheers

Craig

Hate is such a powerful, destroying word. I cringe when I see or hear it.

I don't know your story, so I can't comment directly on it, however I do know that we all have a choice.

My choice, if I were in your situation (and have been), would have been to post something like this:

"Hi everyone, I really would appreciate your help and guidance as my mind is not in a good place. I am not enjoying where I work which is impacting my internet business, my personal life and I suppose my health". (You could have filled in some more details there).

"I know there is light out there, can you please help me to find it."

Just by writing something like this, you are acknowledging the root causes of your "hate".

Personally, I have found just writing out these things help pick me up.

In my world, everything I get from life is a result of choice - my choice!

Yeah hey you are in the first step of victory believe that one fine morning you will become what u think u.

Hi Acrasial

Life is fair to everyone, everyone will have some moments that make us hate our life. It is just a matter of timing. I believe you have perfect moments that you absolute love your life too. There are so many wrong things, but so as right. It's about what you focus on and how you interpret the situation.

Hope you'll get out of this painful status.

Regards
Kin Lau

Hi Acrasial, I can imagine how you feel, although I do not know how exactly you feel and why. However, keep your chin up and look at things more positively.

Why do you hate your life?

Could it be that you do not like what it is and would like it to be better?

If so, then ask, why do you want it to be better?

Maybe, so that you can feel good about yourself and be able to have what you want?

Why do you have to feel good about yourself and have what you want?

Probably, be happy and be able to be self sufficient and independent?

Why is it important to be self sufficient and independent?

Could it be To make your parents/children/significant other/community be proud of you?

Why, why why ...................... Keep going till you get to the core reason why it is important to not to hate your life.

You probably don't hate your life anymore and I hope that is the case and if not, focus on changing that, because life is good and it is what you make it.

You have received great responses from people who have all weathered ups and downs. This is a quote that I respect because it is all about staying in the game.

"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or whether the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at best, knows in the end the triumph of great achievement; and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat." Theodore Roosevelt

I hope this can help you.

Gail

I know exactly how you feel, I been there so many times and had so many people tell me it will pass, but that is absolute rubbish, I mean it may pass temporarily but until you determine exactly what is you want, and then find the exact process to go through to get the results you want from life, from business then you will stay in that same stupid cycle, get out of the cycle once and for all, take action.
'Money in Misery' is my new product designed for people such as yourself, designed specifically to break the cycle of misery with the practical process to do so.
Look out for it over the next couple of weeks.

I hope your situation has been getting better.

im having one of those moments right now!

Quite the long thread. It says some things about human nature, doesn't it?

Not anymore, after studying psychology of inner game, I killed depressions and whiney thinking and replaced them with positive attitude.

Strong powerful words. you probably don't realise this but you have just described youself on 3 levels.

Hate: A real dislike... You can change what you dislike, you just need to be shown how.

My: belonging to, associated with... What you have no one can take away or add to. Only you and you alone can Imrove, self build, self inspire and create. It's a skill and you just need to be shown how.

Life: Thats self explanatory... The hardest thing any human being will come across, is to create a suitable comfortable so called life or lifestyle. So much of what we want and achieve in life is purely dependant on our mind-set.

This kind of skill set should be taught in schools. Allowing everyone to have a positive start in life.

Hang in there, and take slow and steady steps out. I'm sure you've got lots of people on this forum feeling for you, many people have had some pretty bad stuff to get through; we do understand.

Have a look at this site EFTUniverse.com. EFT (emotional freedom technique) is the best ''self help'' thing I've come across that actually works. It's completely free (they are a non-profit organisation).

Hey, please don't beat yourself up. these days pass on believe me I think we all have days like what your having now. I personally find that exercise really helps me out when I'm a little down beat, I like to go for a run (okay maybe a jog) and when I get back and have a shower I feel ten times better than I did before.

It does work believe me, so go get your runners on and have a run round your local park or even round the block and you'll feel like a new person.

It did me good to read this thread - thanks to all of you.

Anyone who is not cold at some time gets a moment like that - but hopefully we left it behind along time ago.

Sedona method is a great course, i highly recommend it.

"Hate" I took that word out of my vocabulary quite some time ago. "What you love will grow in your life, but what you hate will also." Each day is a new day to be enjoyed and fulfilled with life. We have too much "hate" in our world now and it has shown us the product of our own thoughts. Smile more because I believe you have a beautiful smile

Cheers
Victoria

Well, Everbody has problems

It should take a lot for you to say you hate your life.

Are you homeless, digging in the dumpsters to eat, No water to shower, No electric.

There are so many people in this world that would love to have the life you have.

Your life might not be perfect, but lets be honest whose is.

All ways remember there is some one worse off then you.

Life is special and you should never say you hate it, those words may come back and haunt you one day.

If you hate your life so much then change it. You are the only one in control of your life.

There are certainly other people who feel worst than you. So you should be grateful

Happiness is a Choice

As my father would say to me, "What can you learn from this?"

There is always a lesson to be learned, and ALWAYS something to be grateful for; no matter how bad a situation seems to be.

not you only but everyone gets those moments some times... but what is different between loser and successful is the one who can overcome it !

don't be retarded, just think of what things made you get that feeling and start fixing!

Yeah I've felt this feelings for so many times. And that's when I encounter big problems in my life. As I remember, there is a moment when I'm handling my fathers gun and wants to pull the trigger in my head. But thankfully, I didn't do it. And now I can say I'm a strong person and whatever problems will come to my life I know I can surpass it.

Just watch Mr.Bean or something like that and you'll be fine.

May I ask why do you feel this way.. The LORD is waiting to here from you..

I believe life is a movie and you are the main character, writer, director, and editor. You and only you control the outcome of your future. The past will never change and emotions will always be part of your life. Courage, faith and determination is the key for living.

If you are truly feeling that way, then this is a pivotal moment in your life. A rare opportunity. It is when you are at rock bottom emotionally that many people have become so sick of the way things are, that they have found the motivation to change their lives.

No other person, no book, nothing outside of yourself can change you. You have the power to change yourself. Use the anger, hatred, boredom, loathing, or whatever to motivate yourself toward where you want to go, instead of ruminating and navel gazing your life away.

If many others can do it, then you can to. Believe in yourself and take action.

Life is what you make,hope things get better soon!

Figure out what you really hate about your life and take massive action to fix it.

That's just my 2 cents...

hope this helps!

It's completely normal to hate your life... but all the time? really? Fix it! You can do it buddy!

PMA= Positive Mental Attitude is needed to go trough tuff times gl

Think of the happy moments in your life, that should inspire you to get going.

Truly, I do hope you are feeling better. The outpouring of support and empathy on this forum is outstanding with so many exceptional points of view and words of encouragement. Depression is a serious condition. If you are still feeling this way, you may be suffering from an inbalance of levels, and perhaps a supplement may be in order. Vitamin B is good to help with your mental well being, but it may not be enough. Being out in the sun is very important, and it can help if your levels are off. Reaching out for help is a positive step, but it is truly up to you as to what your next move is going to be on your road to feeling better. Counseling, vitamins, nutrition, making a positive change in your life? One thing is for certain, you do need to make some changes in your life to improve your outcome. Life is a gift. Hope you feel better soon.

A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.
-Charles Darwin

Any idiot can face a crisis - it's day to day living that wears you out.
-Anton Chekhov

A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.
-Charles Darwin

Any idiot can face a crisis - it's day to day living that wears you out.
-Anton Chekhov

Hope It Helps.

Chill out and get a drink

You are not the owner of your life. How can you hate it?! Surrender your life to Jesus and you will have a happy life.

I've been horribly depressed at times and just saying "Look how bad others have it...doesn't that make YOU feel better?" does NOT help.

It should work in theory, but it doesn't work in practice. Do not negate the suffering this girl is going through. It implies that she has no reason to complain about anything. Even the world's richest man has pain and suffering.

Your success is your success. Your pain is your pain. The fact that others are suffering worse doesn't make you suffer less. Frankly, thinking about that is more depressing, as is beating yourself up thinking about how you have no right to complain. Maybe you do, maybe you don't--who cares about what you "should" be thinking or feeling? You feel like you feel. It is what it is.

Hello acrasial,

When I find something I do not like, or "hate", in my life, I tend to focus on what I like or how I would like it to be instead. It helps me shift my emotional focus.

Regards,
Aubrey

Life goes in cycles. Just live or, if it's so bad, die with them. Your thoughts and responses are a choice ... yours.

And consider - the worse the low maybe the better the high?

somewhere over the rainbow skies are blue, dont give up hang in there and you will be fine

Hey Acrasial.

Whenever I feel that way, I'm always reminded of this dude:

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What more can I say...

Find yourself a hobby. Something that will give you purpose in life. It doesn't have to be Internet Marketing. It could be anything that you would love to do, probably did at one point and then drifted away from your passion...

You have something special that no other has here or in the world...

You!

Yes, you have You You are Genuine and Unique, and nobody can take that away from You...Only You can decide to be happy. Perhaps you are expecting too much out of life...

Choose the Happy Path...

You deserve it! Life is beautiful and so are You...

Bernard

Find yourself a hobby. Something that will give you purpose in life. It doesn't have to be Internet Marketing. It could be anything that you would love to do, probably did at one point and then drifted away from your passion...

You have something special that no other has here or in the world...

You!

Yes, you have You You are Genuine and Unique, and nobody can take that away from You...Only You can decide to be happy. Perhaps you are expecting too much out of life...

Choose the Happy Path...

You deserve it! Life is beautiful and so are You...

Bernard

Second what someone said above - Tony Robbins. His attitude is infectious!

You really wanna pull your head out of your ass? Listen to Tony Robbins every single day of your life. Listen to what it takes to overcome overbearing odds, what it takes to really *really* be successful...

and hey, if you're not up for that or you don't believe in yourself enough to do that, then go get a JOB and join the Rat Race like the rest of 'em.

Life is good, if you have an ordinary mind .

I guess we all go through these times. Theres how you want things to be and how things are, or have been, and the gap between them is your depression. I've always pulled my self out of it by accepting the present circumstances and then using meditation and visualisation to draw the situation I want to me. Just look at John Assaraf's stuff or Wayne Dyer's book 'Getting in the Gap'.

I've pulled myself from the verge of bankruptcy to creating my first info product which will be released as a WSO is a couple of weeks, and attracted a brilliant coach, using these techniques.

Just hope that this inspires you a little.

xxxxcarlxxxx

I have definitely been in that place many times in my life. The only thing that ever got me out? It wasn't taking other people's advice. It wasn't reading books on the topic. It wasn't positive thinking. It was trying ALL of the above and testing them out for myself to see what works for ME. Radical self-experimentation. It's actually fun and I recommend you try it out for yourself too. I wish you the best.

PS: What worked for me was Sedona Method and EFT (tapping).

I assure you that if you decide to make things better, they will get better. You need to think about what you want, not what you have. This will certainly bring about your desires. It has for me, and countless others. By being absolutely determined, things will come to you. I guarantee it. Good or bad. Think about,t and desire the good!

life is how you look at it. Adversities can be turned in to opportunities. All time tested great men had to go through struggles and tough times. But negation is not the solution. Be positive, see they are so many things waiting for you....open the door and warmly welcome them to embrace you.......

like 'shaggy' said, ...remember that someone has it worse than you...you just need a glimpse at what is happening at the horn of Africa, and you'll probably love your life very much...

Life is what you make it, you decide how you should feel

I mean you make the choice, not to let anything dictate the state of your happiness. So just make yourself happy anyway. Feelings are so overrated.