This Is What You Shouldn't Be Doing!

Hope your day is off to a prosperous start my friend! I'm going to stay in this vein of leadership for a while because my goal is to help develop leaders.......Those who will strive; like I, to make a difference in the lives of others.

Why?

Because leadership is just as much related to the relationships you've created than it is to the position that you're in. Any person who takes relationships in business seriously will never find themselves without company. The time spent in building relationships creates friendships with others.

Individuals who value their position more than they do relationships will find themselves very lonely. Every time they use their title to "persuade" their people to do something, they create distance between themselves and others. What they're really saying is that "I'm king of the hill and you're not, so do what I say." That makes people feel inferior, it drives them away and drives a wedge between them and the leader. Good leaders don't belittle people.......they enlarge them!

If you have the desire to have success as a leader, don't rely on your title to try to convince people to follow you. Build relationships. Win people over. Do that and you'll never be a lonely leader.

Success can be dangerous.....and so can failure. Anytime you think of yourself as a "success", you'll start to separate yourself from others you view as less successful. You start to think, "I don't need them", and you start withdrawing yourself. Ironically, failure also leads to withdrawal, but for other reasons. If you think of yourself as a "failure", you avoid others, thinking "I don't want to see them." Both extremes in thinking can create an unhealthy separation from others.

The best leaders know that leading people requires loving them!

I've never met a good leader who didn't care about people. Ineffective leaders have the wrong attitude. Good leaders understand that people do not care how much you know until they know how much you care. You must like people or you'll never add value to them. And if you become "all mighty" to people, you may be only a few steps away from manipulating them. No leader should ever do that.

I've mentioned before that nothing that we do of real value is never done alone. Honestly, if you have the ability to fulfill a vision you have for your life and work alone, then you're aiming too low. In my organization, I don't have employees, I have team-mates. People who work with me. We are working together to fulfill a vision. Without them, I cannot succeed. Without me, they cannot succeed. We're a team. We reach our goals together. We need each other. If we didn't, then one of us is in the wrong place!