Change Your Words - Change Your World

I've been learning this past year about the power of visualization in addition to changing my language. So for example, in the above situation, it would be wise to add the element of visualizing happily doing the hill workout with ease and deep satisfaction.

Visualizing is such a powerful, yet simple, use of our imagination. Unfortunately, I myself use my imagination to imagine how tedious that hill climb would be, instead of choosing to imagine doing it with ease!

Too bad we're not taught these techniques in school!

It is sad that many use these technique as a way to manipulate people. And it is so easy to do so as well. Just learning the Sleight of Mouth by Robert Dilts can be used for the negative and my trainer recently said that he hopes that the people in his class know what is out there and choose not to use it as a way to manipulate but to empower others.

I just have fun with it. I use it to empower people and myself. I use many of the NLP techniques/strategies for empowerment. Yes, at times I will purposely "mismatch" and break rapport with someone just to see the response they give me (knowing that no harm will be done) and that is the fun part. To see how different people respond in different ways.

And you are right, people have self talk and many of those self talk, either verbally or internally, are dangerous. And one of the way to fight it is to do the self talk in a positive way (but that is a subject on its own).

Amen to that! In our NLP Training class, my trainer gave "tasks" for people to do throughout the next couple months (similar to what Milton Erickson used to do). These tasks would be something the person has not done before and may be a bit uncomfortable (and not in conflict with one values)...

So one of my colleagues were given a task of "accepting compliments whole heartedly", something that was difficult for them (two of them).

I think back to the days when I used to shun compliments and hide away from it. Used to think it made me "humble" but rather it really made me more egotistic and worst, it makes the other person feels like they "owe" you forever.

So I made the decision to listen and accept the compliment. I would internalize it and say thank you and I appreciate you complimenting my actions.

Made a world of a difference for me and made others feel good as well.

(One can play with the same concept when it comes to gifts).

Thanks Andrew for the comment!

Awesome example of how words can shift one's focus and seeing it as an accomplishment and now a "must get done" list.

One should know one own strength and know which words motivates them. Of course, words are just words, but they have meaning to each person.

Take a person and tell them "You have to do this" and some may jump and say "I don't have to do anything". The word "have to" stirs something within them.

(Few nights ago, to show how each words represent something to a person, I told a friend when I say the word "RIVER" what comes to mind. He said that "he feels the river, he knows what it is, but he does not see it or hear it". As oppose to me when I say "river" I think of a river, I see it, hear it and even add some scenery around it. Point is, every word has a different experience to different people).

What I have started to do in make the "list" and showing how they relate to my ultimate goal...meaning how they play a part of the goal, like teammates. Pretty cool.

Thanks for sharing your example and I will be up in the mountains for camping soon enough!

Yes, indeed a great video and thank you for reading my story.

Absolutely fundamental and so often underestimated. Power of language, how you communicate and also direct and use your inner dialogues as allies.

During my time as assistant trainer of Richard Bandler during his trainer trainings we loved to combine NLP patterns with D.H.E. (Design Human Engeneering)enhancement to speed up positive change even more.

Remember the huge impact presuppositions can have on your life. Take an assumption as a given and direct your experience and thoughts in the way you want them to.

By the way:

Did you guys know that your communication skills improve with each and every post you read in this thread?

Recently started a free video series on power talk at youtube - maybe this also adds value to you guys!

take care

David John and many thanks for sharing

Fantastic example Vic of what is called "Positive Parenting".

It is giving a child choices of what to do and within your frame.

Children, no matter how old they are, just don't like to be told what to do, especially from their parents.

I, till today, everytime Mom tells me to put on a coat, I get this feeling of "rebellion" and do not put on a coat, unless of course I want to.

The way you are doing it, you are giving choices that are within your frame which is allowing them to feel they are in control.

John Grinder, co-founder of NLP said, "One choice is no choice, two choices is a dilemma, and three (or more) choices is choice."

And in addition to providing choices, you are presupposing that they will eat...or do whatever it is they should be doing.

Instead of saying "How come you never help me?!?!?", one can say "when are you available to help out?"

Call it whatever you want. Presupposition. Reframing. Choices.

It works.

Hey Seth (it is Seth ya?).

Is me saying a "mouthful there" a good thing or a bad thing? Hehe.

Amen to what you said!

Our words are the seeds to the experience one may be experiencing.

In hypnosis and truth be told any coach who is good, will start "seeding" the suggestion of change way before the actual "session". Or to put it this way, the session begins with the rapport building because you are seeding the suggestions throughout the time you spend together.

Hey.

Can you explain what you mean by concrete words v. verbiage speech?

And yes, the words you use can definitely allow the identity to shine through (though I would check in and see if the person is meaning the same thing I think they mean).

... as do the words your write ...