Change Your Words - Change Your World

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In NLP, we are aware of the language patterns within ourselves and others. By being aware of the patterns, one can shift a state by just adding a word or removing a word or two (this is just one area of language patterns and NLP).

The simplest example is "I don't speak Spanish - YET". By adding yet, it may mean that I may take on the challenge of learning the language and speaking it.

Jack Canfield talks about when one says "I can't" they should consider saying "I won't". Is it that you truly can't or that you decided not to do so?

(Another thing I sometime do in order not to get "framed" by someone else...when they say "You are so selfish?" I, may at times, answer "Thank you for telling me that I care about myself." It is a form of reframing. Throughout the day people try to "frame" us into their world, into their way of thinking. At times that is a good thing and at times, we know we don't want to be in their "frame" but they got us with their language. A good read on this would be Robert Dilts' Sleight Of Mouth).

Anyway, just saw this video that was moving and shows how a few words can truly change a world:


P.S. Great copywriting lesson too!

P.P.S. When you have a few moments, I would appreciate you reading my story and how I am creating it:

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  • Profile picture of the author Roy Naim
    One more thing I would like to add here about "language patterns".

    A bit ago I read an article about a runner who was having a hard time doing "hill workout" which is admittedly brutal, painful, and may not be so much fun (but it helps one get faster and burns more calories as a nice reward as well).

    She kept telling herself that "I have to do hills today" and she was unmotivated to do so.

    This went on for weeks.

    Until she came to a realization (I believe after meeting someone who truly couldn't do any hill workout), that she doesn't have to but she gets to do hills today.

    Ever since then she embrace the hills and realize it is an opportunity.

    We all have language that fits us more than others. For some, it is a "MUST" that motivates them. For others it can be a "GET" to. Maybe a "HAVE" to. Or perhaps "NEED" to works for you.

    Of course there are many more words.

    So what fits for you? What words gets you to do things?

    (Of course words are just words. It is the meaning and representation of the words that influences people).
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    • Profile picture of the author cynthea
      Originally Posted by roynaim View Post

      One more thing I would like to add here about "language patterns".

      A bit ago I read an article about a runner who was having a hard time doing "hill workout" which is admittedly brutal, painful, and may not be so much fun (but it helps one get faster and burns more calories as a nice reward as well).

      She kept telling herself that "I have to do hills today" and she was unmotivated to do so.

      This went on for weeks.

      Until she came to a realization (I believe after meeting someone who truly couldn't do any hill workout), that she doesn't have to but she gets to do hills today.

      Ever since then she embrace the hills and realize it is an opportunity.
      I've been learning this past year about the power of visualization in addition to changing my language. So for example, in the above situation, it would be wise to add the element of visualizing happily doing the hill workout with ease and deep satisfaction.

      Visualizing is such a powerful, yet simple, use of our imagination. Unfortunately, I myself use my imagination to imagine how tedious that hill climb would be, instead of choosing to imagine doing it with ease!

      Too bad we're not taught these techniques in school!
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      • Profile picture of the author Roy Naim
        Originally Posted by Vic Carrara View Post

        Well I've done a few ...

        Practitioner with McKenna Breen (doesn't exist now), with Richard, Paul McKenna and Michael Breen. Great to "feel" those three, but with 200+ other people in the hall ... so,

        Practitioner with Tina Taylor and Nick Kemp ...about 10 people!

        Master Prac with Tina and Nick ...

        Then various other short courses inclusing a great one on Hypnotism and a Native American Spirit Quest (?) with Doug O'Brien.

        Nick and Tina then asked me to assist at their trainings, which was a great experience.

        Plus Frank Farrelly Provocative Therapy course which really appeals!

        Body-Mind Therapeutic Massage; Paganism; Buddhism; ... generally I'm fascinated about how we choose to use our minds ... an on-going journey!
        Holy Dragons Vic!!! You've definitely been around!!! I would LOVE to learn from you and hear about your experience in this.

        Are you on Facebook? If not, is email better?

        Please do connect naimroy at gmail.com.

        I have just started this journey back in November and ever since, I have been at it getting results for me and others. Some failures which are really feedbacks and some great results.

        Tonight I am going for my first "smoker".

        I would love to hear from Bandler and Paul Mckenna and connect with them. I do understand though that the training they give are a bit impersonal because of the crowd which is why I took on a smaller class first before traveling to others.

        I am currently studying with Steve Leeds and Rachel Hott of The NLP Center of NY. Smaller class (15 people) and we do it once a week which allows plenty of time for practicing (as oppose to the "typical" intensive 12-15 days).

        They are great teachers and they studied by many and primarily by Andreas and Gilligan.

        Provocative Therapy does interest me a lot and I plan on learning about it.

        If there's one person I would love to learn directly from, it would be Andy Austin, author of The Rainbow Machine. That guy is a riot!

        Gutsy and willing to do what it takes to get results for a client (and also tells us when he doesn't get results).

        One thing he told me (in an email) is "To Live" and not get caught up in the "how to" of personal development. Yes, study a lot but just practice more and have fun living it.

        Oh and he told me to wear expensive shoes....not sure why.



        Originally Posted by cynthea View Post

        I've been learning this past year about the power of visualization in addition to changing my language. So for example, in the above situation, it would be wise to add the element of visualizing happily doing the hill workout with ease and deep satisfaction.

        Visualizing is such a powerful, yet simple, use of our imagination. Unfortunately, I myself use my imagination to imagine how tedious that hill climb would be, instead of choosing to imagine doing it with ease!

        Too bad we're not taught these techniques in school!
        That is awesome! Together they can do MEGA!

        I think what cool about visualization is not just seeing it but seeing the steps needed to get to that point. Like creating a photo album.

        Otherwise, just visualization can create an empty feeling and not prepare us for the road ahead.

        And imagine if they actually did teach this eh? Soon enough.
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        • Profile picture of the author Vic Carrara
          Originally Posted by roynaim View Post

          Holy Dragons Vic!!! You've definitely been around!!! I would LOVE to learn from you and hear about your experience in this.

          Are you on Facebook? If not, is email better?

          Please do connect naimroy at gmail.com.

          I have just started this journey back in November and ever since, I have been at it getting results for me and others. Some failures which are really feedbacks and some great results.

          Tonight I am going for my first "smoker".

          I would love to hear from Bandler and Paul Mckenna and connect with them. I do understand though that the training they give are a bit impersonal because of the crowd which is why I took on a smaller class first before traveling to others.

          I am currently studying with Steve Leeds and Rachel Hott of The NLP Center of NY. Smaller class (15 people) and we do it once a week which allows plenty of time for practicing (as oppose to the "typical" intensive 12-15 days).

          They are great teachers and they studied by many and primarily by Andreas and Gilligan.

          Provocative Therapy does interest me a lot and I plan on learning about it.

          If there's one person I would love to learn directly from, it would be Andy Austin, author of The Rainbow Machine. That guy is a riot!

          Gutsy and willing to do what it takes to get results for a client (and also tells us when he doesn't get results).

          One thing he told me (in an email) is "To Live" and not get caught up in the "how to" of personal development. Yes, study a lot but just practice more and have fun living it.

          Oh and he told me to wear expensive shoes....not sure why.
          The best advice I can offer, is to experience NLP, and don't get anal on the techniques and words. Some "stuff" you'll pick up easily, other "stuff" will need time and new experiences to bed in - and have fun and enjoy.

          NY? Check out Doug O'Brien. I beleive he's based there.

          For my-self , NLP is part of my learning, combining with other learnings to create something unique to me - same for everyone. Your NLP will be unique to you.

          Facebook - Must get that sorted. Opened an account awhile back but haven't got round to setting it up - now on my urgent list.

          I'll email you so we can continue our exchange.

          Andy Austin! Yep, that's a great book. Met him a couple of times as he's a friend of Nick Kemp in Leeds.

          Trainings ... Richard does do small groups now and then, you need to keep a look out on purenlp.com.

          Expensive shoes ... definitely, with subtle soles.
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          • Profile picture of the author Roy Naim
            Originally Posted by Vic Carrara View Post

            The best advice I can offer, is to experience NLP, and don't get anal on the techniques and words. Some "stuff" you'll pick up easily, other "stuff" will need time and new experiences to bed in - and have fun and enjoy.

            NY? Check out Doug O'Brien. I beleive he's based there.

            For my-self , NLP is part of my learning, combining with other learnings to create something unique to me - same for everyone. Your NLP will be unique to you.

            Facebook - Must get that sorted. Opened an account awhile back but haven't got round to setting it up - now on my urgent list.

            I'll email you so we can continue our exchange.

            Andy Austin! Yep, that's a great book. Met him a couple of times as he's a friend of Nick Kemp in Leeds.

            Trainings ... Richard does do small groups now and then, you need to keep a look out on purenlp.com.

            Expensive shoes ... definitely, with subtle soles.
            Awesome advice Vic and thank you for sharing.

            Just experience it, see what works, what strength one develops and play on that.

            DONE. Just emailed Doug today (after you said he is in NY and I looked his site up). I saw his name popping up when researching Sleight Of Mouth and now, hopefully I can develop a relationship with him.

            Yes, NLP is open source and people add and minus what seems to work for them. Just last night and so far successfully, I helped guide a teenager to "rid" the habit of smoking.

            This morning I was told she is disgusted with smoking...

            I did a few anchoring, swish, and hypnosis toward the end after developing deep rapport with her....Bandler said if he can make someone laugh, he can help them change and I believe that. So for 30-40 minutes, with her BF there, we laughed, told stories and had fun THEN for the next 30 minutes guide her through the techniques.

            I know it is an early victory, but I have a feeling it will be a lasting one.

            Let me know when your Facebook is up and running and I got your email! Will send back shortly.

            Thank you for all!
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  • Profile picture of the author Piero
    That is a powerful and well-crafted video! Thanks for posting.

    There are people that use linguistic "framing" intuitively and others that have learnt the skill....generally, and in inter-personal communication, this is used (abused?) to manipulate and dominate. It can be a bit like playing chess or fencing when you have to deal with these individuals...Can be tiring, or it can be fun! Especially if you can "turn the frame" on them! ;-)

    To me, the worst kind is when I hear people denigrating themselves. For some this has become a deeply ingrained and horribly destructive habit. When I hear someone saying "Oh, I am always so ...." or "I am such a blonde" (makes my hair stand on end, that one!), I want to shake them and tell 'em- "No! You are a liar. Stop bullying yourself!"

    Words and our choices in using them....VERY powerful stuff.

    Thanks for a thought-provoking post.

    Piero
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    • Profile picture of the author Roy Naim
      Originally Posted by Piero View Post

      That is a powerful and well-crafted video! Thanks for posting.

      There are people that use linguistic "framing" intuitively and others that have learnt the skill....generally, and in inter-personal communication, this is used (abused?) to manipulate and dominate. It can be a bit like playing chess or fencing when you have to deal with these individuals...Can be tiring, or it can be fun! Especially if you can "turn the frame" on them! ;-)

      To me, the worst kind is when I hear people denigrating themselves. For some this has become a deeply ingrained and horribly destructive habit. When I hear someone saying "Oh, I am always so ...." or "I am such a blonde" (makes my hair stand on end, that one!), I want to shake them and tell 'em- "No! You are a liar. Stop bullying yourself!"

      Words and our choices in using them....VERY powerful stuff.

      Thanks for a thought-provoking post.

      Piero
      It is sad that many use these technique as a way to manipulate people. And it is so easy to do so as well. Just learning the Sleight of Mouth by Robert Dilts can be used for the negative and my trainer recently said that he hopes that the people in his class know what is out there and choose not to use it as a way to manipulate but to empower others.

      I just have fun with it. I use it to empower people and myself. I use many of the NLP techniques/strategies for empowerment. Yes, at times I will purposely "mismatch" and break rapport with someone just to see the response they give me (knowing that no harm will be done) and that is the fun part. To see how different people respond in different ways.

      And you are right, people have self talk and many of those self talk, either verbally or internally, are dangerous. And one of the way to fight it is to do the self talk in a positive way (but that is a subject on its own).
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      • Profile picture of the author Andrew Skelly
        When ever someone would thank me for doing something, i used to say "no problem". Now i say; "My pleasure."

        This is just small thing but a powerful one when we change our words.
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  • Profile picture of the author AnneE
    A nice video. Thanks for reminding me to consider different phrasing.

    The other day I was contemplating my daily To-Do list and thinking about how some items always seemed to be stuck in the second half of the list and were never getting done, even though other items would get added to the list after them of equal importance and those would get done.

    I decided to stop thinking of the list as What I have to Get Done today and think of it as,

    What Would I Like Accomplished Today -- shift the focus to the end result instead of the doing. Because the doing made me think about whether an item would be difficult or unpleasant. The What Would I Like Accomplished.... makes me think of the joy I'll feel when the item is done. Better motivation.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kenwa87
    that was a lovely video and on a day I really needed to SEE it!! I will read your story! thank you!
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    • Profile picture of the author Roy Naim
      Originally Posted by Andrew Skelly View Post

      When ever someone would thank me for doing something, i used to say "no problem". Now i say; "My pleasure."

      This is just small thing but a powerful one when we change our words.
      Amen to that! In our NLP Training class, my trainer gave "tasks" for people to do throughout the next couple months (similar to what Milton Erickson used to do). These tasks would be something the person has not done before and may be a bit uncomfortable (and not in conflict with one values)...

      So one of my colleagues were given a task of "accepting compliments whole heartedly", something that was difficult for them (two of them).

      I think back to the days when I used to shun compliments and hide away from it. Used to think it made me "humble" but rather it really made me more egotistic and worst, it makes the other person feels like they "owe" you forever.

      So I made the decision to listen and accept the compliment. I would internalize it and say thank you and I appreciate you complimenting my actions.

      Made a world of a difference for me and made others feel good as well.

      (One can play with the same concept when it comes to gifts).

      Thanks Andrew for the comment!

      Originally Posted by AnneE View Post

      A nice video. Thanks for reminding me to consider different phrasing.

      The other day I was contemplating my daily To-Do list and thinking about how some items always seemed to be stuck in the second half of the list and were never getting done, even though other items would get added to the list after them of equal importance and those would get done.

      I decided to stop thinking of the list as What I have to Get Done today and think of it as,

      What Would I Like Accomplished Today -- shift the focus to the end result instead of the doing. Because the doing made me think about whether an item would be difficult or unpleasant. The What Would I Like Accomplished.... makes me think of the joy I'll feel when the item is done. Better motivation.
      Awesome example of how words can shift one's focus and seeing it as an accomplishment and now a "must get done" list.

      One should know one own strength and know which words motivates them. Of course, words are just words, but they have meaning to each person.

      Take a person and tell them "You have to do this" and some may jump and say "I don't have to do anything". The word "have to" stirs something within them.

      (Few nights ago, to show how each words represent something to a person, I told a friend when I say the word "RIVER" what comes to mind. He said that "he feels the river, he knows what it is, but he does not see it or hear it". As oppose to me when I say "river" I think of a river, I see it, hear it and even add some scenery around it. Point is, every word has a different experience to different people).

      What I have started to do in make the "list" and showing how they relate to my ultimate goal...meaning how they play a part of the goal, like teammates. Pretty cool.

      Thanks for sharing your example and I will be up in the mountains for camping soon enough!

      Originally Posted by Kenwa87 View Post

      that was a lovely video and on a day I really needed to SEE it!! I will read your story! thank you!
      Yes, indeed a great video and thank you for reading my story.
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      • Profile picture of the author Andrew Skelly
        Originally Posted by roynaim View Post

        Amen to that! In our NLP Training class, my trainer gave "tasks" for people to do throughout the next couple months (similar to what Milton Erickson used to do). These tasks would be something the person has not done before and may be a bit uncomfortable (and not in conflict with one values)...

        So one of my colleagues were given a task of "accepting compliments whole heartedly", something that was difficult for them (two of them).

        I think back to the days when I used to shun compliments and hide away from it. Used to think it made me "humble" but rather it really made me more egotistic and worst, it makes the other person feels like they "owe" you forever.

        So I made the decision to listen and accept the compliment. I would internalize it and say thank you and I appreciate you complimenting my actions.

        Made a world of a difference for me and made others feel good as well.

        (One can play with the same concept when it comes to gifts).

        Thanks Andrew for the comment!
        My pleasure!
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        • Profile picture of the author Roy Naim
          Originally Posted by kbayer63 View Post

          Totally awesome thread... the power of the word is exemplified in the book of John, emphasizing that the "word" is the seed of... well... everything.
          John 1

          The Word Became Flesh

          1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. 2 He was with God in the beginning. 3 Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. 4 In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. 5 The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome[a] it.
          Fantastic. Thanks for sharing.

          In the Talmud (Jewish Studies), it says that "with 10 'saying' G-d created the world".

          If you go through the beginning of Genesis, you will find that throughout the 7 days, there were 10 "saying" (commandment) for the world to be created.

          It was the power of words, the meaning of them, that G-d said that created the world.

          Powerful thoughts eh?

          Words + Meaning Behind Them + Action = Creation.

          Originally Posted by DavidJohntClair View Post

          Absolutely fundamental and so often underestimated. Power of language, how you communicate and also direct and use your inner dialogues as allies.

          During my time as assistant trainer of Richard Bandler during his trainer trainings we loved to combine NLP patterns with D.H.E. (Design Human Engeneering)enhancement to speed up positive change even more.

          Remember the huge impact presuppositions can have on your life. Take an assumption as a given and direct your experience and thoughts in the way you want them to.

          By the way:

          Did you guys know that your communication skills improve with each and every post you read in this thread?

          Recently started a free video series on power talk at youtube - maybe this also adds value to you guys!

          take care

          David John and many thanks for sharing
          David John, WOW! I would love to connect with you furthermore as a human being and as a NLP Trainer.

          You definitely have a lot of experience under your own right and being a student/assistant of Bandler.

          Please do connect with me on Facebook (your link seems broken):

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          Curious, how is our communication improving with each post we read?

          And please do share with us your Power Talks here.

          SIDE NOTE: Many talk about using 'experience' as leverage for change. A unpleasant event, a tragic incident, whatever it is, one should use it as "leverage for change".

          Tony Robbins talks about using pain and pleasure as a motivator to move forward.

          It sure does work.

          The one thing I would suggest is to "pile up" the pain.

          EXAMPLE: Those who want to quit smoking. I am sure there have been many times that they wanted to stop smoking. I am sure they experience an event that caused to say "never again" but only to go about it again. They may have seen a loved one die from lung cancer (due to smoking). They said "never again". But sadly, it was again.

          A few months later something else caused them to say "never again" but again it is.

          And so the patterns continue.

          What I suggest is have the person experience ALL the events at once in their mind. Have them see, hear and feel what it is they experienced then and keep piling it up until there is an ultimate "never again".

          Each one alone may not have been strong enough but together can create positive change.

          Originally Posted by Andrew Skelly View Post

          My pleasure!
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  • Profile picture of the author kbayer63
    Totally awesome thread... the power of the word is exemplified in the book of John, emphasizing that the "word" is the seed of... well... everything.
    John 1

    The Word Became Flesh

    1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. 2 He was with God in the beginning. 3 Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. 4 In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. 5 The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome[a] it.
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    "Give a man a fish, feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and he'll sit in a boat all day and drink beer."

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    • Profile picture of the author DavidJohntClair
      Absolutely fundamental and so often underestimated. Power of language, how you communicate and also direct and use your inner dialogues as allies.

      During my time as assistant trainer of Richard Bandler during his trainer trainings we loved to combine NLP patterns with D.H.E. (Design Human Engeneering)enhancement to speed up positive change even more.

      Remember the huge impact presuppositions can have on your life. Take an assumption as a given and direct your experience and thoughts in the way you want them to.

      By the way:

      Did you guys know that your communication skills improve with each and every post you read in this thread?

      Recently started a free video series on power talk at youtube - maybe this also adds value to you guys!

      take care

      David John and many thanks for sharing
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  • Profile picture of the author Vic Carrara
    Purely as an amusing aside, when my children were younger I would always ask my children "do you want two or three vegetable portions with your dinner" ... Of course the choice was two ... reducing their choice and getting my healthy way.

    And when they were introduced to a "new food", I asked them to add "yet" to the end of their sentence "I don't like this ... "

    Today they eat everything!

    Great thread, and video!
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    • Profile picture of the author Roy Naim
      Originally Posted by Vic Carrara View Post

      Purely as an amusing aside, when my children were younger I would always ask my children "do you want two or three vegetable portions with your dinner" ... Of course the choice was two ... reducing their choice and getting my healthy way.

      And when they were introduced to a "new food", I asked them to add "yet" to the end of their sentence "I don't like this ... "

      Today they eat everything!

      Great thread, and video!
      Fantastic example Vic of what is called "Positive Parenting".

      It is giving a child choices of what to do and within your frame.

      Children, no matter how old they are, just don't like to be told what to do, especially from their parents.

      I, till today, everytime Mom tells me to put on a coat, I get this feeling of "rebellion" and do not put on a coat, unless of course I want to.

      The way you are doing it, you are giving choices that are within your frame which is allowing them to feel they are in control.

      John Grinder, co-founder of NLP said, "One choice is no choice, two choices is a dilemma, and three (or more) choices is choice."

      And in addition to providing choices, you are presupposing that they will eat...or do whatever it is they should be doing.

      Instead of saying "How come you never help me?!?!?", one can say "when are you available to help out?"

      Call it whatever you want. Presupposition. Reframing. Choices.

      It works.
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      • Profile picture of the author Vic Carrara
        Originally Posted by roynaim View Post

        Fantastic example Vic of what is called "Positive Parenting".

        It is giving a child choices of what to do and within your frame.

        Children, no matter how old they are, just don't like to be told what to do, especially from their parents.

        I, till today, everytime Mom tells me to put on a coat, I get this feeling of "rebellion" and do not put on a coat, unless of course I want to.

        The way you are doing it, you are giving choices that are within your frame which is allowing them to feel they are in control.

        John Grinder, co-founder of NLP said, "One choice is no choice, two choices is a dilemma, and three (or more) choices is choice."

        And in addition to providing choices, you are presupposing that they will eat...or do whatever it is they should be doing.

        Instead of saying "How come you never help me?!?!?", one can say "when are you available to help out?"

        Call it whatever you want. Presupposition. Reframing. Choices.

        It works.
        ... well I had the advantage of having enjoyed some NLP trainings myself. Would love them to have as many advantages and tools as they can as they grow, so doing my best to instill some "tricks of the trade" while they are still listening to me!
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        • Profile picture of the author Roy Naim
          Originally Posted by Vic Carrara View Post

          ... well I had the advantage of having enjoyed some NLP trainings myself. Would love them to have as many advantages and tools as they can as they grow, so doing my best to instill some "tricks of the trade" while they are still listening to me!

          That is awesome Vic! Just noticed that you are from the UK so the training is plentiful there (and often has the presence of Richard Bandler himself).

          And indeed, if we are training in it, we might as well use it eh?

          And you are right there, NLP is a tool and an answer to many things. It may not be THE answer but it very well may be an answer. For me, I will train in many subjects and find the best practices and use them for the benefit of myself and others.

          Who did you train by?
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          • Profile picture of the author Vic Carrara
            Originally Posted by roynaim View Post

            Who did you train by?
            Well I've done a few ...

            Practitioner with McKenna Breen (doesn't exist now), with Richard, Paul McKenna and Michael Breen. Great to "feel" those three, but with 200+ other people in the hall ... so,

            Practitioner with Tina Taylor and Nick Kemp ...about 10 people!

            Master Prac with Tina and Nick ...

            Then various other short courses inclusing a great one on Hypnotism and a Native American Spirit Quest (?) with Doug O'Brien.

            Nick and Tina then asked me to assist at their trainings, which was a great experience.

            Plus Frank Farrelly Provocative Therapy course which really appeals!

            Body-Mind Therapeutic Massage; Paganism; Buddhism; ... generally I'm fascinated about how we choose to use our minds ... an on-going journey!
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  • Profile picture of the author sethczerepak
    God, you said a mouthful there.

    People underestimate the power of their words, to do good or to do ill. Talk certainly isn't cheap, our words are the seeds we plant, we need to always be mindful of what it is we're planting.
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    • Profile picture of the author Roy Naim
      Originally Posted by sethczerepak View Post

      God, you said a mouthful there.

      People underestimate the power of their words, to do good or to do ill. Talk certainly isn't cheap, our words are the seeds we plant, we need to always be mindful of what it is we're planting.
      Hey Seth (it is Seth ya?).

      Is me saying a "mouthful there" a good thing or a bad thing? Hehe.

      Amen to what you said!

      Our words are the seeds to the experience one may be experiencing.

      In hypnosis and truth be told any coach who is good, will start "seeding" the suggestion of change way before the actual "session". Or to put it this way, the session begins with the rapport building because you are seeding the suggestions throughout the time you spend together.
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    It is always prefer to use concrete words in an event to a verbiage speech. What words u use really highlight ur personality. So beware about that.
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    • Profile picture of the author Roy Naim
      Originally Posted by GlobalMedia View Post

      It is always prefer to use concrete words in an event to a verbiage speech. What words u use really highlight ur personality. So beware about that.
      Hey.

      Can you explain what you mean by concrete words v. verbiage speech?

      And yes, the words you use can definitely allow the identity to shine through (though I would check in and see if the person is meaning the same thing I think they mean).
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    • Profile picture of the author Vic Carrara
      Originally Posted by GlobalMedia View Post

      It is always prefer to use concrete words in an event to a verbiage speech. What words u use really highlight ur personality. So beware about that.
      ... as do the words your write ...
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