Are "positive people" real?

Unless you're on something you can't e positive 100% . Everyone has their bad days, positive people just don't let that affect them 2 much but sometimes the hit is more then one can take .

Interesting question.

Some people's “positivity” (I think) is something of a facade.

I consider myself to be a positive person and I am one because I chose to be. I'm so much more happier because of it. : ) I'd rather be happy and positive than being a millionaire. You can’t enjoy life when you have a negative attitude.

I've noticed that “every day people” can be very negative. However that's probably what happens when they don't accomplish what's important to them (or learn to be happy with what they have.)

The term “positive thinking” has something of a negative connotation. For me it’s an important part of being successful. And I love it. : )

I think you need to surround yourself with "motivated" people.... And this is possible although very hard to find.

You're attitude will influence others..

Define Negative and positive. What may be positive to one person may be negative for another and vice versa. It's all a mater of perspective. When it comes to financial success it's really a matter of what we believe about having money and what strategies we use to get it. People are not automatically rewarded with all kinds of riches just for thinking positively. Positive thinking is a good thing but it's how effectively we use our brains to get what we want that really counts.

Positive people are definitely real. My best friend is such an optimist it's incredible. He's not just a "glass is half full" kind of guy, but a "glass is half full, but a little rain can make it go all the way" kind of guy.

In my world, it makes a huge difference in my circle of influence to be surrounded with like-kind people: happy and optimistic.

I am happy and have a positive outlook. I am one who sees the glass is half full, not half empty.

Would you rather be in the company of someone who complains a lot, has a negative "can't do" attitude or someone who does not complain, or complains very little, and has a "can do" attitude?

Ironic - I just blogged about this issue today, on how it is important to control your circle of influence.

I find that there are people who are genuinely happy and their attitude is contagious. I also find the opposite to be true, the negativity, talking about the gloom and doom and it consumes you and soon you too will take on the same emotions.

Positive people is too much of a general term as you said what you need to find is positive and successful people in the specific area you're trying to change. These are the people you'll learn from.

Positive is: looking for the good in a given situation.

Postive is not: looking at a garden with weeds growing in it and saying "there are no weeds." Of course there are weeds, and if you don't deal with them, they will choke out the flowers in your garden.

So my challlenge to you is to ask the following question in every situation (even when things look desperate): "What is good about this situation?"

You may be suprised at the answer you get!

I think it depends on what you mean by "positive people"

are "positive people" the type of people who talk theres "pie in the sky" and everything will be just fine no matter what you do


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are "positive people" the type of people who are able to understand exactly all angles of a situation and yet only talk and think about progress, prosperity, happiness and ways to create progress, prosperity, and happiness even if the current situation is nothing of the such.


the "act like there's no weeds in the garden approach" does not work in life.

But the "cry and complain about the weeds approach" does not work also.

The people you surround yourself should be the people who follow the "yeah there weeds in my garden but I'm happy picking them out every day so I can have a clean productive garden"

Positive people are real, but a person without any darkness in his past or future that has changed that even for a split second is not real.

Positive people are definitely real and I personally think that I am one of them. This doesn't mean that I don't have days when I can sometimes feel low, you need the lows to be able to appreciate the highs but it means that I don't dwell on the negatives and can see a silver lining with every cloud. I try and stay clear of negative people as they have such a holding power and can rapidly change an atmoshpere.

I guess I have always been a positive person maybe because of the situations I was dealt with in life, it was either sit and moan or get on with life. It was only a few years ago that I decided to work on myself, after reading The Secret, The Law of Attraction and other such books (which by the way does not mean someone isn't successful if they read these - I may not be the best business person but the amount of real love I get from my friends and family, I see that as a huge success! You obviously still have to take action). I also attended positive thinking classes and did meditation and I swear after the classes I felt like I was walking on the moon.

I think remaining positive is something that you feel but being positive also spurs you on to keep trying - that's how I got to where I am and you know what I like it, so am going to stick with it

If you are looking for a forum to visit, I often go to Steve Pavlina's Forum, it's called 'Personal Development for Smart People', I also like to visit 'The Secret' website on occasions and read everyone's success stories - that really makes me buzz!

Positive people are real, though they are facing so many problems they stay firm and don't panic to get the situation solved.

I never considered myself to be a positive person, whatever that is. I would say that I try to be balanced. Everything can't be good all the time.

People with a good vibe or great positive disposition is good to be with most especially if you're down and you want to feel better... But then again keep in mind that optimistic people are not always seeing the whole picture. So if you are about to come up with a decision it is better to be with realists.

I think of myself as an extremely positive person even though some people around me think of me as negative. I see where I am, where I want to be, and how to get there. I do not ignore problems in the least bit I hit them head on and as hard as i possible can.

You need positive people around you. Negative people can only take away. They will tell you every reason your plan wont work. A positive person will see what wont work and will instead tell you everything needed to make it work

I would suggest that you run in the other direction away from negative people. Also, try not to judge people, but understand if something negative is attracted to you that part of that is you as like attracts like.

Do the above and eventually you will start to notice that positive people are drawn to you.

Finding positive people isn't hard but it has to start from you. If you cannot think positive you can never be surrounded with positive people. Believe in yourself and everything will go the way you want it to be. Good Luck!

I started in a similar situation as you. And I also know that same feeling of suddenly uncovering more of other people's negatives in the beginning, when you start adopting positive thinking. It makes you feel lonely as it seemes the world is plagued with "negative people" everywhere and you can't escape it.

I also believe in the law of attraction and all that stuff but what it really boiled down to after much research and "thirst" for understanding "myself" was this...

Everyone has their own general perception of reality because everyone lives their own experiences and develops their own habits and system of beliefs from the moment they enter this world and start gaining a higher degree of consciousness.

Your environment, and the people you grow up with influence your beliefs which you can carry into adulthood. You "program" yourself as you grow up through your subconscious.

Going even deeper...What most people don't realize is that they have "creative power" this means that because you are a unique self-conscious "being" you can take control of your own life and be able to steer it in the direction you want.

Positive thinking is just part of having the ability to steer it in that direction, but you must also take action. You are not trying to look or be happy every second which is impossible but you do want to tip the scale and also focus on creating solutions instead of the problem.

As you start understanding yourself better and seeking more and more understanding, then everything else starts making more sense. You start to realize that you are your best or worst motivator and can choose to steer in the direction you want your life to be like or just act happy and do nothing about it.

Depending on what you value, and what you want to create for yourself you will seek it and as you take action it will start coming to you. Realize that negative thinking is more of a waste of time and energy but you can't make it go away because we also learn from that.

Just tip the scale in favor of what you want to see and experience more of. Associating with those who motivate you, see good in you, are optimistic, and action takers. It's a good start, then move on to those who have achieved more than you to reach the next level.

One of the best investments ever is to invest in yourself, your own understanding. Armed with better knowledge and understanding of becoming more self-conscious will allow you to have more clarity in understanding the "laws of attraction, positive thinking, success, and all that stuff."

Im an totally positive person with good energy
I hope i exist or maybe im just transcendent..

Of course they are but sometimes we can encounter positive people but deep inside they are not. But if you really know about that person through his attitude and achievement you can really appreciate who really he is.

Your predominant state of being, will determine whether you are positive or not, but no one is 100% positive all the time. Without the negative feelings, we can't have the positive feelings.

I think everybody is in a bad mood from time to time. The key is to know how to overcome your bad moods and feelings and how to work them out. This is called emotional intelligence - knowing how to deal with your feelings and having empathy for others around you so you can understand them in a deeper way.

Positive people are not liars or anything like that (well some may be of course) but what I mean is, you don't have to lie or pretend to be like someone else in order to be positive. You just say no to the negativity when it arises.

As users have stated before, there is no intrinsically positive person. Everyone is bound to experience some negative emotions or thoughts. However, you should always attempt to change your emotions consciously in order to become positive. Adopting a positive mindset can provide much benefits to you; the amount of work I do has proliferated since adopting it.

Maybe we do not see emmediately the positive people around us, but definitely can feel the negative. Succesful people are Positive people, but I do not refer to the rich people. success is not necessary to be rich, is to be balanced in your life, and enjoy little things with the people that are around you.

Happy people who are broke and irresponsible? I used to know many people like these - but they were all potheads who later on realized they're in big trouble called LIFE.

Negative people who don't self improve but are successful? Seems to me like they didn't earn their position or else they'd be very much into self improvement, be it job improvement or any other kind.

Besides, success isn't the true meassure of life, nor is temporary happiness - the goal is to program yourself in a way that self improvement brings you the ultimate joy in life.

Simply assume a proper attitude and go about your own business, you'll be amazed at how fast you'll attract to you just the kind of people you want.

Speaking from experience,
Zannix

We are all interconnected and the mood of one ripples through to the mood of another. Positivity is very real; the key to success in life, really, is to act and feel as though you already have whatever it is you desire, and that happiness is a choice. Once you work on these things on a regular basis you will find them to be true. It's not about how other people act.. it's about you. Always.

Being positive is a state of mind and some of us are born with it while others have to work at it. If you what you really are looking for is to be happy, I suggest you do for you and no one else. Do the things that bring a smile to your face and do not over read you can go crazy. Take some things here and there and turn those into your positive habits.

Be careful what kind of positive people you hang out with. People that merely say positive things but their actions indicate otherwise can do you more harm than good.

I fell into the positive thinking fad a long time ago, in the 80's. I realized that pretending that something is positive when it's really not did more to bring me down than facing reality. After all, how can I feel good when I am lying to myself and I know it.

That's not to say being negative is the answer, far from it.
I am pragmatic in my thinking, I call it as it is, if something is bad, it is bad, I never put a spin on it and call it good.

Where a positive mind set comes in, and I have been living my life very successfully with that philosophy, is in knowing that whatever happens to you is not as important as what you do with what happens to you.

We see it all the time, the same thing can happen to two people, yet their reaction and outcome is completely different. WHY!

When positive things happen, rejoice and enjoy and be thankful.
When negative things happen, and they will happen, instead of dwelling on why it happened of what happened, start thinking of how to proceed with what happened to achieve the desired outcome.

Yes, sometimes there's no good out of situation, the only thing you can do is accept that it happened and move on.

If I had to choose between positive thinking and mental toughness, I take the latter without exception.

I think its all in how you deal with negative situations. They're going to happen. You're going to have bad days and annoying days and even tragedies. You just cant let it ruin your life and your momentum.

I'm a big believer in positive energy. So many people will try to stop you from reaching your goals. This is a big drain on your energy. One thing I like about the WF is all the people reaching for the same goals.

I'm a positive happy person and I'm living my dream life using the law of attraction. I've never been happier since I banished all negative thoughts. It's not easy at first but I've written a book about it all called Life is for Living available from Smashwords. If you want to learn more about the law of attraction visit my website smileforevermore.com, it's got lots of tips and info and even a LOA forum.

Just because someone is "positive" doesn't mean they don't have their down times or moments where they want to burst.

I consider myself very positive and I try my hardest to always stay in a positive mood. But when I went to a suicide prevention walk this weekend (Sept 8th with Out of the Darkness) there was one thing that stood out.

And that's that many people who are extremely depressed, might hide behind a facade of being positive.

I can tell you right now, I live through depression. I cry periodically, I struggle, I get angry, but that's apart of being human.

The thing is, why do we cry, why are we angry, etc.

I cry because I lost my brothers and other family members in the recent years. I'm angry because sometimes even though I'm positive, others are angry.

Surrounding yourself with other people who are positive, could be a good thing, but remember to be honest with yourself.

I even have friends that I felt were very positive, but I just talked to them directly and asked them if they were depressed.

Depression is a serious issue and should be treated quickly, even if it just means allowing them someone to vent to.

Hope that gives you a bit of feedback from a person who is positive, yet still lives through depression. It's a scary thing, but I love my life and I love everyone around me.

Everyone has their bad days, positive people just don't let that affect them 2 much but sometimes the hit is more then one can take

I think that there are many positive humans that are authentic and genuine, and of course they have complaints and gripes about life. However, I think that their positive outlook ultimately outweighs their negative feelings/thoughts/perspectives and that is what is the fundamental difference between someone who is positive and someone who is negative... their positiveness simply ultimately outweighs whatever negativity they feel/present.

Liz,

The solution is to get as absolutely clear as possible and as thorough as you can be
whenever you are getting ready to make a high gravity decision.

The best thing to do is to understand the worst and best case scenarios of your
decisions.

What you want to do is focus on the positive result and view it as an expectation - opposed to a negative result.

When you expect something is fuels your mind and gives you the extra capability
to push through towards your desired end result.

The opposite of expectation is "hoping". Don't hope for the result. Expect it.

Get super clear and aware about what you're doing and the possible ramifications about what you're doing.

Being positive is not a requirement for success.

It's simply a STRONG and USEFUL tool for achieving success. So I highly recommend focusing on the positive but still NOTICING the negative.

-Justin

Real is relative, especially with the time factor.

Obviously,be positive for every moment
and situation,I think it will help you to get success
so quickly.

I think it's hard to find someone who is positive all the time. Being humans, we are prone to negativity when life presents us with situations that we aren't too pleased with.

But in general, there are many "positive people", people who generally believe in the power of positivity and the benefits of such thinking. I believe that being positive isn't about being in denial of negative things.

Be positive about the big picture but be negative in the details. Let me give an example, I am positive that my holiday trip will be an awesome and fun adventure. But I have to be negative about getting pickpocketed, about getting my air flight delayed, about being cheated while in a foreign land.

These "negative" issues actually prepare me for such cases and what can I do when I run into them. You never want to assume everything will go well and nothing bad can happen, life happens, shit happens and when it does, you know you have done the necessary preparations for it. So I firmly believe that being positive and negative at the same time is actually possible and in reality, a better choice.

Positive people are out there. They're just hard to find if you don't know where to look. I have a group of friends: all of whom are exceptionally positive in nature, and I am too. We all agree that we tend to avoid negative people -- based on body posture, look on face, and the overall impression we get of the person from the way they speak, etc.

It's all an effort to protect that positive attitude that my close friends and I possess. So you'll have a hard time finding positive people who want to hang around you, unless you yourself have the same mindset.

It's a tough road, but ridding yourself of negativity is worth it.

Listen to some Tony Robbins and "change your state."

For God's sake - you think 'TOO' much hehehe ... enjoy yourself. One little negative remark isn't going to take you to hell -- I guess zen is saying Live in the world but not in it ..or something like that .. I enjoy your post.

In my experience 'overly positive' people often aren't being real. I do know a few genuine and realistic 'balanced' positive people.

In bad days, there might have something negative hidden in unconscious mind of the positive people. But their positive attitude wipes away those negative ideas. Ya, there obviously are positive people for real.

The most successful people in the world are those who maintain a positive outlook even as failures arise, and as a result, keep trying until they succeed. For this reason, yes I do think it is necessary to remain positive in order to become successful. However, not all "positive" people see "success" in the same way as other people. Studies have shown that the happiest people on the planet exist in cultures that don't put such great value on material things as we do here in North America. In fact, Buddhists maintain that to achieve "Nirvana" (ultimate happiness), you need to free yourself from all attachments, material and otherwise. There may be a lot of "successful" people who appear negative, but that is likely because psychologists have found that when you equate happiness with money, once you have reached a certain income level, you start to compare your life with the lives of those in similar income brackets or higher - and you're once again unhappy with what you have. Success, to me, is creating wealth as a means to an end in order to create freedom. And staying positive is most definitely the key to getting there, in my opinion.

It may be hard to be 100% positive, but one should strive to be nice. You never know what someone is going through.

It's more than just "being positive." It's staying motivated to achieve your Why in life and building a like-minded mastermind team of champions that encourage you to achieve your dreams.

A true "positive" person is one who can still be positive even if the situation is not so good, he is also one who can inspire people to be the best that they can be. If that "positive" person is a bum or a happy-go-lucky guy who doesn't know what he wants out of life then he isn't really a positive person. It's a good thing there are still people on this planet who are really "positive" people...they inspire greatness in others.

Positivity exists on a sliding scale, and we're all on that scale, somewhere. What you should be concerned about is what direction you are moving, rather than your exact point on it. Definitely thinking positively takes practice.. and of course.. when you are working on it specifically, you'll notice those lapses even more. Try not to dwell on them.

The best thing for a bad day is rolling up your sleeves and working on something you care about and can get some results with.

I think positive people are real. I like this kind of people. People who are positive can succeed in life easily. They do not suffer from lack of confidence.

Not all people are the same, There are people good in front of you and when you are not around they are talking against you. So I would say that not all positive people are real.

No one can be positive 100% of the time. However if someone tried, I would say it was disingenuous.

Everyone has their bad days. It is important to know how to overcome things that make you feel bad.