What Does It Mean To Be A Man?

Well I appreciate the advice. Thanks. : )

Fixed that for you.

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Completely different subjects.

I'm talking about myself here. I always take complete responsibility for everything that happens to me, or what I do. Why? Because it's the only way to control what happens to me.

For example, I weigh about 270 pounds. Some is muscle, but a lot is fat.

And recently, a relative told me "Well, your mother was heavy. It's your genes".

I said "No. I'm overweight because I eat four times what a normal person eats. That's why I'm fat. If I wanted to weigh less, I'd eat less".

The truth is, I do put on weight easily...and yes, most all my relatives (on my Mom's side) are fat. But if I ever say "Well you know...everyone in my family is fat. It's our genes"...that takes away any control I have....it makes me a victim.

Frankly, about 95% of the people in the world...think of themselves as the victim. They want other people (politicians mostly) to fix the entire world, so it makes them happier with their life. Every other thought begins with "They should..." But...what if "They" don't?

They see themselves as a victim, their small social group as a victim, their religion as a victim, their nationality as a victim, and so on. They want the world to adapt to them, rather than adapting to the world.

Maybe a few of these things are true to varying degrees. But if you allow yourself to see yourself as a victim, you are powerless. You have given away control of your life. You have lost. In fact, the only way to improve your lot in life is to assume that you are always the one to blame, the one that is responsible, the one that must take your own action.


Sure food is addictive. Sure drugs are addictive. Sure marketing makes us spend our money foolishly.

But not everyone is a drug addict, not everyone plays the lottery every day. Not everyone eats until they are sick. But we all see the same ads, the same marketing. How are these people different? They aren't, they just haven't given up control.

My earlier posts were just my personal observations and my own experience.

As far as what others do with their lives? I have no control over that.

I don't blame them for whatever happens in their lives. If they weight 350 pounds, I don't have to blame them. And I don't look down on them (any more than the way I fell about everyone).

But I don't have to be like them.

Sorry you didn't get the joke Odahh.
: )

Well princess . From what you have written on this forum you do respond violently to unwanted sexual attention .

So I am not surprised another woman . Waiting untill you are drunk to express sexual interest . Might end up with broken ribs

I hope you understand the joke princess .

Your son has a thought process? He must have inherited that from his mother....or his real father.

I'll take a guess that the other team being called the "Redskins" contributed to his thought process. Good thing he wasn't watching the Seahawks/Broncos game.

Thanks Odahh.

It's just what worked for me. Different People find different ways of growing and evolving. There's no "right" or "wrong" way. Sometimes People think their way is the only way or the best way. A quotation that I like is:

Again different People find other ways of progressing in Life. I have learned a lot in the past 10 years or so however I still have a long way to go.

My personal values ― some of which I'm good at and others that need work -- are: Love, joy, peace, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

No ― like I mentioned (twice) in my other post ... There are many ways a Person can learn and grow.

Lol. Well I appreciate most of our discussions: You're a cool Guy.

That's so Binary. There is a full spectrum of genders available. And in this way, we can all be special.

Except you.