I'm Done Being Your Doormat

Patricia, it gets to the point where you finally have to say...enough.

Looks like someone replied to one of his posts and it didn't begin with:
"wow great post"

Damn, I knew I should have looked for this vid.

Thanks Kim.

Rick, it's just the usual BS. I say something and somebody reads some deep
dark ulterior motive in it and starts accusing me of things.

Hey, it's one thing if I say something like, "I think xyz is a great promotional
method" and somebody says, "I strongly disagree, I think it sucks."

That's fine. But when I say something like, "I did this and this and as a result
I achieved xyz results and I feel that if everybody did that they'd get
better results" please don't come back at me with something stupid like...

"Why do you have to reply to every thread? Not everything is about you."

I mean, where the %#* does that even come from?

That's the kind of crap I'm tired of...people just looking for any reason at
all to rag on me. And it's the same people every day...2 years running.

After a while you just have to say...enough.

Steven -

I noticed a post you made today where you replied to someone and it sounded as if you took their post personally - and they weren't talking about you. It was in the thread of the young mother who feels guilty about Christmas and you posted

and when I read it, I thought "huh"?. He was talking about the person posting and you seemed to take it as being about you. You (and a couple others) were defending the OP against someone who saw the post as a scam. He was entitled to his opinion - we don't have to agree with him. To me, strongly defending someone you don't know is no different than bashing someone you don't know - either could be right....or wrong.

No matter how long anyone has been here - or how many questions they answer or threads they start, there will be those who disagree or who simply don't like them. Doesn't matter and there's no upside to getting upset at a less than complimentary post.

As a dealer in a casino I had to develop the skills to remain calm and non-defensive even when a (losing) customer became rude or obnoxious or made personally derogatory comments to me. If some of those people had known what I was thinking, they would probably have attacked me!

I convinced myself that if they didn't like me it was because they didn't know me well enough to know what a nice person I am. If a man became drunk or rude - in my mind I was thinking "could be worse, could be married to him". For a loud woman it might be "many reasons not to marry HER son" or "those b**bs must have cost a fortune"....and I was able to keep smiling.

What people say about you or to you is out of your control - how you respond to it is up to you. You can't argue with someone who won't argue back - and refusal to acknowledge or defend against "attacking" comments leaves those comments out there on their own swinging in the wind.

kay

What are you doing on here (the WF) so late, AG?

Hey girlie-q - what are you doing here?

You should be baking cookies for Santa. Don't you know that?

Yeh, he's-a-coming-across-the sky-now, he might be hovering over your hood as we speak, Yo.

Santa knows, you know. His nose knows. Does he smell chocolate chip? Oatmeal? Wow! Gingerbread!

Yes, Little HomeGirl, and don't think it doesn't influence what he leaves for you!

You know the way to a mans heart is through his stomach and in Santa's case it is a big tubby stomach. So don't be stingy - double up on everything. Like Double Super Chocolate Chunks.

You need to get your ducks in a row here, Ms. Valerie Sonora and stop wasting time here in the WF Asylum.

Anyway not much of a song but thought I better pay some attention to you or you will tell Santa to leave me some coal.

So you have a very very merry Christmas and I hope you wake up tomorrow and know you are so blessed!

take care and have a fun time and FORGET ABOUT THE DIET FOR ONE DAY.

hugs from rainy, cold, now windy, (it was just summer a few weeks ago) Northern California.

TTYS

Sal, Steve is actually a great contributor to this forum... not like some people I know (and I'm somewhat guilty of this myself) that just login to spout off useless, non-marketing garbage.

This is a marketing forum, and Steve is a great piece of it. He sounds like he had a bad day. He'll get over it. Maybe you should too...

That's pretty handy then.
I can point out your slip ups without you whining back.

Hi Michael. Don't mind me I am real defensive. Actually hyper-vigilant at times. You wouldn't know because we usually agree (same side of the fence): we don't disagree now, but it was 'something you said' lol.

Although I have had a decade in first-level-tech-support it was always at a corporate level (where people have to be professional/civil, if not polite). My first foray into the public on the retail level - the internet 'street' ,for the past 3 years being in online 'member support', OK Here it comes - the point:

I am viciously attacked from off the wall almost daily. People are incredibly - it's more than rude - it is INSANE! MALEVOLENT! In need of medication. Just for small stuff - and 99% ending up to be their error or mistake/misunderstanding (or their email client).

HENCE IF anyone EVER GETS SURLY CUSTOMER SUPPORT "how rude a customer service rep was" -

I AM A MIRROR - IF THEY SPEAK TO ME RUDELY, I WILL ANSWER IN THE SAME TONE. (hehe or i may be reeling from a recent conflagration - adrenalin = shaking- ) so even more so. 'Do NOT put on any airs when you are down on Rumarque Avenue' LEST YOU KICK OVER A HORNET'S NEST.

I am here to help them and I love to - but people need to watch their tone and don't come in with an accusation as to the cause of any of their problems -- JUST ASK FOR HELP AND I WILL DO MY BEST.

yes i will take cheese with my whine. thanks.

thanks stephen i borrowed some whine.

Patricia, we've known each other for a while now and whether you know
it or not, I have the utmost respect for you.

I have no illusions about the fact, yes fact, that I can come off as a
"know it all" at times. It comes from having a lot of confidence in your
abilities to help others. I will make no apologies for that as that has been
and always will be my reasons for being here...that and to build my
reputation as a successful marketer that people can learn from.

This is a marketing forum, so I make no apologies for that either. So I
realize with that will come the slings and arrows.

A while back I asked about how to promote a book on gambling that I
was thinking of writing.

I was brutally told under no uncertain terms by many members here that
my idea was bad and that they would lose a lot of respect for me if I
went ahead with it.

I took this criticism to heart (it was one of the most vicious threads I
was ever involved in as it cost me a few friends) and ultimately gave up
the idea.

But when one person continually finds fault with every word that comes
out of your mouth, I find it hard to believe that the problem is with me,
especially when it's ONE person.

He claims there are others. Fine, I'd like to hear them.

Regardless, I realized something today when I went to my inlaws for
Christmas.

My father in law recently had a stroke and shingles all at the same time.
Right now, he is barely able to walk and trying to regain the use of his
right arm.

Suddenly, a member of this forum thinking I'm a pompous ass just wasn't
that important anymore.

I have chosen to ignore Les's remarks, literally, thanks to Paul's suggestion
to put him on my ignore list. He is the only member of this forum who is
on that list, even though I have had disagreements with others here.

See, I'm not above admitting when I'm wrong. When I screw up, I'll come
here and publicly apologize for doing it. I've done it many times. I'm not
perfect. I never will be. And there will always be people who hate me to
go along with those who like me.

It's the constant harassment for every word that comes out of my mouth,
going on for 2 years now, that I finally just couldn't take anymore and
that's why I snapped.

So okay, I'm human. I let it get to me. I make no apologies for that either.

After all, 2 years is a long time to have to listen to it.

But it's all over now. I've finally come to terms with this situation that
will never change and thus I'll never see another line of text coming from
this person's keyboard.

I think it's best for everybody that it stays that way.

To the rest of you, I'm sorry that you had to see that I'm human. Yeah,
I get mad when people constantly harass me.

It won't happen again....because I won't let it.

I guess this is my way of asking for forgiveness for making this problem
public. I should have handled it privately. I didn't. I can't go back.

Anyway, that's all I have.

Thanks for listening.

I'm now going to go back to reading Paul Myers latest book.

So true. Yet again, Steven rocks!

Patricia, I am by no means the walking Messiah or Mr. Perfect, but when
somebody has not one nice thing to say to you in 2 years, you have to
start to think that maybe the problem is with the person doing the bitching.

Me neither. I am almost incapable of being mean! But I still want to yell at you and air all of my grievances to you. Sounds fun By the way once time there was this really rude customer service person on the phone once, was that you??

Seems to me that a well-aimed shot should take care of most of life's little annoyances. Like this guy did in a movie theater because someone was talking.

Man Shot For Talking During Benjamin Button Movie Screening